Each of us at times feels inner fear, the consequences of which are insomnia, nightmares, irritability... At the same time, it is difficult to explain our condition. The reasons for this problem are various.
Perhaps a dark streak has come in life or a midlife crisis or blues has come. Maybe it's all far-fetched.
According to psychologists, this state and mood are a clear sign that the time has come for change. How and what should be changed is discussed below.
It's not that hard to rebuild your life. We just need to repeat to ourselves that our former strength has not diminished. And use it to your advantage. Paulo Coelho. Fifth Mountain
Indifference to one's appearance
The dress is not quite fresh, and the hair is already a little greasy - what a difference!
You no longer enjoy going to the hairdresser or getting a manicure, and the thought that it’s time to wash and iron things generally irritates you. Some women explain their reluctance to take care of themselves by the need to take care of children, husbands, and aging parents.
Yes, sweet creatures really tend to take care of others first, and then of themselves, but everything has its limits.
The husband needs a well-groomed life partner, and the children need the most beautiful mother. If you no longer care about how you look, and a new dress or lipstick does not bring any joy, then something has gone wrong in your life.
What change brings
It has long been known that the phrase “people don’t change” has no serious evidence of its plausibility. People change under the influence of events, actions, changes, both conscious and accidental.
Changes lead to a completely different life, often to the one for which a person aspired. He gets what he could not achieve for many years and he succeeded immediately as soon as he changed tactics in his actions.
In practice it looks quite simple. The woman exhausted herself with diets for several years, but the weight did not decrease, and if it did, it was only slightly. She realized that the same plan did not work and began to look for other ways. I signed up for an examination and found out that the problem is a lack of a certain hormone, which can be obtained “from the outside” and everything will work out.
Why did you have to go on diets for several years and couldn’t go to the doctor before? Our heroine was simply afraid to change her tactics and way of thinking. But at one point I gathered my willpower and went.
Change leads to success
One more example. A wealthy man with a couple of tens of millions of rubles to spare decides to leave his business and move to a remote village. He builds himself a house, provides himself with the bare necessities, reads books, breathes fresh air and realizes that his life is a success.
Change leads to happiness
Another hero of our story, a pharmacist, decided to retrain as a website developer in order to earn money for his dream apartment. And he succeeded.
Change leads to goal achievement
The heroine of another story said to herself: “I accept my sister as she is, I will no longer try to change her.” And the negativity in communication disappeared.
Change Leads to Healthy Interpersonal Relationships
These are just a few stories, but there are many more. Change is necessary and important. But …
Absent-mindedness and inattention
You sit down to read a book and can't concentrate.
There are extraneous thoughts in your head and you have to re-read the same page several times. After sending an email, you realize that there are a lot of errors in it, although you have checked it several times before. Yes, rare situations can be attributed to fatigue, but if this happens every time, this is already a reason to think about rest or life changes.
You've been thinking about quitting for a long time
One of the most obvious signs that it's time for you to change jobs is the fact that the idea of quitting has been sitting in your head for quite a long time, more than a few months. Experts report that most people are hesitant to quit due to fear of the unknown. They are tormented by a feeling of uncertainty, as they are not sure of the correctness of their decision. After all, is there any guarantee that once they change jobs, they won’t feel the urge to leave again?
Envy
This is one of the symptoms indicating that something does not satisfy you and your life has transformed into continuous gray everyday life.
Would you envy the successes and joys of other people if everything was fine with you?! You wouldn’t even care about someone else’s life! If you think that you need to change something in this life, then don’t you think... Many people understand that their life has become boring and monotonous and something needs to be changed, but they don’t know how to do it.
How to get out of your comfort zone, where everything is so familiar and familiar?
10 signs you need to change jobs
How to understand that it's time to quit
On average, an average person from Russia spends about 1,980 hours a year at work. More people than the average Russian work in only four countries - Chile, Mexico, Korea and Greece. And accordingly, spending so much time outside of home and family, I want to work at a job that brings not only money, but also pleasure, and also allows me to realize myself in my profession and build a career.
