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He meets Her, they like each other and start dating. It would seem that everything is fine with them, but it seems to Him that it could be even better. And then he starts asking Google: “How to make a girl jealous?”
Since the search engine is a soulless machine, he will readily give the guy a lot of links to “good advice” from “real experts”, and if he follows them like an obedient student, then the chances are high that instead of increasing the girl’s affection, he will, on the contrary, , will push away.
Let's discuss today why trying to find out how to make someone jealous usually doesn't lead to anything good, and also look at the most harmful advice on this topic, which we strongly advise you not to use.
Love yourself
Dear women, remember: self-sacrifice has long been out of fashion, especially in the love sphere. The more you protect your spouse from everyday life, shouldering all the responsibilities on your fragile shoulders, the more he will move away from you. Think for yourself: is it really pleasant for him to come home and see his tired, half-asleep wife with a distorted face and drooping eyes? Of course not. If you don’t know how to make your husband jealous and afraid of losing his wife, the first thing you must do is. This is how to love yourself. And as a result, spend more time on yourself – charming and attractive.
How to make a girl jealous: why shouldn’t you ask this question?
So, first of all, let's find out the most accurate definition of jealousy. In a scientific article entitled “Factors influencing the emergence of jealousy,” psychologist Gegetsik Faroyan writes:
“Jealousy is a negative feeling in interpersonal relationships that occurs when there is a lack of attention, love, respect or affection from a loved or highly respected person, while someone else allegedly or actually receives it from him.”
The first question is - would you really want to make the girl you like feel such an unpleasant feeling? If yes, then forgive me: this is quite cruel.
Moving on, there is a common and completely harmful belief that jealousy strengthens feelings, makes someone love and appreciate you even more than before. However, even if this were true ( spoiler: no
), going through various manipulations, tricks and tricks in order to earn someone’s good attitude towards you does not seem to be the most worthy behavior.
Just think for a second: what is the best way to improve someone's attitude towards you and make them appreciate you more - by hurting them, trying to make them jealous, or by being honest, good and doing nice things? It's a pity that the answer is not obvious to everyone.
And finally, in case the moral side of the issue doesn’t bother you at all, let’s take a more pragmatic approach. Classic tips on how to make your ex or current girlfriend jealous are as old as time, and most women know them by heart.
This means that as soon as you are about to put any of these dumb and cheap tricks into practice, there is a high probability that you will be immediately identified. The result? The girl will feel unpleasant and disappointed in you.
Killer method number once
Get out of her sight for a while. What effect will this have? At first she will not be interested, then she will be slightly bewildered: “Where did he go? Why doesn’t he run, don’t call, don’t ask me to come back?” and in the end there will be excitement. “Well, wow, I left him, and he doesn’t even deign to answer. The “poor thing” is probably suffering and can’t find a place for himself.” And here the search begins for at least some information about you, or attempts to meet in person, even from afar.
Believe me, women's logic works this way. It is better not to pick up the phone at this time, and not to respond to SMS. Well, not at all and not answer, but very rarely and carelessly, you can call back in a few hours, saying that you are very busy. But in order for her to know that you are not really grieving, there is a second method.
How to make a woman jealous: 6 most harmful tips
So, we decided to take the standard guide on how to make a girl jealous and discuss exactly why these tips do more harm than good. We hope that after reading, your last doubts that you shouldn’t use them will disappear.
Suddenly disappear
“The principle here is to give her maximum attention for some time, and then suddenly disappear without any explanation. In other words, you first smother her with love and then ignore her. The experience of love that she has imprinted in her brain will make her desperate to get you back.”
Classic advice : “The less we love a woman, the easier it is for her to like us”
the authors of such materials like to provide references to Pushkin. However, the ending of this quote from Eugene Onegin sounds like this:
That’s exactly what my Eugene thought.
He is in his first youth
Was a victim of violent delusions.
By suddenly disappearing, ignoring calls and messages, or even skipping meetings altogether, you are more likely to make the girl doubt your reliability than to become even more attached to you.
Talk to her about other girls who are better than her
“Discussing how much better another girl is than your girlfriend can really make her jealous. She will do everything in her power to make you feel like the other girl has nothing that she doesn't have.
She will most likely monitor your call logs and WhatsApp messages to find out what the other girl is doing to win your admiration and before you know it, she will start imitating her.”
