The man doesn’t call or write, why, how to behave, what to do

What does it mean if a man doesn’t call or write, how to behave in such cases - women often ask these questions. It is especially incomprehensible when everything seemed to be fine on a date and at a meeting, and then the gentleman seemed to disappear. Girls begin to worry, finding no place for themselves, trying to understand why the man stopped calling, writing messages and does not take the initiative. After all, they say everywhere that a woman should maintain her dignity and not call first, not “hang on her neck.”

But questions arise - what if something happened to him, suddenly he got sick or got into trouble, and you don’t even know. You wait and wait, the darkest thoughts appearing in your head.

So what to do if a man is silent and does not call. In this article we will try to understand the situation and consider different solutions.

If a man stopped writing and calling – what are the reasons?

Situations when a man suddenly disappears - stops writing and calling - usually arise in the early stages of a relationship. Many girls don't attach any importance to this. For them, this guy’s behavior is a signal for immediate separation.

After all, it is the representative of the stronger sex who must take the first step and pay attention. Ladies with low self-esteem often begin to suffer from the sudden disappearance of men.

If we are not talking about an established and consolidated relationship, then the most logical thing is to tell him to go to hell and continue living your life. After all, it’s clear that if a person wants to communicate with you, he will always find the time and opportunity for this. Moreover, in our time, when there are no problems with communication.

But it’s always easier said than done. Even an experienced woman with adequate self-esteem and an impressive list of broken men’s hearts cannot always easily forget about a planned romance. What then can we expect from a young and inexperienced girl - it is quite natural that such behavior from a man will plunge her into severe “troubles”.

A typical set of hypotheses, as a rule, is small and tragic: “he doesn’t want to communicate with me,” “he definitely has someone,” “there’s something wrong with me.”

But a guy's disappearance doesn't always mean the end of a relationship.

Let's look at common cases of why a man doesn't call or write, plunging the relationship into uncertainty.

Possible reasons:

The guy is too modest and timid . This happens, and he may be afraid to disturb you or call you at an inconvenient moment. She’s shy and worried that the conversation won’t work out, and doubts that you like her. But such behavior is justified for young guys who do not yet have experience in relationships. For an adult man, excessive timidity is not the best quality.
Sudden important matters appeared . Perhaps something happened to his loved ones, a friend needed help, or was urgently sent on a business trip at work. In this situation, a man’s silence for several days can be considered the norm.
He thinks too highly of himself and is sure that girls should run after him, call him and write to him. Comments are unnecessary here - such a man is not worth attention and a relationship with him is dangerous for psychological health.
He has problems and wants to be alone. Men tend to withdraw when difficulties occur in their lives. A man with a strong character is not used to complaining to a woman and laying out all his problems as if in spirit. Perhaps he is not in the mood to communicate with anyone at all; he wants to be alone with himself, in his thoughts. Or the guy is just emotionally tired and wants to retire for a while.
Doesn't want to seem intrusive. Communication in couples can develop differently. Some communicate quite actively, others much less often. When a girl takes the position of never being the first to take the initiative in communication, especially if she does not always answer a man’s calls and messages, he may get the impression that she is not interested in a relationship with him. He may feel as if he is being imposed upon. This feeling is extremely unpleasant, and over time they begin to deter a man from initiating communication with a girl.
He doubted. When we met, I fell under the spell or my own mood. Maybe under the influence of alcohol. Afterwards, he overestimated his impressions and no longer saw the point of dialing the phone and continuing the relationship.
He decided to check on you. Some guys, like most women, like to test their partners' strength. He may not call in order to test your feelings, stir up interest and then dictate his own rules. It remains to be determined whether such a relationship is right for you. For a man, such tactics of behavior are abnormal and indicate that he has psychological trauma and problems.

Here we looked at situations where a man is still interested in a relationship, but for stated reasons may remain silent for some time. Usually not too long - within a week.

If a man does not write or call for a long time, then a woman should evaluate his behavior more rationally.

A case from the practice of a psychologist

Julia asked a question: Hello! Not long ago I met a man on the Internet. It took a long time to get an appointment, we immediately made an appointment.

