Nonverbal signs of communication between a man and a woman - how to distinguish them and why is it beneficial for us to know about them?

Women often complain that men do not understand them. To men, women's conversations seem illogical and empty. Why do such disagreements arise between people who sincerely want to understand each other?

The science called gender psychology studies the differences in the psychology of men and women. She identified about 300 differences between the characteristics of thinking and behavior of representatives of different sexes. The priority direction of her study is gender characteristics of communication.

A man thinks in verbs and nouns, and a woman thinks in adjectives. Oleg Roy.

Difference table

It's no secret that men and women are very different. They perceive information differently, they have different needs, views on life, thinking, gestures and facial expressions. Let's take a closer look at this difference in the table:

Which of us has a greater need for communication?

Already from early childhood, girls have a greater need for communication than boys. Over the years, this trend has continued. Representatives of the fair sex are superior to men in verbal abilities. They have a richer vocabulary and faster speaking speed.

The main thing in communication for men is to achieve results as quickly as possible. That is why in a conversation they tend to speak to the point, starting the conversation with important points. For representatives of the stronger sex, logical, consistent and well-reasoned statements are important. They do not like lengthy discussions and abstract conversations. Women prefer to have a long conversation, giving a large number of examples. They like to find out the truth during the conversation, asking a large number of questions.

A very important point, which quite often leads to conflict situations, is that when a man is busy with something, he will not carry on the conversation. It is natural for women to multitask and discuss the latest news. Men always focus on performing one type of activity; they cannot distribute their attention. Women need to take this into account. If a man is busy, then it is better to postpone the conversation with him.

Manifestations in men

• If a guy wants to please, or shows interest, he straightens his shoulders, sucks in his stomach and raises his head. He may begin to unknowingly tidy himself up by straightening his hair or his shirt collar. When the opportunity arises, he looks for an opportunity to be closer, and in a large company, the toes of his shoes will be turned towards you. He might accidentally touch you, your hair or your hand.
• Recognizing love is not difficult. It is worth taking a closer look at his pupils in a room where there is natural light; if they are dilated, you were able to conquer him. His gaze periodically looks away when you look at him. It’s just important to understand the difference between boredom and the desire to hide their feelings towards you. When meeting, he may subtly raise one or both eyebrows upward.
• If, when communicating with you, he spreads his legs wide apart, unbuttons the top button of his shirt, glances over his figure and looks carefully at his lips, then this signals an increased interest in you, only of a sexual nature.
• Think about what mistake you made if the man next to you begins to yawn, invite other interlocutors to talk, and periodically glances at his watch or phone. An unfocused look, toes of shoes turned towards the exit, fidgeting in a chair or nervously tapping his fingers on the table are signals that he can’t wait to leave your company.

Tips for Better Communication

1) Communicate regularly

Don't wait until conflict arises to determine how you will respond. Make it a regular part of your day to communicate with your partner. You don't need to say much, start by asking simple questions and encourage your partner to answer in a way that you understand. Take turns talking, by doing this you begin to learn to respect each other's point of view and practice your listening skills.

2) Listen carefully

Show your partner your undivided attention. Make sure that the noise in your environment is kept to a minimum, turn off the TV, put away your cell phone, in general, you need to disconnect from all distractions. Pay attention to the details, your partner will give you "key words" to help you understand. Listening carefully is a great way to show love and respect.

Manifestations in a woman

• Signs of sympathy are more pronounced - in addition to dilated pupils, girls’ cheeks often turn red, they linger longer on the person they like, they can lick their lips, preen themselves, and make slips of the tongue in a conversation. The mood is lifted, sometimes they even laugh at bad jokes, they can copy a pose, quite unconsciously wanting to be “on the same wavelength.” She crosses her legs so that you can appreciate her thigh; if you are sitting next to her, she may touch you with her shoulder, as if by chance. If her toes are turned towards you, but at that moment she is flirting with another guy, it is likely that she wants to make you jealous, or to check your reaction, how much you liked her.
• When there is sexual interest, the girl casually, at the slightest opportunity, examines the guy’s figure. He may do this demonstratively, but for some reason this gaze often remains unrecognized.
• A sign that she is not at all interested in your communication or is already quite tired of it is the same as with guys. The girl will show interest in everything, but not in you, she may yawn, cover her mouth with her palm, as if supporting her chin and cheek. If, in addition to all the signs, her posture is completely closed, with her arms or legs crossed, then nothing good will come of it at the moment.

The important point is that most of the signs must be present at the same time, otherwise, it is likely that the interest will turn out to be false or not directed at you.

There are times when a girl’s eyes light up, there is a happy smile and her pupils are dilated just because she just recently had a meeting with another person.

What pushes a man to be friends with a woman?

If a man offers friendship to a woman (Not “Alen” serving “Vaginal Parasites”), it is important to understand the problems that led such a man to this decision. We are talking about problems, and there can be many of them:

• The woman is not attractive enough, but she’ll be fine for friendly get-togethers. The classic answer to the question: “Will a guy communicate with a girl he doesn’t like”;
• Financial instability in life, which is easiest to hide at the friendship stage;
• Real problems with men's health, for example, with potency;
• Lack of own housing. A common problem due to which men get stuck at the friendship stage for a long time, which is not good;
• The uncertainty that usually settles in the minds of men after a failed relationship.