Tell us honestly, how will you feel if your friend says that her friend Vasya has “bigger biceps, a cooler car and a bad tattoo”?
Based on the logic of the author of the advice, you should immediately run to three places: a gym, a car dealership and a tattoo artist.
You should never compare anyone to anyone: we are completely different and unique individuals. If your “good friend” is so much better than your girlfriend, then your lover may ask you a logical question: “Maybe you will date her then?”
and leave. This is more likely than her completely changing her personality to please someone she doesn't seem to like at all.
Intrigue
Why not. Take it and come home with a gorgeous bouquet. When asked who gave it, smile mysteriously and answer: a fan. Or just shrug it off, arranging flowers in the best vase. This will not only make him jealous. Such an act will cause a flurry of emotions. A man, feeling a rival, even a conditional one, will try to oust him, so he will begin to pay more attention to his wife and spend time with her. And this is exactly what we need.
Ignore her messages, but be active on social networks
“This is a serious way to make a girl jealous: stop answering her messages or calls, but chat with another girl on WhatsApp or other social networks.
She will be able to see if you are online and then she will wonder why you are not answering her calls or messages. It's usually a great cause for jealousy for a girl who desperately loves you to see you being busy with someone else at the expense of the attention she feels you should be giving her."
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Sorry for the harsh truth, but we strongly doubt that your friend has so little to do that she sits all day and looks at your status changes on social networks - perhaps for meditative purposes, looking at it instead of fire.
But seriously, ignoring is ugly behavior even towards people with whom you don’t like to communicate, and when it comes to a girl you’re interested in, it seems strange, illogical and unnatural.
Even if she doesn't understand what games you're playing, she'll likely be offended by such dismissive behavior. Or he might start ignoring you in retaliation, and how it will all end is a good question.
Post a few “harmless” photos of yourself and another girl
“Your girlfriend will probably become jealous if she sees a photo of you and another girl on your social media page. You can even make these photos your WhatsApp or Facebook profile pictures. This will really make her nervous and jealous.
Uploading a photo of you and another girl will send the signal that you value this girl more than her, and this will make your friend do everything possible to surpass whatever quality this girl has that makes you upload her photos.”
Without finding fault with the fact that the author repeats himself in his hope that the girl will rush to remake herself and imitate a stranger, we will simply again suggest looking at the situation from the other side: would you be pleased with similar posts and avatars on her account?
Of course, it is absolutely normal for both of you to have friends of the opposite sex, but in some situations such behavior can greatly upset the girl and make her think about the strength and seriousness of your relationship, as well as her true place in your life. That's not what you want to achieve, is it?
Text another girl while she's with you
“This is another powerful way to make your girlfriend jealous and crave your attention more than usual. When you both are together, sometimes concentrate on your phone and text the other girl.
The content of your chat, however, should be innocent so that if she eventually insists on knowing what you're chatting about with this girl, you can show the correspondence."
Let's just say that texting (chatting, not responding to an important and urgent message) on a date is indecent. And it doesn’t matter whether you’re communicating with a girl or a guy: such behavior is not only a cheap trick, but also a frank expression of disrespect for your companion.
Always look good
“All eyes are always on guys who dress well and look their best. Even without flirting, girls all over the world crave to deal with stylishly dressed guys.
So when you always look good, your girlfriend will be a little jealous because she will always be afraid that someone somewhere will be working hard to take her place. And if, in addition to your cool bow, you sometimes distance yourself from her, she will not only be jealous, but also miss you desperately. You will even feel that she is afraid of losing you.”
The advice itself is not bad, but its purpose is, to put it mildly, strange. Don’t you think that it would be more correct and logical to look cool not for someone or something, but for yourself?
— to feel comfortable and confident?
So stop looking for cunning ways to increase her love for you through suffering, worries and resentment - by giving the girl positive emotions and attention, you can achieve this more accurately and faster.
- Author: Maria Minaeva
Signs of female jealousy
Often, girls do not show guys that they are jealous of them. This is how they try to maintain their dignity. But there are several sure signs by which you can guess that your beloved is reacting to your provocations.
Feigned indifference
She does not agree to the meeting, refuses to go for a walk, and does not make contact. The girl is very angry with you, mentally ready to break up. Do not pester your beloved with persuasion and questions about her mood, leave her alone for a couple of days. The girl needs to cool down and put her thoughts in order.
