Everything about jealousy: we reveal the nature of jealousy from the point of view of psychology and energy

What does a healthy relationship look like?

In a healthy relationship, both partners understand that each of them has made a choice in favor of the other, and this choice does not need to be proven - it is there by default. Partners may think other people are beautiful, but they are just people, not potential sex objects. In a healthy relationship, partners do not limit each other’s communication: if a wife goes on a business trip with a male colleague, the husband does not have the feeling that something is wrong. The husband perceives it this way: the wife is going to work, this is normal.

In a healthy relationship, there can also be jealousy: if the husband treats another woman to a cocktail at a party and the wife sees it, it’s normal if she doesn’t like it. But this does not turn into a scandal and threats - the partners simply discuss the situation and come to a truce.

In an unhealthy relationship, jealousy will arise from anything and will not allow you to live in peace. Here are a few signs that indicate a couple has a jealousy problem:

• one of the partners asks about previous relationships;
• arranges checks, for example, suddenly comes to a meeting with friends, although no one invited him;
• does not allow communication with other people;
• checks phone and social networks;
• condemns a new hairstyle or clothes, ridicules hobbies, and is suspicious of a partner’s trips to the gym.

Causes of jealousy in men

In a man’s jealousy, psychology identifies 4 provocateurs:

• low self-esteem. Signs of jealousy appear when there is a competitor who can take the girl away;
• addiction. Alcohol abuse, gambling and drug addiction lead to unbalanced behavior. Symptoms of jealousy are often aggressive in nature, as the dependent person experiences a feeling of euphoria with a sharp increase in the level of adrenaline in the blood;
• possessive instinct. There are personal boundaries, the violation of which is considered a clear insult. If such an owner is jealous of a person, the feeling manifests itself not only when the chosen one communicates with male representatives, even meetings with friends are unacceptable;
• spouse's behavior. A woman cannot resist flirting with familiar, and sometimes strangers, men. She perceives such behavior as an easy, non-committal game. But the husband takes his significant other’s flirting much more seriously, so he is unable to contain the resulting feeling of mistrust.

What kind of jealousy is there?

Jealousy can be behavioral or clinical. Behavioral is when a person is generally adequate and balanced, but may become jealous in a certain situation: for example, if a partner has become secretive or is constantly late at work. This happens in healthy relationships.

Clinical, or pathological, jealousy is a mental disorder. It is accompanied by total mistrust and results in uncontrollable aggression. In this case, the person is jealous for no reason and overreacts even to little things - for example, if the partner did not answer the call and did not call back after five minutes. Clinical jealousy does not depend on the behavior of the partner - the jealous person will come up with everything himself.

Behavioral jealousy can accumulate and develop into clinical jealousy.

Why do people get jealous

Jealousy is traditionally considered a sign of love, but psychological studies show that it is based on the fear of losing “your person” or losing to a rival. It can be experienced by those who are fundamentally incapable of love - narcissists and sociopaths.

Three main reasons for jealousy:

• the desire to possess a person and the fear of losing him;
• fear of being deceived and used;
• lack of trust in a partner.

Fear of losing a loved one does not have to be rational to provoke jealousy. This feeling often takes the form of manic obsession, when a person looks for far-fetched evidence of deception and betrayal in every action of a faithful partner.

If we talk about the reasons in more detail, jealousy causes:

• A sense of possessiveness. For a person who is accustomed to consider anyone who is nearby “his own,” jealousy extends not only to his beloved. The owner gets annoyed if a friend goes to the cinema with someone else, if mom pays more attention to his brother. Any encroachment on the attention of a loved one becomes a tragedy for the jealous person.
• Diffidence. Girls face this reason more often. It seems to them that everything around is better and more beautiful than them. The neighbor has longer hair and is blonde. Masha from the house opposite has a good job. The guy's girlfriend has big breasts and slender legs. Compared to such successful and beautiful women, the jealous woman considers herself unworthy of her beloved. In the case of men, a self-sufficient and beautiful spouse becomes the reason for soul-searching, which leads to a disappointing and derogatory conclusion.
• Negative experience. If there was infidelity on the part of a partner in a previous marriage, the person projects negativity onto the current relationship. It seems to him that if it happened once, it will happen again. It's hard to get rid of the idea that all people are the same.
• Gossip. Often women begin to suspect their loved one of cheating on the basis of other people's speculations. Facts are conveyed in a distorted form, when in fact there is nothing to worry about.
• Fear of loneliness. If at least one of the partners has experienced loneliness or has a developed imagination coupled with a phobia, then this is a good reason for jealousy. The fear of being alone pushes people to take crazy actions that destroy the family. Such people fill the void with relationships and if they see a reason for suspicion (and they will definitely see it), they are very worried, which results in insane jealousy.
• Own infidelity. Sometimes it happens that the jealous person himself thinks about cheating. And then thoughts come that your partner is thinking about the same thing. There is a projection of one’s behavior patterns onto another. If one can change, then it is not alien to the other.
• Provocation. A person has a constant desire to remain the best for his other half. And in order to prove to a loved one that he is popular with the opposite sex, flirting and increased attention to other people take place. The partner will misunderstand such manifestations. He will suspect his other half of infidelity and doubt her love.

