It was so difficult with my first child that I was afraid to give birth to a second one. The story of one mother

The baby is one month old: “I will never give birth again!”

The child is one year old: “It’s so hard, how do women cope with two?!”

The child is three years old: “What a cute baby sleeps in the stroller, I want a second one!”

Such thoughts probably visit every second girl, but is the fear of having a second child justified and how to overcome it if you dream of a large and friendly family?

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Motherhood as a feat

No one prepares the mother of her first child for the difficulties of pregnancy, childbirth, and the first year of a child’s life; she herself follows an unbeaten path, where there are many “bumps” and “holes.” After such a “baptism of fire”, it seems that you will never set foot in this river again!

But here’s the paradox: time passes, and you increasingly look at babies and imagine how your children read books together at night, race to finish porridge, or fall asleep in a hug. And the first-born himself keeps hinting at a new addition to the family, leaving his peers crying on the playground. What to do? Give the world a little life again, especially since it will only bring benefits for your firstborn!

The more children there are in a family, the more sociable, relaxed and cheerful the child grows. Brothers and sisters learn from each other so quickly that no super developmental technique will be more effective. Children in a large family are simply HAPPY children, because only adults think about difficulties!

What are you afraid of? Be honest with yourself. You shouldn’t dismiss it with the generally accepted “we can’t handle it.” These excuses are suitable for annoying relatives who think that it’s time for you to get a second one.

It’s worth finding YOUR fear, boldly looking it in the eye, and... driving it away! If you can already imagine how you feel the kicks in your tummy again, how you rock your baby and sing a lullaby, how you kiss tiny fingers, then you really want to become a mother again. Why deny yourself such happiness?

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How I was terrified of giving birth and who helped me

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The first half of my pregnancy, I was very worried solely because of the pregnancy itself. Therefore, the thought of giving birth didn’t bother me much then, because it wasn’t too soon.

In the second half, all sorts of thoughts began to creep into my head. But as soon as a wave of fear rolled over me, I strictly followed the precepts of Scarlett O'Hara, who never tired of repeating: “I'll think about it tomorrow.” So I kept transferring these experiences to tomorrow. However, this very tomorrow, no matter how much you put it off, was inexorably approaching.

I was seized with even greater horror and panic. For two days in a row I just cried. One and the other parents could neither calm me down nor bring me to my senses. I remembered all the negative stories I knew, including deaths.

But in general, I was so busy that I had no time for all these experiences. I worked, as they say, until victory. I went on maternity leave just before the New Year, to the clink of glasses and mass congratulations. And just as January passed the halfway point, everything happened for me. But during this short period of social isolation and idleness, I had enough fear that it’s scary to even imagine. It hit me on New Year's holidays. And so much so that it seems that I completely experienced all these fears put off “for tomorrow” during the holiday week.

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Throughout my pregnancy, as my doctors said, I didn’t read anything, but if something happened, I called them. And for all my complaints or suspicions I received clear, qualified recommendations and a dose of reassurance. But then I was already drawn to the Internet. Without thinking twice, I started typing into search engines something like “prenatal depression”, “what to do if you’re scared to give birth”, etc. Colorful descriptions of this physiological process were briefly reduced to the following set of characteristics: “This is f*ck ”, “I almost died”, “This is the worst thing that could happen to me”, “I will never give birth to a second one”, “Next time only a caesarean section”, etc., etc. Some shared their impressions in detail from watching a documentary about childbirth. And then the sacred meaning of the anecdotal phrase “I changed my mind about giving birth” came to me.

After all this, I was overcome with even greater horror and panic. For two days in a row I just cried. One and the other parents could neither calm me down nor bring me to my senses. I remembered all the negative stories I knew, including deaths. In general, I drove not only myself into hysterics, but also everyone around me.

Someone told me, calm down, nature has provided for everything, don’t read anything, don’t watch anything, you’ll figure it out. But for me, even a planned visit to any doctor means incredible stress. If a doctor examines my tests for more than two seconds, hundreds of scenarios for the development of events with a negative outcome unfold in my head at the speed of particles of a hadron collider. If they tell me “lie down,” I definitely need to know why. And the phrase “relax” without any additional explanation blocks all parts of my body. And until it understands what they are going to do with it, there will be no “relax” time. In general, in my fear of the upcoming event, I was like a tribal native who saw his reflection in the mirror for the first time. He was panicky and stupid from complete ignorance of how everything really happened. So in this case, the “you’ll figure it out” option definitely didn’t suit me.