Irritability
A woman is irritated by everything connected with you: appearance, conversations, touches. A jealous girl shows that the guy is to blame, must change his behavior and apologize for flirting with others, for compliments not addressed to her.
Quarreling
Scandals arise almost without reason. The reason could be being late for a couple of minutes, talking on the phone with a friend, reading an SMS while meeting her. But don’t expect the girl to directly say that she is jealous and suspects you of cheating.
Constant control
The girl will check where you are now, who is nearby, and suspect you of lying. Especially if there is a long distance between you, for example, you are separated for a while in different cities or you are vacationing separately. Get used to frequent calls and hysterics if a girl hears female voices next to you.
Checking SMS, correspondence on social networks
A jealous woman will definitely try to control correspondence, read SMS on her phone and view calls. We advise you not to hide your phone; this act will provoke a quarrel and, possibly, separation due to distrust in your partner.
Women's jealousy is based on strong emotions. Suspicions turn the girl into an unpredictable fury. If you decide to purposefully seek jealousy from your beloved, be prepared for outbursts of negativity, resentment and quarrels. But then a heated reconciliation awaits you. For this reason, it is sometimes worth conducting forbidden experiments on your partner’s feelings.
Long distance relationship
It happens that your communication occurs only through the Internet and phone calls. It’s okay, if you lack the spark of jealousy, then you can lightly rekindle it, incl. for long distance relationships.
In such a situation, methods for ordinary relationships are also suitable. Again, a couple of compliments to another lady and undisguised admiration can work. You can spend time in the company of girls, taking general photos. The meeting or admiration can be fictitious, the main thing is to communicate about it in correspondence. And then your girl will think of everything for herself, starting to be jealous.
If the girl is far away, then social networks will become the most powerful weapon for jealousy.
You can start creating a specially unknown beauty, add her as a friend and check in with a couple of likes and comments on your personal page. This fake page will not escape the attention of your crush. It is not forbidden to create a real page with a girl, but this is already more fraught with consequences.
Your friend will not forget to notice the appearance of a new photograph with a positive assessment of external data and the wealth of the inner world and a caption that she is your new colleague. Your photo together with this girl will receive special attention.
Often a guy starts writing and sending hearts and emoticons at the same time, for example, after the end of the working day. You can try to write to the girl later. Such a delay will alert your partner and help her understand that you have your own life, where you have your own interests. Your authority in her eyes will inevitably increase.
The fact that several new representatives of the fairer sex appear among your friends, without specifying their personalities, will also cause jealousy. This will prompt your friend to do her own research to find her rival and evaluate her personal positive and negative qualities.
Dissemination of information using the Internet4
Yes, no matter how stupid it may sound, it is simply necessary, information on social networks. Your photos with a new image, a new girl, or just in nature with mutual friends will touch her to the quick. “How did he become better, more interesting, he’s not at all bored without me, in this photo he’s with someone, not with me.”
Even if in the photo you are at a corporate picnic, or drinking coffee with friends in a cafe. Create the appearance that everything is fine with you, you are happy, you live life to the fullest and you have a lot of fun without her.
Side effects
In psychology there is such a thing as abuse - when one of the partners exerts significant moral pressure on the other
In order not to abuse your influence, not to manipulate a girl and to use jealousy within reasonable limits, you need to approach this issue with caution, adhering to the golden mean
READ How to stop being jealous and screwing yourself up: advice from a psychologist for women
To experience jealousy means to experience a whole range of contradictory emotions, far from positive: doubts, fear, pride, envy, selfishness. Therefore, if you overdo it in your desire to tie a girl to you, the relationship will not last long. Or vice versa, they will become painful for both sides.
Problems that may arise
As has already been said, you need to feel the line and if you step over it, your relationship will break. The right approach is variety and good timing.
You should not court any one specific woman, so your lady will decide that you are cheating on her. But if you decide to communicate with a wide range of ladies, constantly switching from one to another, you can already see your desire to find something new and interesting, exactly what your beloved should give you.
Learn to balance, play on her experiences, while never creating a serious reason to doubt your fidelity.
Perhaps the worst thing that can happen is that it is not always possible to return your beloved.
Indifference
Another, unfavorable outcome is if the girl closes her eyes to your adventures, and even starts looking for a replacement for you. Moreover, on her part, this will not be an attempt to cause jealousy, but rather a desire to find another, more faithful man. Jealous ladies are not always hot and groovy; sometimes they are simply tired of wasting their time on someone who doesn’t need it.