Everyone has reasons to be jealous. Some have only one, others have several at once.

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To understand that jealousy has grown from a rational feeling into pathology, it is necessary to discern the signs of a jealous person.

How does jealousy arise?

Jealousy starts in childhood. It is more often experienced by older children or those who are constantly compared with others. A person may be jealous not only of other people, but also of work or hobbies that take up a lot of time. You can also be jealous of your parents for your brother or sister, your children for your grandmother, your boss for your more successful colleague.

A person is jealous because he is afraid of losing love, and with it, a sense of security and self-worth. If a couple has problems with jealousy, then both need help.

Causes of jealousy in women

The reasons for a woman’s jealousy towards a man differ significantly:

• Jealousy manifests itself when the spouse is characterized by increased vigilance. She literally imagines herself as a detective, trying to quickly find out what her husband was doing in her absence. Manifestation of jealousy - contact tracing, checking accounts on social networks, vigilant control;
• Bachelors in the company of their husbands are a potential danger, as they can push their spouse to cheat. Therefore, a jealous wife does everything possible to destroy the friendship;
• scandals arise regardless of the situation. A woman makes claims in front of other family members and strangers, for example, while visiting a store, club, etc. The main desire of a jealous woman is to show a man his place;
• rejection of the fact that the husband’s work takes up too much time. Distrust is manifested by frequent calls, open hostility towards female colleagues, and unexpected visits to the company where the spouse works.

Jealousy and self-doubt

Jealousy grows out of a person’s ideas about himself. He does not believe in himself too much, he thinks that he is not good enough and there is nothing to love him for. Therefore, if suddenly in the behavior of his wife, husband, girlfriend, mother he suddenly sees a hint that he is not loved, then he perceives it very painfully. For example, a friend goes for a walk and doesn’t invite her along - that’s it, this is a terrible insult. There are people who are offended even if they were not immediately answered in the messenger. All this betrays self-doubt, weakness and fear.

Usually such painful ideas about oneself are formed in childhood.

Yulia, Kazan:

“I’m terribly jealous of my daughter’s grandmothers.” I start to boil when my mother or mother-in-law comes to visit and my daughter says: “Mom, go away, we’re playing ourselves!” I restrain myself and silently leave, but at this moment I want to tear all the toys out of their hands and throw them against the wall with all my might.

When I told my friend about this, she suggested going to a psychologist. At first I was angry because I was actually waiting for support. Then I thought about it and decided that I could try it: if I don’t like it, I simply won’t continue.

From the first meeting it became clear that this works. The psychologist and I began to feel for the problem, and it turned out that it stems from childhood. My parents divorced when I was five. Dad left for another family, we stayed with mom. I often had to live with my grandmother, for example, if I was sick and could not go to the garden. Then I saw my mother once a week and was very bored, and my grandmother constantly said: “You see how tired Mom is, she has no time to bother with you, behave well, otherwise dad has already left.” And I was afraid that if I behaved badly, then my mother would leave. Although my mother never said anything like that, she was simply often tired.

This is how I developed a feeling of guilt for my dad’s departure and a fear of being left alone, which began to affect my daughter as an adult.

When parents divorce, children often blame themselves. And if one of the parents leaves the family, then the child feels not significant enough, since he can be taken and abandoned like that.

Sometimes the problem with jealousy can be solved: if a person himself understands that his jealousy is unhealthy and goes to a psychotherapist. Things get worse if the jealous partner doesn't acknowledge the problem and places the blame on the other. Over time, everything will get worse and worse, because two people always work on a relationship - you can’t pull it off alone.