We've collected some signs for you that it's time to change jobs, or at least think about it. With the exception of one thing - a small salary, because everything is clear here. If at least one of them makes you nod affirmatively, then this is already a reason to analyze the situation, find a problem and solve it. Whether it will be cardinal or not is up to you to decide.
1. The last thing you want to do in the morning is go to work.
When you wake up in the morning, you hope that it’s already Saturday and you don’t have to get up, get ready and go to work. But at least five times a week you disappoint yourself when you find out that today is a weekday. Or maybe reasons for not going to the office are sought and found more often than they should be? Or is it easier to start counting how many times you came to the office on time?
All this suggests that for some reason you don’t really want to be in this job and you should think about changing it. Analyze what exactly causes such inconvenience. The reasons can be both objective - a long distance from home, low wages, poor relationships with the team, management, etc., and subjective - some personal reasons that do not allow you to enjoy being in the office.
2. Feelings of worthlessness
How often do you think about vacation? If about once an hour, then this is already a reason for thought. And if you still don’t feel that you are benefiting the company you work for, but only that it brings you money to pursue your personal goals, then this is no longer a bell, but an alarm bell. Without motivation to work hard and understanding your own importance, you won’t be able to have a brilliant career. In this case, there are several solutions: the first is to search for the reasons and eliminate them, including dismissal, and the second is to analyze all the risks associated with leaving work, because if you have children or a large loan, then remain in limbo quite risky. So you can try to look for new incentives, interests, motivation and start all over again, formally remaining in the same company.
3. Irritability for no reason and at everything
A mug left on the table, a door not closed, a pen taken away. It would seem like little things, but they can also infuriate a person who is not too happy with his job. This is how constant stress from an unsettled career and one’s own failure in this field manifests itself. After all, what else can you call a condition when you have to spend 8 hours a day on a job you don’t like?
If you feel that you have become angry with others too often, and after the end of the working day this state disappears, then you should think about a vacation. Perhaps you are just tired and need a break from work. You need to change your job when you are absolutely sure that you have tried all the ways to stay in your current one.
4. Abstraction from the team
If joint lunches, informal gatherings after work, and even more so corporate parties, no longer arouse enthusiasm, and you want to reduce all communication with colleagues to resolving work issues and polite farewells, then it’s worth thinking about the reasons for this behavior. Perhaps the matter is a discrepancy between your personal and company values, or related to misunderstandings within the team or conflicts within it. In this case, it’s worth thinking about whether your monthly earnings are worth spending 40 hours a week in the company of people you don’t like, or whether getting fired is not such a big problem.
5. It's too easy
The tasks that you have to solve during working hours are elementary and do not take up the 8 hours allotted for them, so you have to stretch out the time, do things that are not work or are not part of your job responsibilities? If management is aware of this situation and does nothing about it, then you should think about changing the company. Since doing the same tasks, that is, monotonous work, you will never be able to develop as a specialist. It also reduces personal effectiveness and productivity. In other words, being in a position that you have long outgrown, you are degrading.
6. No fear of punishment
You don’t care what management says about your small and not small mistakes in work, failure to comply with the schedule, and so on. You don't even care if they fine you. It’s not clear, what’s stopping you from quitting then? Think about it, if all of the above applies to you, then it’s worth sitting down and analyzing what could have led to this and how to fix it. Perhaps this is how fatigue and constant stress manifests itself, or maybe it is a protest against the company. In any case, if it comes to this, then the most correct option is dismissal.
7. Company values are a disappointment for you
When you just started working in this company, you were most likely told about the company’s values, or even shown, and most likely they either did not cause rejection, or, on the contrary, were attractive. But over time, they could change dramatically or cease to evoke pleasant emotions. You began to notice more unpleasant things that, in principle, do not interfere with your work, but are disturbing emotionally. Again, there are several options to solve the problem. And not all of them are cardinal. You can, of course, quit right away, or you can try to change your attitude and look at the problem from several angles. Perhaps the negativity towards the company’s values is caused by some personal reasons and solving them will allow you to return pleasure from work.