When my ability to adequately perceive information began to return, I suddenly remembered that back in December I signed up for free courses on preparing for childbirth with a local psychologist from a residential complex. To be honest, I didn’t expect anything like this, but I like to sign up everywhere and get in line, just in case. Well, since I didn’t really have any other options for normalizing my state of mind, I gathered my last will and went to replenish my knowledge regarding childbirth. Moreover, no one else wanted to talk to me about this topic.

Contrary to the skeptical “Oh, everything will be forgotten when it comes to it,” I can say that no, it has not been forgotten. When we arrived at the maternity hospital, I was breathing actively and conscientiously, as taught, which greatly amused the reception room. To my silent bewilderment, the health workers said that it is not often that such prepared women in labor come to them.

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I already knew the psychologist Elena Vladimirovna, who taught these courses - at the beginning of pregnancy we were all sent to her to “talk”. I went obediently - in general, then the woman gave me a lot of practical advice and told me about my worldview no worse than any psychic. Among other things, she herself had four children, of which she gave birth to the first child herself, the second with stimulation, and the final twins through a caesarean section. That is, as you understand, the person has tried out the entire range of basic methods of childbirth, which significantly increased the credibility of her. In addition, she is a practicing perinatal psychologist - helping women during childbirth.

Our classes began with revealing problem areas. In my case it was unbridled fear. Elena Vladimirovna listened carefully to all of us and built the training program in such a way as to work out our points. And considering that there were only four of us, she managed to devote quite a lot of time to everyone.

Over the course of several sessions, the psychologist debunked a dozen myths: we learned that the miraculous epidural anesthesia is not so miraculous, that the child sleeps during labor and does not suffer, as everyone around us fears, that contractions are not constant pain and not always hellish, which was a revelation for me personally. At the same time, they did not try to sell us the idea that contractions are “pleasant” and “not painful at all.” It’s just that Elena Vladimirovna was able to form an objective idea of ​​​​this process, putting everything in order and explaining how to properly spend energy and replenish strength between contractions. And we replaced the word “contractions” with “waves” to remove this frightening and alarming rhetoric.

We also breathed a lot - we trained our breathing for contractions and pushing. Trained and reinforced. They took positions that could relieve pain. We even had a full meditation session, where we were able to relax as much as possible and let go of our negative thoughts and worries.

In general, of course, I will no longer retell in scientific language everything that we went through there. But this was not an end in itself. I do not pretend to have a scientific degree in this field at all. It was important for me to calm down my inner fear and understand what awaited me. As a result, after several lessons I formed a fairly clear and logical idea of ​​how THIS happens. And at the same time, the fear receded a little. Of course, he didn't leave completely, and that's okay. As they told me at the music school before the reporting concerts: “Only children and fools are not afraid.” But this fear has ceased to be panic when you cannot adequately perceive any information.

The goal was achieved, all that remained was to wait for the moment to apply all this knowledge in practice. And contrary to the skeptical “Oh, everything will be forgotten when it comes to it,” I can say that no, it has not been forgotten. When we arrived at the maternity hospital, I was breathing actively and conscientiously, as taught, which greatly amused the reception room. To my silent bewilderment, the health workers said that it is not often that such prepared women in labor come to them. My exercises turned out to be very contagious, and within 5 minutes I was able to train a couple more patients. They also pleased my doctor - I was breathing all the time. And she did it the way she was taught. The midwife could only adjust me a little along the way.

As for the contractions, the psychologist turned out to be right: during those very breaks I became a completely sane person. At these moments, the midwife and I managed to exchange the latest news, tell short stories from our lives - in general, we did our best to engage in small talk. No, I didn't feel any pain. It was painful and even very painful. But the most important thing is that I understood what exactly was happening to me and could assess whether what was happening to me at the moment was normal. This gave me strength to become higher and stronger than this pain.