Sasha, Ivanovo:

— I was 25 when I met my future husband.
He was the most reasonable guy I've ever met. I knew that he had a child and an ex-wife, but this did not bother me. I was never jealous of my husband’s first child; on the contrary, I met his son and ex-wife. But my husband became jealous of my rare communication with his ex. He probably thought that I would become friends with her and become like her. But we only communicated about meetings with the child, and I definitely didn’t intend to be friends with her.

My husband once boasted to friends and family that we were planning to have a child, even though we were having trouble conceiving. It became difficult for me because of the pressure and constant questions, and I began to leave the house less often and communicate with people.

During this period, the husband decided to work on a shift basis. We called each other every day, but one day he got angry because I didn’t pick up the phone right away. And I was just in the bathroom and didn’t hear the bell. There was a small scandal. It became clear that my husband was calling to control whether I was at home or walking around, like his ex-wife. For some reason, it seemed to me that his ex-wife had hurt him very much, so now we need to support him, show him that he has nothing to fear in our relationship. So I picked up the phone, even if I was busy, and talked to him to show him that I was not like my ex.

When he came back from his shift, we didn’t leave each other for a minute and only went to see his friends and family, because in a month he managed to miss everyone. I didn’t even notice that I didn’t have any friends left.

Over time, I began to ask permission to go for a walk when he was not at home. I was only allowed to go out with his acquaintances, but this did not bother me, because I only communicated with them.

When I finally became pregnant, my husband's jealousy intensified even more. Now I could only communicate with my parents and his relatives. If they saw me in the store and I didn’t tell my husband about it, they immediately reported to him, and he scolded me over the phone.

My husband was jealous of everything, but I couldn’t do anything about it. I became a hostage in my own apartment, and I had no one to tell about this - after two years of such a life, I had no one left with whom I could talk, and my parents did not know all this. From the outside it seemed to them that my husband idolized me and everything was perfect with us.

Sasha’s story shows that the help of a psychologist is needed not only by the one who is jealous, but also by the one who is jealous. A person who is subject to total control becomes vulnerable and anxious, and his own needs and desires fade into the background - he no longer knows how to live differently and what he wants. This is why it can be so difficult to just end a relationship and walk away.

What does jealousy towards friends lead to?

Just because you're jealous of your friends doesn't mean you're worried about your friendship.
Most likely, you are more worried about yourself. Sometimes it happens that an insecure person, fearing loneliness, begins to think through the worst options for what will happen to him if he falls out of the company. Obsessive thoughts lead to mental disorders. Which ones? Choose the disease yourself: schizophrenia, paranoia, alcoholism or drug addiction. Of course, only the most desperate reach the extreme stage. But paranoid reasoning is not such an unrealistic diagnosis. Being away from the company, a person begins to monitor all social networks. And God forbid he notices that several of his friends were online for the last time at the same time. And stories on Instagram can lead to outbursts of anger. Of course, you are sitting at home while your friends are having a great time - they probably have no time for you. And in general, none of them truly respected you. This is a typical train of thought for those prone to pathological jealousy.

As for partners and their relationships with your friends, everything is somewhat different. A jealous person who remains unattended literally begins to waste away. Becomes apathetic or, conversely, angry. Depressive states are inherent in people in such situations. Mixed with resentment is a feeling of wounded dignity: your partner thinks that he is worse than your friends, that you value them more. Sometimes jealousy of friends leads to disappointment in relationships - some couples break up on this sad note.

How does jealousy keep a marriage going?

In the famous book “Games People Play,” American psychologist and psychiatrist Eric Berne tells how one person with personal problems selects as a partner someone who will support and nurture these problems. This is such a game: the heroes have developed rules, and they cannot break out of them.

Most likely, you have come across such games in your life. Here's a simple example: a friend complains about some difficult situation, and you offer solutions. But to each option he answers: “Yes, but...”. As a result, not a single proposal is accepted, because the initiator of the game is not playing to get advice, but for some other reason. Moreover, he himself may not even know these reasons.

It’s the same with jealousy: a couple plays a game, but they don’t even understand it themselves, but simply continue to follow the established rules.

Game "If it weren't for him"

Sometimes jealousy is a manifestation of more complex feelings. For example, passion has disappeared in a relationship, and couples act out scenes of jealousy in order to somehow “warm up” feelings and experience strong emotions.