The date went well, I liked him, it seemed to me that he liked me too. We talked all evening, after which he called me a taxi home. After this meeting, he did not call or write. A day later, I wrote myself and asked if everything was okay and why he disappeared.

I asked him to be honest if he didn’t like me and wasn’t in the mood for a relationship. But he answered. that everything is fine, he liked me, he just has a lot of work and is not a fan of correspondence. He prefers face-to-face communication, but he hasn’t set up a new date; he said he doesn’t know exactly when he’ll have free time.

If a man doesn’t like to call and write, but at the same time is in no hurry to make appointments, what does this mean, is it worth waiting and continuing the relationship with him?

Psychologist/psychotherapist Elena Maksimenko will answer : “Hello, Yulia! Only you can decide whether you should continue the relationship and wait for the initiative from the man.

Obviously, a man interested in a relationship will not leave a girl in limbo, and even if he really has little free time, he will always find it when he really needs it.

Not all men, and even women, like to communicate by correspondence, and this is normal. But in your case, I don't see this as a problem. It seems that the man is in no hurry to develop an acquaintance, otherwise he would hasten to let you know that he liked you and wants to repeat.

The psyche of a healthy man is structured in such a way that he, like a hunter and conqueror, having spotted the desired “prey”, will not let it go from his hands. In this case, it does not seem that you have become an object of desire for him. This does not mean at all that there is something wrong with you.

It's just that this is most likely not your person. Think carefully about whether it’s worth wasting your time and nerves on unclear expectations.”

Not interested

The man is not too fascinated by his new acquaintance. He does not want to fool her and continue communication out of politeness. An experienced woman will notice a lack of interest a couple of days after online communication or on the first date by the following signs:

The guy answers questions in monosyllables, reluctantly.
Doesn't invite you on a date, doesn't ask for your phone number.
If the date has taken place, then the man does not agree on the next meeting, he is clearly bored.
Does not ask questions, does not take the initiative to continue communication.
Constantly talks about his ex. Probably, feelings for her have not cooled down yet.

A man's disinterest in a woman does not call into question her beauty and intelligence. You might not agree on interests, tastes, or temperaments. There is nothing to be upset or cry about here.

What to do

You just need to come to terms with the fact that a man is not fascinated by you. You shouldn't be actively interested in yourself; you shouldn't impose yourself. Start looking for another guy.

To cope with this unpleasant situation, use the advice of psychologists:

Let go of false hopes. Don't think about how to please this person. Never expect a call or SMS from him, try to forget your new acquaintance.
Start your day on a positive note. Tune in for the best, don’t let sad thoughts enter your soul.
Remove his number from your phone, his account from your list of friends in instant messengers, VK.
Make a tight schedule of classes for a couple of weeks: go to visit, go to the gym for training.
Actively meet new guys, but don't make long-term plans for a relationship.

Tired of waiting, girls often use fortune telling to find the reason for male silence. Coffee, cards, witches, horoscopes. Whether you will receive a truthful answer to all questions is unknown. But magical rituals will definitely distract you from sad thoughts, at least for a short time.

A man doesn’t call or write after a date – reasons and what to do

It happens that you went on a first date and everything seemed to go well - he was kind, you struck up a conversation, you had a pleasant evening. Any girl begins to expect a reaction from a guy after the first meeting, especially if she really liked him. But the man does not call or write first the next day. What could be the reason?

Yes, something is clearly wrong here. After all, when we are very attracted to a person, we do not waste time to win him over and start a relationship with him.

Psychologists identify several possible options for why a guy doesn’t call or text after a date.

Offended

This option is possible even after a first date or online communication. It’s easy to offend a man’s ego if we touch on the following topics:

A man will not forgive anyone for ridiculing tears, vulnerability, or fears.
Comparisons with other guys, exes (not in favor of the interlocutor).
Discussion of his shortcomings in a bantering, harsh manner.
Showing dissatisfaction after intimacy, ambiguous jokes.
Stories about what your girlfriends think about him. Of course, all women discuss boyfriends and husbands with their friends, but it is not necessary to tell a man about this.
Demonstration of intellectual, physical superiority on the part of a woman. This is a powerful blow to a man’s pride; he wants to be the first in everything.