But I’m not a superhero at all - at the finish line I was almost consumed by panic. This was all, of course, comparable to theory, but, to put it mildly, reality exceeded all expectations. At this most crucial moment, when there was nowhere to retreat and I needed to gather myself for the final push, some unimaginable miracles began to happen to my body, and my brain was simply paralyzed. I did not hear or understand what the doctor and midwife were telling me. I just saw how their lips moved and could not understand what was required of me. It was as if I had flown into space. I don’t know what would have happened next if the correct algorithm of actions had not appeared from the depths of the subconscious. It was as if I had emerged from the depths of the water and finally breathed deeply. At the same time, the ability to perceive human speech and follow the instructions of doctors returned.

Without understanding the essence of what was happening, I would most likely rush around like a wounded animal in a cage, with shortness of breath and attacks of panic attack, which could greatly harm the process. Therefore, if you are scared as much as I was scared, don’t read forums, don’t turn to amateurs, don’t listen to your friends who talk in vivid colors about the hell they’ve been through, don’t try on their experience for yourself.

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So what do I want to say to all of this? Of course, every birth is unique. There are, of course, difficult cases, and very difficult ones. But panic and an uncontrollable feeling of fear, neither in easy nor in difficult childbirth, have ever helped anyone. And I am absolutely sure that if these random courses had not happened in my life, everything would have gone according to a completely different scenario. Without understanding the essence of what was happening, I would most likely rush around like a wounded animal in a cage, with shortness of breath and attacks of panic attack, which could greatly harm the process. Therefore, if you are scared as much as I was scared, don’t read forums, don’t turn to amateurs, don’t listen to your friends who talk in vivid colors about the hell they’ve been through, don’t try on their experience for yourself. But under no circumstances be left alone with your fear. Don’t count on chance and “we’ll figure it out.” Look for a qualified psychologist (preferably with children) or an experienced doula, take courses, and in the end, find an adequate and experienced person in this matter who will not scare you, but will become a motivator and mentor for you. And it is desirable that it is still one specific person, and not a crowd of advisers with conflicting opinions, which will confuse you completely and irrevocably.

Housing problem

“How I want a daughter, and my husband is asking for a second one, but the mortgage is nipping all our dreams in the bud! We’ve only been paying for two years, and there’s another eight to go. With two children it will be a bit cramped in a one-room apartment. If only we had a bigger apartment, I’d already give birth to my second, and maybe even my third!” — says young mother Tatyana Nesterova. And she is not alone in her thoughts.

When is the best time to plan a second pregnancy?

Are you sure that one day you will be able to buy a huge apartment with panoramic windows and a flower garden on the balcony? If not, is it worth postponing the birth of a second child for the sake of ghostly meters? If so, how can a baby prevent you from getting a spacious home? Just think how lucky your firstborn is, he has a loving mom and dad, and he doesn’t even know that he needs his own room. PARENTS need it, but he, on the contrary, wants to always be near you.

How to solve a problem?

• Get on the waiting list to expand your living space or take advantage of social support programs.
• Collect all financial reserves, receive maternity capital, and buy your home with a mortgage. She, of course, “bites”, but you can’t live in a rented apartment all your life.
• Take advantage of a mortgage with government support. By the way, the program has been extended until the end of this year and helps save a tidy sum.
• Buy land and start building a large family “nest”.
• If it is not possible to expand your living space, then simply arrange your “nest” for two children.

Does a baby need that much space? In your heart, yes, but not in your apartment. Just a piece of your bed or a corner for a cradle. The baby will grow, but you won’t sit idly by either. Someday the children will definitely have their own room.

Psychological fears

“Will I love the second one as much as the first?”

- a question that worries absolutely every mother. Of course, it is difficult to imagine the emergence of a second center of the universe like the only child in the family now. Experts advise trusting your instincts - as soon as you take your youngest newborn in your arms, see how unnecessary these fears were, because love for your children is genetically embedded in a woman. Do you agree that before the birth of your first child, you also didn’t know what a strong wave of feelings would engulf you in relation to him?

“What if I love the younger child more than the older one, or vice versa?”

- and this is also unlikely. You will love the baby who behaves better at a particular moment, and this cannot be avoided. But overall, both of them will be the most expensive and most loved.

“What if the first child gets jealous and feels unwanted?”

- this will not happen if you initially do not separate him from the younger one, either during pregnancy or after. Psychologists recommend immediately presenting the situation in such a way that you are all expecting your second baby together, and you will also take care of him together. While you are pregnant, together with your elder, arrange a corner for your future brother or sister, go to an ultrasound together, come up with a name for the baby, discuss how you will spend time together. Be sure to remind the first-born that, despite his new role as the eldest child, everything will remain the same and he will not lose his beloved mother. Consider in advance how you can allocate individual time for your first child when it is just the two of you, and let him know. Also allocate personal space for the older one so that he can spend time without the younger one.