If both partners live this way and are happy with everything, then you don’t have to change anything. For example, the girl Olga specifically does everything to make her boyfriend Maxim jealous: she flirts with bartenders, talks a lot about her male colleagues. And when she manages to provoke Maxim, they quarrel and then make up with the help of violent sex. This doesn't seem like a healthy situation, but couples can live like this for many years.

Factors that increase feelings of jealousy

Psychologists identify a number of factors that can aggravate the situation when jealousy manifests itself:

1. False rumors from friends. People who do not know the general situation in a relationship can make things up and distort the facts. Because of this, erroneous opinions arise that can harm quarreling people.
2. Changing behavior, communication styles, acquiring new habits. If one of the spouses begins to change, this may alert the other and worsen the situation. New questions will arise and mistrust will increase.
3. The appearance of new acquaintances, nervousness.
4. The wife or husband begins to appear at home later than usual. Regarding free time, it is becoming less.

After jealousy appears on the part of one of the spouses, you need to calmly discuss the current situation.

What not to do if you are jealous

Working through jealousy is an attempt to sort out your needs with a psychologist, and not to remake a loved one to suit you. Therefore, here’s what you definitely shouldn’t do in a relationship with a jealous person.

Tolerate and make excuses. If a person does not give reasons, and the partner continues to be jealous, you can suggest that he consult a psychologist. But if the jealous person does not want to change anything and continues to blame the partner for everything, the second option remains - to separate. You should not try to save a relationship that harms both.

Let me look at your social networks. Sometimes it seems that maximum openness will help in a relationship with a jealous person. People give their partner a phone password, allow them to view social networks, and enable geolocation tracking. But it doesn't work.

It's important to understand the difference here. In a healthy relationship, when no one cheats on anyone, the partners already have social networks and phones open: one can, if necessary, call from the other’s phone or open VKontakte on someone else’s laptop. At the same time, a person will not sit there for an hour to study all the correspondence - he will simply do his business and leave.

It’s another matter when a woman says to a man: “Okay, since you’re so jealous, look at whatever you want, I have nothing to hide.” She makes a concession not because she herself wants to, but because she was forced. Firstly, the man will not stop being jealous because of this, and secondly, the woman is deprived of her own space. She will think twice before discussing even something harmless with her friends in a chat. Over time, this will become more and more stressful.

Pretend that everything is fine. Jealousy is often mistaken for a sign of love or passion and is assumed to be okay.
But jealousy does not mean how dear the partner is, but that the jealous person has problems with self-image. They do not resolve themselves and destroy relationships.

Love and Jealousy: general definitions

Love (in relationships) is an emotion expressed in the desire for a partner of the opposite sex to establish permanent sexually intimate, as well as everyday and social connections, including for the purpose of procreation.
As a rule, love is a manifestation of chemical reactions of the body's hormonal system, affecting the limbic system, in order to establish forms of attachment to an object of the opposite sex. Jealousy is a feeling of pretension that arises in relation to a loved one who pays excessive attention (imaginary or actual) in relation to another person.

Jealousy is considered a destructive feeling, expressed in a “sense of ownership” towards the object of one’s love and affection.

Now let's look at the feeling of jealousy in more detail.

Categories of jealousy in relationships

• Man-Woman • Parents-Children • Brothers, Sisters • Friends, Girlfriends • Professional Relationships

The article discusses jealousy only between a man and a woman.

So, in short: what is the basis of the sexual relationship between a man and a woman?

Procreation, passing on one's genes to one's offspring. This is inherent in us by nature. And the feeling of desire to “possess” your partner is, as a rule, dictated by precisely this natural factor from which, on the one hand, flows feelings of attraction, love, affection, and on the other, a feeling of jealousy and the desire to possess and control a loved one.

A man’s priorities in relationships, determined by nature:

• Sex as the satisfaction of one’s physiological needs, and subsequently a mechanism for transmitting one’s genes to offspring.

• Family, as a form of regular sexual pleasure and provision of household amenities for oneself.

A woman’s priorities in relationships, determined by nature:

• Family as a mechanism for raising and protecting one's offspring. As well as the formation of comfortable social and living conditions for both themselves and their children.

• Sex as a form of attracting a man and further retaining him. And only subsequently a form of satisfaction of physiological needs.