You weren't his type, he didn't like you

This is perhaps the most common reason that explains a man’s behavior after the first date. Women tend to idealize everything, especially if they are single. They can regard even banal politeness as something more.

Don't create illusions, then you won't have to be disappointed. You shouldn’t be upset either, you can’t please everyone. If a man doesn’t call, don’t worry, but try to analyze what caused his antipathy.

Perhaps your appearance or manners make a repulsive impression. In this case, your next gentleman will behave in exactly the same way. I'll have to work on myself.

This simple answer has deep roots. Even though you're having a great time, it doesn't necessarily mean the same thing to him as it does to you. You need to understand whether such a “cool” relationship is worth continuing. Nobody wants to be an “alternate airfield.”

There is no point in wasting time on a person who does not see the prospects for further relationships. Don't call or write to him. Wait until he calls first. Then his motives will be clear to you. And if he doesn’t call, it’s completely clear that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

Understand that if a man wants it, he will call, write, come, find the time and resources for this. And there is no need to engage in self-deception, to come up with reasons why he did not do this.

He likes you too much, but he has low self-esteem

Not all men are so confident in themselves as to be convinced that any girl will be interested in them. Some people tend to doubt and worry, especially if the lady they like made a strong positive impression and captivated them at first sight.

They, just like girls, are afraid of being rejected and misunderstood. Give the man time to collect his thoughts and decide to take the first step, because not everyone is able to immediately show attention to their passion and call her on a second date when he has not yet moved on from the first.

Optimal waiting period The optimal waiting period is 3-5 days. If during this time a man has not written, called or indicated his relationship to you in any way, you should not continue to build illusions and come up with excuses in your head.

Even the most modest man will take a step if it is important to him. And if he doesn’t do that, do you need him so indecisive?

Two typical situations

Let's consider two typical situations. The guy met the girl. They liked each other and began to communicate. He began to write her regular messages, take an interest in her affairs, and invite her to romantic meetings. Perhaps they have already been on one or several dates, where everything was innocent and romantic, or, on the contrary, everything went too far, when suddenly the young man disappeared from the horizon.

The man stopped calling and writing. He either ignores the worried girl’s messages or answers briefly and dryly that he’s busy at work and doesn’t have time to write love letters. It’s one thing if a man can’t write during working hours when he’s really busy, but what’s stopping him from writing in the evening and wishing good night to the girl he likes? For a girl, this situation is negative and incomprehensible: the man doesn’t seem to be holding her, but he’s not letting her go either. She begins to worry and look for the reasons for such unconventional behavior of the young man, thinking that she did something wrong and pushed her lover away from her. The correspondence becomes one-sided. Now only the girl writes, bombarding the man with messages and eloquent emoticons, and he does not take any part in this. But is she doing the right thing? Or does it worsen an already stalemate?

The second situation is similar to the previous one. Only this time, the young people met for a long time, loved each other, perhaps managed to live together, and then, for one reason or another, separated. Six months, a year or several years later they met by chance. And the old feelings were resurrected again. They began to correspond, call each other, went on a date, and spent a stormy night together. And voila, the man stopped calling and writing. Disappeared without explanation. Or, in response to another excited message from his ex, he wrote that he was sent on a business trip or was so busy at work that he had no time to even eat, let alone write to the one who should, in theory, excite his heart and make him boil blood. What is this? Formal indifference, coldness, or simply a desire to remain good, but to withdraw according to the principle: I got used to it and quit? No matter how much one would like to find an excuse for such a man’s behavior, one must look at the further development of the situation. Will the man get in touch in the next few days? Or will the girl not stand it and start writing him message after message, worrying about why he is silent?

In both situations described above, the men stopped calling and writing. And women, as expected, begin to worry and act impulsively, focusing on their feelings and emotions and bombarding their lovers with messages. Which is fundamentally wrong for the development of any relationship.

A man is a hunter by nature. He lives by reason. And the desire to hunt “game”, which already belongs to him and shows it in every possible way, disappears. The persistence shown by the girl, turning into obsession, is repulsive. Isn't it time for a representative of the fairer sex to change tactics and break her patterned behavior?