By the way, experts call sending the elder to grandma, to a camp or to the dacha for the period of birth and the first weeks of a newborn baby’s life a parental mistake. If you don’t want to make your first-born feel like you’ve gotten rid of him for a while, you shouldn’t “send” him away. An older brother or sister will also be pleased to meet a new family member from the maternity hospital, go with him on his first walk and watch him get his first bath. This is how the older child’s feeling of caring for the younger one arises.

It is believed that the relationships between children in a family are largely determined by the difference in age. It is optimal when the arrival of the youngest child in the family occurs during the period of “babysitting” for the elder – this is from three and a half to five and a half years. They won't notice their age difference, but raising such kids will be extremely difficult for their mother. According to psychologists, a difference of three, seven or thirteen years would be undesirable, since these are children’s crisis ages, and the appearance of someone else in the family may be perceived with hostility. A difference of 4-5 years will help maintain the hierarchy between children, and a gap of more than 6 years will turn the older child into an additional parent and protector of the younger one.

“I can’t pay them a decent future”

This is my option, my “stop” for the second baby. And it’s not that I’m afraid of financial problems myself; I don’t want my children to feel them. In a year and a half of motherhood, I have already imagined my baby as an excellent student, an athlete, and a student at a university in the capital. An annual subscription to the children's pool costs as much as a vacation in the Maldives, but I'm afraid the family budget won't be able to afford two subscriptions.

The child grows, so do the costs. Beanbags and onesies give way to scooters and branded jeans. Is it better to give one child all the best?! No! Your main task is to give your child the right to life, and financial difficulties must be resolved as they arise.

Life is so unstable, if you are afraid of everything that has not yet happened, you can go crazy. Admiring your newborn baby and hugging your sleepy kittens, you are unlikely to remember that you denied yourself another handbag.

At the birth of the second child, the mother of the first child psychologically dies!

Protect yourself from financial problems:

• Create a “safety cushion” in advance, save up some money that will be useful during maternity leave.
• Change your “gray” salary to a “white” one even before your second pregnancy, then you can count on a normal maternity benefit, which is 40% of your salary.
• As soon as your second baby is born, get in line at the nursery; if necessary, you can go to work early.
• Don’t be lazy and apply for all state, including regional, child benefits.
• Take advantage of your right to benefits. For example, all medications for children under one year of age should be given free of charge; ask your pediatrician for this.
• Think about remote work; millions of women combine freelancing and motherhood.
• Don’t rush to sell and give away your first child’s things; if the children are same-sex, then you won’t have to buy anything at all.
• If “finances sing romances” and the baby is about to be born, register in groups on social networks where mothers sell used baby items or even give them away for free.

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Health anxiety

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“The first child was born healthy, but the second may be born sick,”

- a thought that should be excluded from your head at the stage of its first appearance. If all tests and examinations are normal, and the ultrasound shows a healthy baby, the risks are minimal. If any problems arise, doctors will do everything possible to avoid pathology for the baby. Mothers with such fear should carefully monitor their health throughout pregnancy and do everything so that the baby in the womb develops without the mother’s stress. Do not forget that a full comprehensive examination before planning a child is an 80% guarantee of a successful pregnancy.

“It’s too late to give birth!”

. If you believe the statistics, the average age for the first birth among women in our country is 27 years old, therefore, the youngest children in Russia are born at about 32-35, but this is not at all a critical threshold when it comes to repeated births. You shouldn’t be afraid of the title “old-born”, which is so fond of “awarding” patients in maternity hospitals; this medical mark is placed much earlier, so with a 60% probability you earned it at the birth of your first child. Moreover, the average age of parents is getting older every year, so your maturity is unlikely to be a real issue during pregnancy, birth or after. But you will be able to give your second child parental wisdom and authority, and yourself youth in your soul for many years to come!

“The first birth was difficult, the second will be the same”

. There are many reasons to be afraid of this, because it all depends on why the first birth turned out to be a difficult ordeal. If it is possible to prevent this in advance, you can find a doctor whom you trust, discuss with him the expected birth scenario and talk through everything, down to the smallest detail. Well, if natural delivery is definitely excluded, and fears of an “epidural” are great, you can organize a caesarean section under full anesthesia.

