Many people wonder why love is needed in a person's life. After all, you can simply live, mind your own business, build relationships based on mutual trust, work without thoughts of another person, which are constantly distracting. Sooner or later, everyone thinks about why love is needed at all, and comes to the conclusion that life would be much easier without this feeling. In fact, everything in the world is harmonious and coherent. If there is love in the world, our existence without it would be doomed. Let's figure out why this happens.
Why is love needed in a family?
Love comes in different forms. This feeling can arise in relation to parents, children, husband, friends and girlfriends, sisters and brothers, favorite characters from films and books. But love for loved ones with whom we come into daily contact is very important. Imagine that day after day you accumulate resentment and hostility towards your husband, because you don’t like the fact that not everything in his character is arranged the way you need. Then the answer to the question of why love is needed suggests itself. This feeling helps us come to terms with the small shortcomings of loved ones, look at them with understanding, accept them for who they are, let go of grievances and continue to live in mutual respect.
Drug addiction2
Love is often compared to drug addiction, alcoholism and gambling addiction. Is it so? Scientific research has confirmed this theory with 100% certainty. All of the above categories of people are distinguished by an excess amount of hormones secreted by the body - endorphin and enkephalin.
The first, in many ways similar to morphine, is produced in the cerebral cortex and reduces the feeling of pain. The second hormone also has the property of reducing pain. Both of them bring a feeling of pleasure, thus causing addiction. This is where the trap closes.
Mutual love
Many people, especially teenagers, wonder why love is needed if it is not mutual. The answer is very simple. If love is not reciprocated, then it is not love. It could be anything, such as affection, interest, or a desire to conquer a person. Love as such is manifested in the fact that people want the best for each other, plan their future lives together, are ready to help each other, and listen to each other. There is no feeling of hostility between them, there are no constant major quarrels or thoughts of a possible breakup. This concerns the love between a man and a woman.
It’s unlikely that anyone, when quarreling with their mother, thought that they needed to look for new parents. The same principle works with your other half. A person does not love his chosen one if he is thinking about leaving him.
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Then what is the danger if everything sounds so tempting? Unfortunately, physiology has not in the best way overlapped with the cult of romantic relationships in society. We need to have time to create a pair! How sad it is to live alone! Admit it, such thoughts have visited you at least once. Sometimes, in order to feel closeness or at least change their status on social networks, a person is ready to forget about himself, his dreams and talents. As a result, more and more often people find themselves in codependent relationships, when existence without a partner is unbearable, and loneliness turns into emotional torture. A leapfrog of novels and acquaintances begins, just to fill the gap in the soul.
How to learn to love
In order to be loved, you yourself must be able to show this feeling. It is not always possible to be tolerant and gentle towards loved ones, but this does not mean that you are cold towards them. Usually we don’t feel any emotions towards people we don’t like, even negative ones. So don't get angry if your mom asks you to wear a hat you don't like and your loved one insists that you come home early. This is ordinary care in which love is manifested.
Man is naturally capable of showing this bright feeling. The problem is that he may not realize his potential if he does not have a love object nearby. When someone worthy of his attention appears in a person’s life, the thought no longer arises about why a person needs love and how to learn to experience this feeling.
Law of nature
American psychologist and one of the founders of modern psychology, William James, was sure that the deepest quality of people is a passionate desire to be appreciated. Our social nature condemns us to be emotionally dependent on the acceptance of other people. Even if you consider yourself a self-sufficient person, the assessment of others still affects you.
At the very least, it is the degree of acceptance and feedback from other people that shape our self-image even in childhood. Without “You” there is no “I” - this is the main law of personality development. Let's remember Abraham Maslow's ubiquitous pyramid of needs: if you don't want to eat or sleep yet, and there is a fairly safe environment around us, the need for belonging and acceptance comes into play - the need for love.
Love as a way to realize oneself
The question of why relationships and love are needed is not asked by people who are happy with their soulmate, as well as those inspired by this sense of personality. It is difficult to imagine how many poems, songs were written, pictures were drawn, musical masterpieces were invented, feats were accomplished, and new phenomena were discovered thanks to him. It is love that pushes people to realize themselves, become better, and work on their knowledge and skills. When you have a person next to you who is ready to support you in case of failure, who believes in you with all his heart, you will definitely find a way to achieve success in any area of life. Love inspires and pushes you to take bold and spontaneous actions.