Why did the man suddenly stop writing and calling?

A situation that leaves girls in great confusion and becomes the cause of sleepless nights and burning tears: two people communicate, meet, have fun and usefully spend time, there is no reason for offense on either side. And suddenly, absolutely out of the blue, the man stops calling, does not respond to messages and SMS.

Yesterday he kissed goodbye and said, “see you,” and today there is deaf silence. At the same time, he appears on the social network and definitely sees the messages (whether he views it or not is a secondary question). In other words, it ignores.

At first, the girl attributes his behavior to being busy. This option cannot be dismissed outright, but when the situation gets out of control and lasts for several days or weeks, it’s time to take a sober look at things. Let's leave him a 1% chance to explain himself: he is seriously ill, he left and someone from his family is coming from his page, his account was hacked, he did not have the opportunity to call/write.

In other cases, everything is prosaic: he puts you in your place, makes it clear that you cannot lay claim to him and his life.

This is his choice - this is such a free, non-binding relationship. Maybe it seemed to him that you were crossing an invisible line, maybe that’s actually the case. This means that you look at your mate differently.

After a couple of weeks, or a month, or even a year, just when you forgot to think about him, he will show up and, as if nothing had happened, ask how you are doing and offer to meet. What to do is up to you. But you can be sure that the scenario will repeat itself exactly.

He is married

An unexpected meeting or online acquaintance with a married man is not uncommon. And girls are not always aware of the marital status of a new acquaintance.

Dizzying sex, kisses, passionate SMS drove the guy crazy, and he forgot, on purpose or by accident, to tell him that he was married. After a few dates or chatting online, he disappeared, and thank God.

Married men stop calling or writing for several reasons:

Communication was interrupted by the legal spouse. Now the phone and accounts on WhatsApp and VK are under strict control. The man will definitely not get in touch for a long time.
The guy realized that he was making a mistake. He is ashamed in front of his wife and children. He is not obliged to explain anything to his new acquaintance.
A married man was drunk, he felt lonely, or he had a huge quarrel with his wife. The guy made a new acquaintance by chance; in the morning, when he was sober, he decided “not to misbehave” anymore.

What to do

Close communication with a married man is unacceptable for a decent girl. You need to tune in to the breakup and ignore messages that may arrive after a long time.

So, now you know what to do if a guy doesn’t write and why this happens. Remember that men are built differently. They can disappear for several days without good reason and not feel guilty for remaining silent. And women at this moment find no place to worry and worry. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is calm down and wait 2-3 days, and not call 10 times a day to get an explanation.

A man does not write or call after sex

Sudden and violent sex happened between you. This sometimes happens at the first meeting. Everything went perfectly - you had a good time and regarded it as the beginning of a relationship. You are sure that the meeting will happen again soon and you are waiting. But after sex, the man simply up and disappeared.

Most likely, your sudden connection was a moment of weakness for him. It is likely that he already has a girlfriend, wife, mistress (underline as necessary), the relationship with her is satisfactory, and yesterday’s flirting (and even sex) was like a breath of fresh air, a desire to have fun, be distracted, and add variety to his life.

But he has no desire to destroy a permanent relationship. And he simply will not appear in your life again, since he does not need a relationship with you.

Finding out the ins and outs of your “beloved” will not be particularly difficult. Having a little data, you can find pages on social networks, look at photos, find mutual acquaintances, and make inquiries.

Even if there is no particularly compromising evidence in his profile, a lot of information can be gleaned from the pages of friends and relatives. Next to him is a sultry blonde, a woman with three children under the Christmas tree, or a whole kaleidoscope of beauties? Run, Lola, run!

You shouldn’t waste your time and nerves on him; he won’t appreciate it and is unlikely to be grateful for the interference in his life. You shouldn’t think that in you he found the one and only, and everything that came before can and should be considered a mistake. It would be a mistake to cling to illusory hopes.

In the end, even if he shows up, at best you are destined for the role of a mistress. Didn't call back after sex

But it is also likely that before the first intimacy the guy really made big plans and did not lie when talking about serious intentions. But after sex everything changed. Either he didn’t like you as an intimate partner, or he, based on his observations, concluded that you didn’t like him.

perhaps sex was the partner’s only goal and a serious relationship was not initially planned. The result has been achieved, the height has been taken, and then on to the next victories.