By the way, the second birth is an excellent opportunity to arrange everything the way you want. Was partner birth a bad idea? - Give birth alone. If you don’t like one, ask your spouse to be present or sign a contract with a doula. Did it seem easier to give birth standing? – Choose a maternity hospital with vertical birth capabilities. The same applies to birthing in water, with musical accompaniment or with a personal midwife. Now you will no longer enter the maternity room with trembling knees and eyes round with fear, you know everything, which means you can prepare!

Goodbye career!

“I haven’t been able to find a normal job for six months now, five years on maternity leave are taking their toll,” a friend complains to me.

After such words, you involuntarily understand that a second maternity leave can put an end to your career.

Is there a way out?

• Just accept that you will devote yourself to your children.
• Find a nanny for two children at once.
• Open your own business, change your profession, work remotely.

Agree, even the first year and a half on maternity leave can hinder your career growth. At first, you will have to “get into” work for a long time, your young kindergartener will often get sick, and you will also have to refuse business trips. And the second decree will not change this situation much, so you should not be afraid of it.

Preparing the firstborn for the arrival of the second baby

Why shouldn't you be afraid of a second birth?

Most women with many children claim that each subsequent birth was much faster and less painful. There is a logical explanation for this: the body has already been in labor, and the woman knows how to behave. The woman in labor understands what stage she is at now, how to act to make the fetus pass more easily through the birth canal, and how to reduce her pain.

As obstetric practice shows, the period of contractions during the second birth is reduced by an average of 3 hours. Moreover, after the first birth, the tissues of the birth canal become more elastic, which increases the speed of fetal passage.

In addition, if the second pregnancy was planned by a doctor, and the woman honestly followed all his instructions, then there is no reason to worry: the body was completely restored after the first birth and received enough vitamins, both before the second pregnancy and during it.

General Tips

Any fear described above exists, and under no circumstances should you make fun of it. What to do in such a situation, how to get rid of this strong feeling?

1. First of all, the presence of fear must be recognized and accepted; without this, it will not be possible to overcome it, because you need to know the enemy by sight.
2. If you can't handle it on your own, ask for help. Who to contact depends on the type of fear. If your fear, for example, is related to a health issue, you need to consult a doctor who can explain whether you are afraid of what you are afraid of or whether the fear is completely groundless. If the fear is not empty, the doctor will tell you how to minimize its risk. Many psychological fears can be overcome by loved ones, especially the father of the unborn child. A loving man can reassure his woman and provide her with support, the main thing is to talk to him so that he knows about your problem. After all, not all men can read between the lines and feel the inner world of another person, so they need to speak directly, avoiding hints. If your husband is interested in having a second/third child, he will reassure and support you. A woman should listen to herself, perhaps she herself knows what she wants to hear from her husband in order to calm down, and if this is so, then you should not play guessing, tell him frankly.
3. Isolate yourself from people who bring you nothing but negativity.

Fear #3. Health problems

I really want more kids, but I’m afraid, with my diagnoses, I’ll never become a mother again...

In fact:

“Health doesn’t allow it” is a really powerful argument to say “no” to another pregnancy. If a woman has serious illnesses in which pregnancy and childbirth are simply contraindicated, then it is not worth the risk. And you shouldn’t risk it twice if you already have at least one child (after all, who knows what a contraindicated pregnancy might turn out to be). But you shouldn’t be too upset if illness prevents you from enjoying motherhood to the fullest; there is always hope for an improvement in your physical condition and for doctors making mistakes in diagnosis. As a last resort, the achievements of modern medicine will help you - examinations, treatments, hormonal stimulants, IVF, as well as HUGE FAITH!

Yu-mom stories

“At the age of 20 (three weeks after the wedding), a “kind doctor” told me that I would never have children. And my uterus is small, and the tubes are crooked, and generally impassable... If a miracle happens and I suddenly get pregnant (but it will definitely be a miracle), then I will not be able to carry it to term - 100%. Oh, how I cried... So what? I went through a course of massage, but at the same time stopped drinking OK, after which I got a delay…. Two pregnancies - two children. She gave birth to one and the other - strictly in the traffic rules, there was not even a threat.”