When a guy doesn’t want a relationship, but wants to communicate, and such communication drags on so much that the woman begins to get wrinkles before realizing that almost her whole life has passed her by, it’s difficult to call such a friendship... um... Friendship.

Recommendations for women

1. In a conversation, try to start with the main thing, and only then move on to the details, because you may well cause irritation with a long story. A guy’s type of thinking is such that when he hears about a problem, he immediately needs to look for a solution, while a girl sometimes just needs to talk it out.
2. You should walk towards or next to him with a straight back and raised head, just don’t overdo it so that he doesn’t consider you arrogant and arrogant. Movements should be free and relaxed, in which case you will give the impression of a confident woman.
3. It is possible to show that you have sympathy with the help of a non-verbal invitation to your personal space - move closer to him, reducing the distance between you, lightly touch him with your shoulder or fingertips in conversation, and also tilt your body closer to him, this will create a feeling of closeness .
4. Repeat his pose, just not often, not demonstratively, but casually, thereby creating an environment for trust. Adjust your hair occasionally and smile sincerely. You can read how to do this in the article “The most interesting features of nonverbal communication between people.”
5. Try to be natural; you should not use all seduction techniques at the same time, otherwise this may cause completely opposite feelings in your interlocutor.
6. When you want to express your point of view, start with the phrase “I think” instead of using “I feel”, this will give the words more weight, then they will listen to you. After all, as you know, the weak half of humanity is distinguished by its emotionality, its tendency to make decisions under the influence of feelings, relying on intuition, while the strong half is guided by logic.

The role of a woman in the art of emotional conversation

A woman always sets the tone in a relationship. She is desirable, and the man goes where she unconsciously attracts him. Therefore, starting a sincere, sincere conversation, that is, being naked mentally, is easier and more natural for a woman. It is much easier for her than for a man to be open. This does not mean the exchange of rational information (paying bills, shopping, vacation plans), we need this in everyday life, but this does not apply to creating an emotional connection.

By starting to talk about herself, about her feelings, sharing her innermost things, a woman involves a man in confidential communication. And he responds, responds with frankness to frankness, because this is always a mutual process.

At the same time, you should not be afraid to express yourself the way you feel, the way you want, even if there is no such attitude on the other side yet. The man will gradually get involved. You walk forward and he follows you.

The rapprochement of souls occurs gradually; you should not start with difficult and painful revelations. Let intimacy begin first. It’s better to start with some innocent but dear childhood memories, perhaps related to food, or children’s secrets. This will naturally relieve some of the initial tension of revealing the secret. Give the man the opportunity to answer, to open up himself, to speak. Listen to him, focus on him. Let him know how much you appreciate his sincerity.

Gradually you will feel trust and will be able to share even more intimate things and inner states. This is especially important for carriers of the sound-visual bundle of vectors, for whom mental and intellectual connections are the most important in life.

Recommendations for men

1. If you smile too often, you may be perceived suspiciously, therefore, as for the opposite sex, it is important to be able to laugh sincerely. If you remember, the psychology of the weaker sex is such that they easily read non-verbal information; this skill was inherent in nature so that the mother could recognize the needs of her baby. Therefore, the most basic recommendation is to be sincere.
2. When communicating, show as many open gestures as possible, which indicate a willingness to be honest and open. For example, don’t hide your palms, don’t cross your legs...
3. You should not keep your attention on other girls, otherwise the interlocutor will catch your gaze, which will not have a positive effect on the relationship.
4. There is a gesture that indicates your self-confidence and inner strength, it is called the “pyramid”, this is when the fingertips and palms are joined together. So, if you want to conquer your interlocutor and not give away your excitement, use it during meetings.
5. To make you more inclined to have an intimate relationship, you can use this technique: place your index finger on your lower lip, hold it for a couple of seconds, then lightly tap the lip a couple of times and remove it. This will cement the message and desire to move to a new level in the girl’s subconscious.
6. Listen carefully, try not to interrupt, lean your body forward slightly to demonstrate your interest.
7. You can put your thumbs behind the belt, and if you are sitting, keep your hands on your hips, or stretch your legs forward, this will create a feeling of your disposition towards the girl, as well as a manifestation of love and a demonstration of masculinity.

About the fear of betrayal

And sometimes we are afraid of betrayal. What if our openness is used to our detriment? What if our words and experiences become the subject of ridicule and discussion?

Here it is worth weighing the risk that we take by opening our soul (of course, not to the first person we meet, but to the person to whom we are attracted, with whom we want to build a relationship), and the pleasure from rapprochement, the unity of souls, which leads to the creation of truly happy relationships, including sexual ones. What could be greater pleasure from a spiritual connection with another person? It's worth the risk.

Moreover, the risk is not as great as we think. If you understand the person with whom you are building a relationship as well, and even better, than he understands himself. Even basic knowledge about the human psyche, obtained through training in system-vector psychology, makes this possible for everyone.