Summary

If a man shows up after his sudden disappearance, then you should not demand from him an account of where he disappeared and what happened to him. Being offended is also not an option if you want to get out of this situation with dignity and force a man to respect you. You must pretend that you did not notice his absence in your life. You had a lot to do even without him. Just ask how he is doing and calmly continue communicating with him without freaking out, as most girls dependent on men would do. You must be a level above all his other passions. You must be self-sufficient. If he asks you out on a date, then promise to find time and think about his proposal, and do not immediately rush headlong into the pool, as soon as he beckons you with his finger. You have dignity. You are a woman. You are ready to love a man if he loves you. And nothing else.

A man should see that you live a full life, in which everything is scheduled according to the clock. With or without him. And he needs to try hard for you to find time in your schedule to date him. He must want to become a part of your life. Then he won't want to disappear anymore and make you worry about him. He will want to be near you all the time.

Remember the Chinese saying that ten steps separate a man and a woman? Use it actively in your life.

If you took your five steps, and no one met you there, then do not wait for the man who has disappeared from your life, turn around and boldly leave. If a man needs you, he will definitely call and get in touch with you. And if not, then he does not strive for a serious relationship. Find the courage to admit to yourself that he doesn't need you. And continue to live as if he was not in your life. This way you will preserve your dignity and emerge victorious from the unpleasant story you got into by giving your heart to a man who is indifferent to you.

If a man begins to write and call less often, what does this mean?

When your beloved man first took the initiative and paid enough attention to you, and then suddenly began calling and texting less often, this carries a certain subtext.

Women tend to justify their loved ones, but often this turns into even greater pain and suffering. After all, expectations are usually not met.

It’s worth clarifying right away about being busy - anyone can find 30-40 seconds to write a short message, regardless of their profession and work schedule. You should not console yourself with the fact that he simply does not like to write SMS, or does not want to be distracted from work.

Moreover, you shouldn’t beat yourself up by talking about your own unattractiveness. Often there is a fear of intrusiveness when you have already written several messages yourself. And he continues to respond to them less and less.

If this happens, this is a serious reason to think about ending the relationship and any expectations.

Try to call a man for a serious conversation and clarify your relationship. Of course, in the most calm and diplomatic manner possible. Perhaps he himself admits that he no longer wants a relationship, but did not dare to end it for fear of offending you.

If a man avoids the conversation and does not give clear answers or clarify the situation, then you must understand that all this will continue, and you will suffer. Do you want this? You decide.

But sometimes you need to take the initiative into your own hands and break ties with a person who behaves inappropriately, does not consider it necessary to be honest with you and does not care about your psychological well-being - he does not care about your feelings.

When a man says - you call and write, but he remains silent for a week, two or more, this also only says one thing - you are not important to him. He may not mind meeting you sometimes and spending time or chatting if you write, but he is not going to conquer you, nor is he going to build something serious with you.

It is worth understanding a simple and banal thing - if a person does not think about you, does not seek communication, he is not interested, there are no feelings. Therefore, waiting for it to appear on the mobile screen is stupid.

If a guy disappears after a few months of communication

It happens that a guy stops writing first even after several months of a serious relationship. Reasons for this behavior include:

The guy is tired of frequent correspondence . At first, a young man can shower a girl with love stickers and poems. But when the relationship became established, short and not very frequent correspondence became enough for him. The best solution for a girl would be to take the situation calmly and not demand special attention;
Resentment . A girl could accidentally hurt a man’s pride, and a guy would be ashamed to admit his small weaknesses, which she involuntarily drew attention to. The lady should remember what she said before her lover became sharply indifferent to communication. If offensive words really come to mind, then you should directly ask him about it and, if necessary, apologize;
New love . Even when the relationship seems stable, a guy can become infatuated with another person. At the same time, it’s hard for a young man to break his girlfriend’s heart and it’s easier for him to remain silent and hope that she herself will gradually grow cold towards him.

He disappeared after an argument - what to do?