"My history. Infertility for 8 years and a full bouquet of female ailments (stage 3 endometriosis, anti-sperm bodies, high FSH). With such a diagnosis, the chances of giving birth on her own were almost zero. In 2004, a trial AI, the result was zero. The doctor said only IVF. In 2005, I made the first protocol; due to crazy stimulation, only 2 follicles grew and the right ovary (the same one on which there was an endometriosis cyst) shut down. The doctors also gave me donor UC and transferred 3 good quality embryos, but the protocol was unsuccessful. After finishing the protocol, the doctor said that with my cells there is no chance of getting pregnant at all. In 2006, the protocol with donor eggs failed again. My husband and I saw no further point in fighting for our baby and began collecting documents for adoption... After some time, I began to experience strange nausea and weakness - it turned out I was pregnant... February 22, 2008. my son Svyatoslav was born. When I was having a caesarean at the OMM, a bunch of doctors came to see me and see how they could carry a child normally with such diagnoses (endometriosis simply ate up the entire abdominal cavity). The most interesting thing is that I became pregnant after 1.4 years, without problems, as soon as I stopped taking birth control pills, I gave birth again at OMM. March 22, 2010 my son Laurus was born. So miracles happen! Ask and you will receive! Yes, I forgot to write that I got pregnant both times on the left ovary, the right one turned off during IVF and that’s it, it doesn’t work - they checked it many times, it doesn’t work!”

Negative scenario: how to avoid repetition?

Planning a pregnancy and preparing for it are stages no less important than the pregnancy itself. And first of all, this concerns not financial stability and housing arrangements (although this is also important), but the health status of the future parents.

And if a man in this case can “get off” only by giving up bad habits for several months before conception and taking folic acid, then the woman must undergo a full medical examination and cure all her illnesses.

After all, even a minor health problem, which usually does not cause her any concern, can poison life during the long nine months of pregnancy, and subsequently cause the woman to be afraid of a second birth.

Remember, you probably did not approach your first pregnancy as responsibly as required, and you already had some health problems that you did not pay due attention to eliminating. That is, you missed an important stage in preparing for pregnancy.

But now you know your weak points and know what to do.

So, the first step towards getting rid of the fear of repeat childbirth is the following:

• consult a doctor about your health problems;
• undergo a full examination to identify possible diseases or ensure their absence;
• if possible, eliminate identified health problems or achieve their stable remission;
• a few months before the expected conception, start taking a vitamin-mineral complex (should be prescribed by a doctor, based on the state of health and the individual characteristics of your body).

Rescue of drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves

Image copyright Thinkstock Image caption Keep a diary, record changes in mood, try to understand what caused them Doctors warn that postpartum depression is a disease, and it will not be possible to cure it through willpower alone. On the other hand, you should not rely solely on specialists and the achievements of the pharmaceutical industry. There are several generally accepted methods that can help women cope with depression. Expert advice may seem a little strange and obvious, but the British charity Mind, which helps people with mental illness, emphasizes that depressed patients often forget the obvious. What advice do they give?

• Don’t forget about personal hygiene, take a shower more often and don’t walk around the house half-naked, even if you’re not going anywhere and aren’t expecting guests.
• Keep a diary in which you record changes in mood, this way you can more accurately notice what events, affairs or conversations are ruining your life
• Lower your demands on yourself: if you didn’t have time to do something that you had planned, then okay! And sometimes treat yourself like you would treat your best friend.
• And be sure to contact an organization that provides support to women with a similar condition. They know what to do!

Symptoms

Phobia manifests itself in different ways: some people cope with their fear, others withdraw into themselves. A depressed psychological state can have a bad effect on the general condition of the expectant mother.

A constant state of stress can lead to exacerbations of chronic diseases, such as:

• gastritis;
• asthma;
• gout.

Symptoms of physical depression due to psychological stress:

• pain in the gastrointestinal tract;
• severe migraine;
• pressure surges;
• tachycardia;
• fainting conditions;
• pain in the lumbar region;
• uterine tone;
• insomnia;
• apathy.

Psychological mood is one of the most important aspects of the normal course of pregnancy and childbirth, so you should not neglect your psychological state. A constant state of stress can lead to a nervous breakdown, general deterioration in health, bleeding, and in the worst case, result in miscarriage.