8. Burnout
This state is that no matter how much you want to fully devote yourself to work and enjoy it, you do not have the strength to do so. At some point, a feeling of indifference appeared that completely took over all types of your activities. After work, you are so tired that you only have enough strength to get home, do the minimum number of necessary things and go to bed. And the weekends are spent watching movies, TV series and reading books. Household chores accumulate, energy is not restored, and in general everything is annoying.
Emotional burnout can lead to you simply not being able to work. Your profession will cease to be anything and bring pleasure. The best way to combat burnout is to slow down. Work a little longer, do enjoyable things during your breaks, eat well, and try to get more sleep. If you can’t cope on your own, then you need to contact a specialist.
How to understand that they want to fire you
But signs that you need to change jobs are not always related to internal problems. Sometimes, this is an unannounced decision from higher-ups. Management may think about dismissal and do everything to prepare the team and make it painless for the company. But he doesn’t always try to make it painless for you.
We've put together some reasons that should motivate you to update your resume and check out suitable job openings. Just in case. Or have an honest conversation with your manager, during which you need to be prepared for what may not seem to you.
1. Your boss is avoiding you
Ignoring is one way of not talking about problems and difficult decisions. If you begin to notice that your manager is increasingly avoiding you, although he continues to have long conversations with other employees and resolve work issues, then you should think about two things. First, unfortunately, it may have been decided to part with you soon and now the ground is being prepared so that work does not stop. And the second is some personal reasons of the authorities.
There is only one solution - to call management for an honest conversation and, by hook or by crook, try to find out about the reasons for such behavior. And if the first option turns out to be correct, and you hold on to your work, then you can try to correct the mistakes you made and start working on yourself. But all this is possible only if the management explains in a reasoned manner what exactly it is dissatisfied with.
2. No career growth
Are you not moving up the career ladder, but are stuck on one step, have already managed to get used to it so much that you feel sick? And the management also makes everything easier and easier on your schedule, so that you have to do anything for several hours a day to kill time. This is a bad sign, indicating that your superiors believe that you cannot cope with complex tasks and that now is simply not the right time to renew your team. You, as in the previous option, can try to call a senior colleague for a constructive dialogue, talk about your suspicions and be prepared for the fact that they may be justified. Or not.
how to be and what to do
Firstly, relax, and secondly, analyze the situation in a calm environment and understand whether you need to change your job, how to do it and what will come of it. All of the above reasons for dismissal must be taken into account as a whole and not individually. To help you make a decision and objectively assess the situation, our career well-being index can help you, which will show the quality of career development, as well as other well-being indices: health, finance, social connections and living environment, which will show whether there are problems in other areas that affect the situation At work.
How to understand what you want from life?
Without knowing where to go, you won't get anywhere. To change your life for the better, it is important to figure out what you really need? To do this, make a wish list. This table will help you with this:
| Sphere of life | What do I want? |
| Personal life (family, relationships with loved ones) | |
| Career and finances (desired position, profession, income level, what you want to own, where to vacation) | |
| Health, appearance (for example, what bad habits do you want to get rid of, what muscles to pump up, how many times to do push-ups) |
Add all your desires to the table, even if some of them seem unrealistic. Then think about which of the described goals are true, that is, you want to achieve them, and which ones are imposed from the outside, for example, by society? Leave only true goals in the table. They are easy to define: true goals create enthusiasm when you think about them.
Congratulations, you have taken the first step towards changing your life for the better.
Now let's figure out how the 3+6 technique works . It consists of two parts. The first part requires three steps, the second requires six steps. By moving consistently, you can change the way you live and think to become a better person.
Do you feel like your work is suffocating you?
The third indicator that your current job is not suitable for you is that you feel constant pressure both during work and at the end of the working day. If you realize that the workload exceeds all reasonable limits, negatively affecting both your physical and emotional well-being, then we recommend that you stop this masochistic torture and think about changing your job. Find a job that gives you both financial and emotional satisfaction.