They say that real men don't get offended. These are all prejudices. A man is the same person, he has feelings, emotions, he can be hurt, offended, greatly upset or disappointed.

If a guy stopped calling and texting after a quarrel, he is probably experiencing negative emotions and does not want to communicate with you.

What to do in such a situation?

First, analyze which of you was wrong. Perhaps you were the initiator of the quarrel and undeservedly offended him. In this case, an apology will not be superfluous. if a man is easy-going, he will forgive you and you will make peace.

But it is possible that the guy is a cunning manipulator. He can create reasons for quarrels himself, and then pretend to be offended, playing “silent”, without calling or sending any messages.

Does he need this for him? So, he is trying to make you feel guilty. When you rush to call him and ask for forgiveness, he will quietly begin to put forward conditions, adjusting you to himself. Narcissistic men often use these techniques.

It is worth being careful and objectively assessing the quarrel that has occurred, otherwise you can fall for cunning tricks and become a victim of the narcissist, from whom he will gradually suck all the energy and literally trample on him psychologically.

Therefore, the best tactic here would be to cool your mind and weigh the situation without emotions. You only need to apologize if you truly admit that you were wrong. In other cases, the man must ask for forgiveness himself if he wants to continue the relationship.

Question for a psychologist:

Hello! I met a man at a friends event. The evening in the company was fun. But nothing happened - they just chatted and joked. We exchanged phone numbers. The man promised to call and didn’t call, a week has passed, how should I react?

Psychologist's answer:

Why, in general, react somehow? It was a non-binding acquaintance in a relaxed atmosphere. Nothing happened between you except flirting, which also means nothing.

The man promised something, but did not fulfill his promise. Do you want a man who doesn't keep his promises?

It seems that you have overestimated casual acquaintance. This is typical for women. Move on with your life and don't think about him. Perhaps he no longer remembers you, and you are toiling and waiting. If I wanted to, I would call immediately, within 1-2 days. And since he hasn’t called all week, the answer is obvious.

Another one appeared

This is the most tragic answer to the question: “Why doesn’t the guy write or call?” While the young lady doesn’t let go of her phone and constantly checks social networks for new messages, the man is texting or meeting a new acquaintance.

What to do

If the chosen one has another woman, nothing needs to be done. Why do you need a man who quickly switches his attention from one female person to another. The appearance of another girl suggests that the guy did not love you with all his soul. Why hold him back and worry? Move on, look for real love, not fiction.

A man writes, but rarely – is there anything to hope for?

This situation is not hopeless. If a guy shows at least some initiative, that's not bad. But how to understand his true intentions?

It all depends on the style of communication, intonation, mood, topics of conversation. You need to pay attention to detail. Of course, it is much easier to feel a man’s true attitude towards you through live dialogue rather than correspondence. If you don't see each other, phone calls will save you. But based on text communication, incorrect conclusions are often drawn.

A man can really be very busy at work, school or business. Perhaps the start of your relationship simply coincided with such a difficult period in his life. If at the same time he is truly interested in you, he will make every effort to break out of the chain of affairs and see you.

If the guy just makes excuses and doesn’t even try to set a date for the next date, such a relationship can be considered unpromising.

How can you tell if you are interested or playing?

In many ways, people's attitude towards us depends on ourselves. Understand, it is not the man who decides that he will only have sex with this woman, but that he can marry this one. By her behavior, a woman herself creates a certain attitude towards herself. You can sit and endlessly analyze what is “wrong” with you if a man does not respond to your messages, or you can learn to create a decent attitude towards yourself.

Imagine the following situation: you have been texting for a long time and have finally chosen a day to meet. And now the man is going on a date. He doesn’t decide right away: “So, after the restaurant, we’ll go straight to my house and we’ll have sex!” No! He thinks: “We’ll see, let’s talk, and then we’ll see.” You interact, and during communication the man develops attitudes, intentions and desires to act (or not act).

If you want to learn how to create the right attitude of men towards yourself as a woman and attract worthy ones, I invite you right now to sign up for the free online course “Man: honest instructions for use.” In this 5-day free course, you will learn the secrets of harmonious relationships, work on your mistakes and look into the future much bolder! Register and I'll be waiting for you live! Thank you for reading this article to the end. I hope it was useful to you.

