Love does not depend on the stamp in your passport. Therefore, when choosing a partner, a person is rarely interested in the marital status of the chosen one. Sometimes the bonds of marriage bind one of the lovers, but it happens that both partners have already managed to start a family. What pushes people to cheat? What are the distinctive features of the relationship between a married man and a married woman? Can they be happy? Let's try to answer several fundamentally important questions.
An affair between married people outside of marriage
The relationship between spouses undergoes changes with each new year of marriage: from the phase of intense love to mature conscious love. Not every marriage can go through relationship phases that bring pleasure and personal fulfillment to the spouses.
Often, after a few years, a husband and wife begin to doubt the correctness of their choice of a life partner. For some, dissatisfaction with the family remains unexpressed, while others solve the problem in a different way: having an affair on the side.
An affair between a married man and a married woman is an attempt by people to take advantage of a second chance. When meeting with a person in an equal position, lovers easily understand the problems and needs of the chosen one. Such meetings renew feelings, inspire, and allow you to reevaluate your views on family and marriage.
Recommendations if a married woman falls in love with a married man
In this situation, it is necessary to understand that both partners are in an equal position. Adviсe:
- Respect his personal space, then he will take care of yours too.
- Set boundaries and agreements – when and where meetings are scheduled, how communication will take place.
- Take care of your family and value it above all else - lovers can change, but children will always remain.
- Don't get involved with your spouse's friend/colleague, this will lead to the connection being quickly revealed.
- Hide your emotions in front of your husband. If he is attentive, he will notice the shine of his eyes, increased attention to appearance, and a loving smile when reading an SMS.
- Make sure you have a good alibi. This could be a club you go to with a friend. A great option is going to the gym 3 times a week.
- Label gifts, but don't hide them. Tell us about your mother’s birthday present or your own purchase with the bonus you received.
- Correspondence and calls - only at work using a company computer/phone. No personal gadgets.
- Wash away the smell of men's perfume and the aroma of aftershave lotion.
Reasons for cheating with an unfree partner
Since both lovers are legally married, they are in the same position. When deciding to start a relationship, they are guided by:
- Confidence in your partner. Married lovers and mistresses understand each other's desires and needs much faster than people who are not burdened with a family. They can become not only romantic partners for their loved ones, but also friends and allies.
- Desire to try new things. Cheating with an unfree lover is an atypical romance that causes a strong emotional shock. The desire to re-experience a surge of positive emotions associated with new impressions attracts lovers and encourages them to continue the relationship in order to experience previously unfamiliar sensations. Also, a forbidden connection causes a surge of adrenaline, the feeling of danger is intoxicating and alluring.
- Additional guarantee. The presence of official spouses among lovers complicates the development of relationships, but ensures that lovers have an additional anchor that keeps them from committing radical actions that could harm their reputation.
Relationships that develop between unfree people solve two problems at the same time: they give a positive emotional charge and relieve them of the obligations that accompany other types of love relationships.