These are the primary factors of M+F relationships, followed by associated factors, consequences and various forms of social contracts.

...A woman by nature has a sexual attraction to alpha males, and a desire to build a life together, a family and raising children, with beta or gamma males

(from video lecture: Jealousy: causes and consequences )

Jealousy as a form of partner manipulation

• A woman, by flirting and flirting with other men, seeks to arouse jealousy in her partner. This is one of her ways of manipulating a man. Men are less prone to this form of manipulation.

• Lies often begin with the phrase: “Darling, we must trust each other.” One of the most common forms of partner manipulation

• Causing jealousy in a partner in order to increase one’s own importance in his (her) perception

• Formation of pathological jealousy in a partner in order to obtain the right and opportunity to satisfy one’s sexual perversions, such as: group sex, bisexual contact, BDSM, Sado-Masochism, and so on.

• An open act of courting a third-party partner, up to and including sexual contact with her, with the goal of humiliating one’s partner and suppressing her (his) psyche. A form of dominance that is more common in men than in women.

• Manifestation of feigned jealousy, as a form of inducing “feelings of guilt” in a partner (more typical for women).

• Searching for new reasons for jealousy: digging through the phone, monitoring social networks and telephone conversations, in order to put pressure on the partner’s psyche.

… and so on.

Types of jealousy

Formally, all types of jealousy can be divided into two groups:

► Normal jealousy ► Pathological jealousy

To put it simply, pathological forms of jealousy include all those conditions that lead to a state of psychological discomfort and negative consequences in relationships.

• Normal jealousy is a feeling of excitement and concern about a loved one with a lack of information about his (her) life.

• Pathological jealousy – jealousy, with a deviation from the norm, causing a feeling of discomfort, depression, psychological disorders, sexual deviations (deviations) and perversions (perversions).

• Paranoid jealousy – jealousy based on hyper-fantasies that are not related to the real state of affairs.

• Psychopathic jealousy – manifestation of jealousy in the form of hysterics.

• Narcissistic jealousy is a manifestation of jealousy towards a partner based on objective or erroneously low self-esteem.

• Masochistic jealousy – receiving perverse pleasure while experiencing feelings of jealousy, up to provoking a partner to engage in intimate activities “on the side.”

• Despotic jealousy – jealousy expressed in the form of persecution of a partner, with the aim of causing him both psychological and physical harm, up to and including grievous bodily harm and murder.

• Suicidal jealousy – jealousy, when it is impossible to take out anger on a partner, leading to self-deprecation, even causing physical harm to oneself, in its extreme form manifested in suicide.

Jealousy as a cause of sexual deviations

It is jealousy that often underlies sexual deviations associated with perversions (perversions) of swing relationships, cuckold sexwife and some forms of BDSM. Sexual deviations of this kind manifest themselves as a defensive reaction to pathological jealousy.

Let's look at an example:

Family: Vasily and Maria. Vasya loves Masha. And Masha flirts with other men right in front of Vasya. Moreover, he often flirts with men of higher status, wealth and social success. Vasya’s attempts to dissuade Masha from this kind of hostile manipulation towards him do not lead to a positive result. Vasily experiences suffering from feelings of jealousy, which are aggravated by fantasies based on a lack of information about Maria’s behavior outside the home. The defense mechanisms of Vasily’s psyche are triggered in such a way that they form positive emotions towards Maria’s potentially destructive form of behavior. And Vasily suddenly begins to experience sexual arousal from the fantasy of imagining Maria having sex with other men. And there you have it, the new couple is ready for a swing relationship and a perversion of the Cuckold-Sexwife character.

Cuckold-Sexwife - an intimate relationship in a couple in which the Husband (cuckold) gets pleasure from the fact that his Wife has sex “on the side” (refers to sexual deviations)

The reason for the occurrence of this sexual deviation usually lies in the area of ​​experiencing a mixed feeling of love, hyper-attachment and pathological jealousy towards one’s partner.

This is just one of many options for the development of sexual deviations (deviations) based on jealousy. I consider in more detail the various forms of manifestation of pathological jealousy, manifested in the form of deviations or perversions, with clients in psychotherapeutic work, both individually and in my video lectures.

Jealousy as a psychological disorder

Not all types of jealousy should be considered psychological

disorder, however, if you lose control over this feeling, it can lead to very negative consequences both for the personal psyche and for relationships with a partner.