Yaroslav Samoilov

How to behave if a man doesn’t write or call - advice from a psychologist

Tell me, please, how important is it for your man to constantly write and call you? The cessation of communication with this subject can only be for the better, and fate is preparing a meeting with another, much better candidate. If this man ignores you when your relationship is just developing, then what will happen next. In a situation where a guy answers only when you are the first to make contact, the same story - do you need it, run after him?

Where in nature have you seen females running after males? When a man conquers a woman, this is the healthiest situation from a psychological point of view. Everything else does not lead to anything good.

How to behave - advice from a psychologist:

Keep your face up. Modesty suits a girl, but if you don’t have the strength to endure and remain silent, worry and be tormented, call him first. It may be embarrassing, offensive, uncomfortable, painful, but it is better to solve everything at once than to suffer endlessly.
Don't make excuses for him . Anecdotal situations also happen in life: a phone can fall into the water while fishing, into a toilet, or fall down an elevator shaft from the eighth floor. A man can go on shipping business to places where he can’t get cell phone reception. But if he really needs you, he will find a way to contact you in another way. Nowadays this is not so difficult to do.
Be clear, but don't be intrusive. If you have been dating for a while and your boyfriend has not observed such behavior before, call him and talk. There is no need to be intrusive, overprotective, blackmail, threaten - you need to understand what is happening. If he is sick, bring him broth and oranges, and if you are not sure of your choice, give him time to think alone.
Don't waste time sitting by the phone - live your life, it doesn't end. Shopping, shaping, a good movie or book act like medicine.
Maintain your self-esteem. It’s almost impossible to keep a man who has already decided everything for himself, don’t be humiliated!
Protect yourself from wrong actions. For especially sensitive people, there is an excellent remedy: give your phone number, but don’t write it down. It will be a shame if he doesn’t call, but there is absolutely no temptation to call and sort things out, since there is no way.

Balance of interests in love relationships

Girls tend to worry that their significant other sometimes treats them indifferently. In their opinion, this is expressed in a reluctance to text or talk in the evening before going to bed.

Sometimes a girl tries to force her boyfriend to be active in communication with reproaches or hysterics. This only makes the situation worse. For a young man, communicating with a girl turns into a “sacred duty”, in which he needs to squeeze out beautiful words and compliments.

Representatives of the stronger sex do not like pressure and instructions. They don’t want to feel obligated to call every day and talk for a long time about completely empty topics.

A couple in love should find a balance . On the one hand, it is really important for a girl to receive pleasant messages from her other half. If a guy loves her, he will be happy to find a couple of minutes in the evening for a short correspondence, which will not be a burden for him.

My girlfriend's secret

My friend Katya didn’t understand my whining. They always called her back. And even when the man made himself known late, she said: “My boyfriend is the best! Doesn’t write, doesn’t call, doesn’t invite me for a walk, doesn’t bother me - my sunshine.” I didn’t understand this attitude, but I had to admit that Katyusha was much luckier with the guys...

I unraveled my friend’s secret only a few years later, when I was already married. It was simple: if it happened that a man disappeared, Katya intuitively acted according to certain rules. And so he returned to her quite quickly.

I accidentally came across these very rules while watching a video on Lisa Volkova’s YouTube channel “POWER IN THOUGHT”. It talked about the behavior of a girl who is waiting for the first step from a man. It turned out that Katya did everything right, which, alas, I cannot say about myself.

By the way, how would you behave in such a situation?

No free time to write

Men and women are built completely differently.
If a girl, going about her daily affairs, does not let her betrothed out of her head and can periodically send him tender messages, then for a guy things are completely different. When a man is busy, he thinks exclusively about what he is doing now. If there is a rush at work, then the guy’s thoughts will be occupied only with quickly dealing with the accumulated work. Perhaps the car broke down and needs to be fixed urgently, or your mother called and needed help.

Most likely, you should have warned your girlfriend about how busy she is, but in fact this doesn’t always happen.

Of course, a man can be busy, but not for days or weeks on end. If during this time the young man still hasn’t found time for you, then he simply wasn’t looking for it. To eliminate doubts, just call him first.