- Reasons for silence
- Basic methods
- Plan
- Trust yourself
- Keep calm
- Distract attention
- Be careful with questions
- Features of communication with a child
- Conclusion
There are often people whose conversation is a very difficult task. A person carefully hides his true thoughts and motives. It can be either a stranger or a very close one: wife, husband, parents, children. With some effort, it is possible to break through the wall of silence and isolation.
The role of communication in human life
People can't be lonely. It is established by nature that every person needs communication. Some people just need to speak out, while others cannot live without dialogue. The answer to the question of why people need communication will be given by the history of primitive society.
At first, people “talked” using gestures and facial expressions. They denoted danger, joy, discontent, and objects of hunting. Gradually, people began to communicate through speech, which became much more interesting and exciting.
After people learned to express opinions and talk, rules began to appear. Thanks to them, humanity has become more cultural and developed. Today, only communication helps a person improve every day.
Now people can listen and transmit information, understand a friend, colleague, friends and perceive everything that others say. Now you know why a person needs communication and what its role is. In the article we will look at other aspects of speech that people need.
Change not yourself, but your behavior
Personality traits are not easy to change, but sometimes you can try to behave differently. Psychologists found out S. Margolis, S. Lyubomirsky. Experimental manipulation of extraverted and introverted behavior and its effects on well-being / Journal of experimental psychology. General, more extroverted behavior can have a positive effect on a person's well-being.
Try exchanging a few words with a colleague in the office kitchen, accepting an invitation to a party, leaving a comment in a community on a social network. Monitor how you feel when you do unusual things. If you're uncomfortable, don't force yourself.
Why is communication necessary?
A person can be an extrovert or an introvert, but he needs company every day. This could be a team, friends or relatives. Only through communication does each person become a social person.
From birth, parents give their baby communication. If you don’t talk to children and don’t teach them, the baby will never be able to grow up to be a full-fledged person.
Such people are mentally retarded in development, and they cannot become full-fledged, cultural and developed individuals. There are many cases where parents did not pay due attention to their children. Then such unpleasant incidents happened.
Forms of politeness
Polite behavior should manifest itself in all areas of life and become one of the main character traits. Since we are talking about the versatility of nature, the following forms of politeness stand out:
- delicacy;
- gallantry;
- politeness;
- courtesy;
- courtesy.
In order to act within the framework of etiquette in any situation, you must have all the listed qualities. They are highly valued in any society, they allow you to avoid awkward situations, and contribute to the development of sociability and self-sufficiency.
The art of communicating with people
Dialogue is a natural human environment. However, every person should be able to communicate with others correctly. We are taught to communicate first by our parents, then by teachers, comrades and other people around us. It is very important to master the art of communication from an early age.
When communicating with a person, always look him in the eyes. Then contact between the interlocutors will occur much faster.
Try to feel the person so as not to offend him. If you know your counterpart’s weaknesses, never talk about them.
Have confidence in your interlocutor. If you don't trust him, then is there a need to build a dialogue with him? Of course, we are not talking about relatives and people close to you. After all, you already know how to communicate with them. But as for an unfamiliar and stranger, you only need to show positivity. Avoid bad emotions and be as friendly as possible.
Why do people communicate?
People were born to do, create, and embody something in the world by learning and revealing themselves. All this is actually impossible to imagine outside of interaction with society. Everything that a person receives, knows, and pays attention to in himself and in external space, occurs thanks to communication with his own kind.
Why do people communicate with each other, what happens during the communication process:
- Exchange of information, knowledge and experience. It turns out that the amount of knowledge and life experience of each individual is very limited. If society did not constantly exchange information and life skills, everyone would have to proceed through trial and error, reinventing the wheel. Through constant communication, people can share their experiences and lessons learned with each other. This allows you to more quickly and effectively solve problems that arise along the way of life.
- Stimulation with new ideas and emotions. Almost all of life's diversity depends on relationships or co-creation with other people. The point of view of another individual can always complement and expand the usual picture of the world. An opinion opposite to established beliefs allows you to see things that would otherwise remain inaccessible to awareness due to stereotypes of thinking or a biased attitude to the issue.
One head is good, but the more the better
Those around you can push you towards a new worldview. For example, why is it so important and useful to communicate with optimists? People who pay attention to the positive aspects of life, who look for new opportunities in everything, can encourage others to see more reasons to feel good.
- Empathy and complicity. Through communication, people can provide empathy and support to each other.