Advantages and disadvantages of falling in love
Falling in love is one of the brightest emotions. Let's not devalue falling in love and the romantic period of relationships. Let's weigh all the pros and cons.
| Advantages | Flaws |
| Euphoria. In a state of love, we seem to put on rose-colored glasses, and this world seems beautiful to us. | Addiction. Often the state of love borders on addiction. This is a painful condition that makes a person lose himself. |
| Self confidence. In the initial stages of a relationship, every pleasant little thing from a lover makes our self-esteem skyrocket. | Jealousy. As soon as we realize what happiness has fallen on our heads, we immediately begin to suspect everyone of wanting to take this happiness away. It's painful. |
| Stability. We begin to feel like a self-sufficient person who has created ideal relationships and is ready to develop them. | Anxiety. Along with stability comes a feeling of anxiety. And there are just a lot of reasons for him: “Why doesn’t he introduce you to his parents?”, “Why doesn’t he ask you to marry?”, “Why doesn’t he say words of love?” |
“Wrong” love, or How to recognize its absence
People often mistake ordinary affection or the desire to possess someone for love. If you have warm feelings for a person, but he is not ready to answer you in kind, this is not love, this is a common desire to experience it. It has nothing to do with the topic of our conversation. The basic rule of love is that it does not bring suffering.
Negative emotions can only manifest themselves in the fact that you worry about a loved one, want to protect him from all hardships and suffering, and try to help him in times of difficulty and failure. In this case, the object of your love should also understand that your feelings are sincere, and try to calm you down, not only with words, but also with actions. This is a kind of compromise that should lead to harmonious coexistence. If you managed to achieve it, and at the same time you feel comfortable, then most likely you have found your love, because for the sake of your loved one it is not a pity to make small concessions.
From a religious point of view
The above views on family, health and life in society originate precisely in the Holy Scriptures. The family was designed by our Creator as an opportunity not only to continue our family lineage, but also to satisfy physical and emotional needs. The connecting link and the main active component here is love.
The basis of human relationships can be seen in the golden rule, which Jesus Christ expressed in his Sermon on the Mount. He said “how you want people to treat you, so treat them.” It turns out that if we want to receive love, then we ourselves need to love.
They dream about love, they wait for it and search for it, they suffer because of it, and thanks to it they enjoy life. She inspires and makes you suffer, so much has been written about her that you couldn’t read it in a lifetime, but she is still elusive and has not revealed all her secrets. The dream of loving and being loved unites people living in different countries.
How to find love
If you think that you can find love, then you are very mistaken. She will find you herself when needed. True feelings will appear when you don't expect it. You will simply conclude for yourself after a while that you love. And this is good, because waiting for love is waiting for a catch. You will always doubt whether you have opened your soul to the right person. Therefore, stop waiting when the time comes, you will definitely feel that your time has come and that you have found a person who can become the meaning of life for you.
Thus, love is a bright feeling that cannot bring suffering. If you strive to experience it, then know that you need to run away from the person who is hurting you. This has nothing to do with love.
Stage 5: Using the Power of Love to Create
Our world is not perfect, that's no secret. Intolerance, cruelty, constant wars and conflicts. Sometimes you even ask the question: “Where is this world going, and can a person survive in it?” I have often thought about the fact that if we cannot achieve mutual understanding and harmony between two loving people, then how can we achieve peace between countries and continents?
But today I look at this problem completely differently. We are able to learn to overcome our differences, we are able to learn to respect and love each other. It is possible and necessary to achieve peace - if only you have the desire!
If Carlene and I could do it, then anyone could do it. Naturally, no one will bring you love of such strength on a silver platter. You will have to go through all the stages of love, and it will not always be easy and joyful. You will also have to overcome all the difficulties and obstacles that fate has in store. Learn not just to listen to your partner, but also to hear, not just to look, but to see.
I believe that every couple, every family can change our world for the better! How? With the power of your love!