Pathological (abnormal) jealousy is one of the most common causes of both psychological disorders and sexual deviations (deviations) and perversions (perversions). Therefore, it is very important to monitor and prevent the development of pathological jealousy in the early stages.

Psychotherapy for morbid jealousy

How to properly organize psychotherapeutic work with pathological jealousy:

• First of all, of course, analytical work is carried out to diagnose the manifestations and causes of the appearance of one or another form of jealousy. The objectivity of the reasons causing jealousy is determined. Unfortunately, some psychologists immediately try to rid their client of feelings of jealousy, defining jealousy as a destructive feeling in itself. This is a common misconception. As we have already found out, jealousy is often not only a manifestation of love and affection, but also a completely justified defense mechanism against hostile manipulation on the part of a partner (see my works on the topic: #DS: psychology of influence, Dominance and Manipulation)

• Once the causes and circumstances of jealousy have been determined, cognitive behavioral therapy is carried out to change psychological stereotypes and form appropriate positive patterns of behavior.

• If necessary, and to enhance the effectiveness of transformation, hypnotherapy and neuromodeling are carried out in order to identify, change and “re-prescribe” subconscious aspects of the psyche that are inaccessible at the cognitive psychoanalytic level of psychotherapy.

As a rule, psychotherapy for jealousy refers to psychocorrection and does not require the involvement of deep aspects of the personality, so 10-12 sessions with a professional are sufficient. But here (as in any psychotherapeutic work) it is important to note the competence of the specialist who carries out the psychocorrection of jealousy. Such a specialist must have knowledge not only in the field of family psychology and relationships, but also in the field of sexual deviations and perversions, as well as possess a wide arsenal of psychotherapeutic methods, including psychoanalysis with cognitive behavioral therapy, and the skills of hypnotherapy and neuromodeling .

One-sided treatment of mental disorders when working with jealousy can lead to very disastrous consequences:

For example, psychoanalytic work without hypnotherapy can last for years, during which time the marriage will break up and the psyche will form a number of ingrained perversions, which will become more and more difficult to get rid of.

The other extreme - hypnotherapy (including the NLP approach) without proper analytical study will give, at best, an unstable result with further manifestation of mental instability, at worst - it will lead to too aggressive dynamics in the formation of perverted patterns of reaction to relationships, up to the formation of new deviations and perversions, as protective aspects of the psyche against too aggressive psycho-dynamic influence.

Only systemic comprehensive psychotherapy from a competent specialist will allow you not only to keep the destructive component of feelings of jealousy under control, but also to maintain the health of your own psyche and the pleasure, harmony, joy and happiness of intimate relationships with your lover. More details about We look at jealousy and its causes and consequences in the video lecture.

How to deal with jealousy

There is only one universal advice about relationships - understand the problem in detail, go to a psychologist, discuss, observe, analyze, and work through childhood traumas. That is, as always, there are no simple recipes for relationships; you need a lot of work on yourself.

For example, a psychologist may say that to solve a problem with jealousy, you need to share your feelings with your partner: “I value the fact that you are afraid of losing me. But when you go into my phone, I feel like you don't trust me. Let's agree that the next time you get jealous of me, we'll discuss it. Let’s not check my social networks.” In the case of behavioral jealousy, this may work. But if a person is dealing with a clinical jealous person, he needs to get out of a potentially dangerous relationship rather than try to negotiate. In the case of clinical jealousy, you cannot do without a specialist.

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Psychiatrists about jealousy

From the point of view of a psychiatrist, jealousy, in addition to being a negative emotion and a complex feeling, is also a symptom. Symptom - because jealousy causes suffering and can cause mental pain. And because for many mental illnesses it is a specific indicator.

What diseases can jealousy be a symptom of (“pathological jealousy”):

• Paranoia.
• Psychoorganic syndrome (encephalopathy).
• Dementia (dementia).
• Mild mental retardation.
• Personality disorders (psychopathy).
• Alcoholism.
• Epilepsy.
• Depression.

Based on modern knowledge about the physiology of the brain, jealousy can be classified as a type of anxiety (fear, phobia). Just like with any anxious state, with jealousy there is overexcitation of certain structures in the brain. Only in cases of jealousy (unlike most phobias) does the focus of overexcitation exist for a long time, contributing to an imbalance in the processes of inhibition and excitation throughout the brain and changes in chemical processes in neurons.