Additional information: Scientists have identified the key role of oxytocin, one of the “happiness hormones” in the formation of social behavior. People experience satisfaction from the feeling of belonging to a group of their own kind. Any contact with people, from the touch of hands to the feeling of moral support, contributes to the synthesis of oxytocin.
- Influence, management, control. In psychology, this reason to communicate is called the motivational function of communication. Motivational communication is aimed at transmitting certain motivations and attitudes to each other. This can be illustrated by the example of a teacher urging the students in his class to study hard, or a child begging his parents to buy him a toy.
- Organization of joint activities. Many goals can be achieved only by acting in cooperation with other people. For any work team, it is important not only to exchange ideas, but also to distribute tasks and organize an “exchange of actions.”
Note! All areas of activity and life of a modern person are directly related to communication, regardless of the nature of the personality: closed or more open. For the most part, an individual needs constant contact with others to resolve even everyday issues.
What do we receive from others?
Of course, we can already understand why a person needs communication. However, this cannot always be explained. People need communication not only as a necessity. There are other positive aspects as well. For example, we can acquire many skills and abilities with the help of others.
People exchange information, experience, knowledge - and all this is called communication. The main thing is to correctly build a dialogue with your interlocutor. When people exchange experiences or information, they gain deeper insight, become smarter, more conscious, and more cultured.
Very often, interesting ideas and thoughts come only when there is a dialogue between people. Any practical advice often helps a person. Psychologists know exactly why a person needs communication. They argue that there is no full-fledged personality without dialogue. That is, in order for a person to be able to correctly express his thoughts, he needs to communicate as often as possible.
Topic control
Before you start talking to a person, you need to think about the topic of the conversation. It is important to start the conversation correctly. English etiquette dictates that small talk should begin with the weather. This topic may seem boring, but it is suitable for attracting attention and starting communication. It’s just important not to overdo it when talking about the weather. The topic should be translated no later than 5 minutes.
In addition, it is important to remember the topics from the stop list:
- illnesses, medications and similar topics may make some people uncomfortable;
- you should not start talking about politics, this can lead to a quarrel due to differences in beliefs;
- too intimate topics, such as love relationships or religion, should also not be raised;
- You should refrain from asking questions about your material well-being, as this can put your interlocutor in an unpleasant position.
Rules of communication
In principle, we have already figured out why a person needs communication. We have already described this briefly. However, as mentioned above, there are certain rules of communication that must be followed in order to become a cultured and intelligent person.
Always during a dialogue, try to smile and support the topic of your interlocutor. If you don't understand something, never hesitate to ask. Remember, there is no shame in asking, because we are talking about your development.
Never raise your voice. The intonation should be pleasant for the interlocutor, without rudeness or falsehood in the voice. Try to communicate culturally even with friends. Address them by name. When communicating, there is no need to remember his last name or tease him, as in childhood, because this can be very unpleasant and even offensive for a person.
Politeness is a very important factor in communication. Bad words have never made a person happy. Therefore, speak not only calmly, in a friendly tone, but also politely. Your friend or acquaintance will enjoy spending time with you.
The most important rule is not to interrupt your interlocutor. Listen more and talk less. Especially if your interlocutor wants to speak out.
Show interest
A sincere desire to learn more about the interlocutor can encourage even the most reserved person to communicate. How to do it?
- You need to listen carefully to the speech of your interlocutor.
- It is necessary to respond to a person’s words and gestures and give compliments.
- If possible, it is worth asking questions, this will prove to the interlocutor that you are interested in communication and will help maintain the conversation.
The best way to get your interlocutor to talk is to be sincerely interested in his hobbies, life, and ask his opinion. All this will not only allow you to maintain acquaintance, but will also provide additional information about the person.
Discomfort of communication
Sometimes people don't want to talk to a particular person. Why is this happening? Psychologists say that there is such a thing as communication discomfort. This is when the interlocutor puts psychological pressure on you. It seems unnoticeable, but you feel severe discomfort when communicating. In this case, try to avoid such people so as not to receive negativity from them.
Every person needs only positive emotions. That is why psychologists advise communicating only with people with whom you not only have common topics of conversation, but at the same time you also receive positive emotions, joy and friendliness.
First meeting
The first acquaintance with a silent person is often unsuccessful. During a date or when joining a team, you want to get an idea about the person. But this is difficult if this person does not want to open up.
When you first meet, you should take the lead and confidently lead the conversation, using open-ended questions to elicit details and closed-ended questions to elicit specific answers. Be open and friendly, confident, but not harsh, trying to evoke sympathy and trust from your partner.
You can get answers from secretive people with friendly and calm behavior. Silent people will only tell their secrets if they trust.
