Relationship
Friendship is incredibly important. As they say, don’t have 100 rubles, but have 100 friends. And I couldn't agree more. At certain stages of our lives, friendship plays a very important role for us. Friends are our inner circle that influence where we live, what we eat, what we buy, and many other things. Friendships form, grow and fade if we do not give them due attention. And in this article I would like to talk about the ways that help me build the strongest friendships.
Choose your friends wisely . You don't have to be everyone's friend. Make friends with people who make you even better, and do not drag you down the ladder of degradation. Choose friends who inspire and attract you, rather than insult and push you away. Yes, we cannot choose the family we are born into, but we can choose our friends. Do it wisely!
Be the kind of friend you want others to be to you . You want friends to be honest, kind, compassionate, fair, non-judgmental, authentic and smart. Become such a person yourself and you are more likely to attract such a friend into your life.
Try not to give advice and don't try to solve all your friends' problems . Many of us don't need solutions, but just support at certain points in our lives. I used to be a fan of giving advice to everyone, but lately I give it if asked. If not, then I simply listen carefully and sympathize with the situation that has occurred, trying to at least somehow cheer up. What works in your life may not work in your friend's life. We are all different, situations are different, problems and solutions can also be different. Each person must go through his own experience, fill his bumps. Don't stop them from doing this!
Respect your friends' choices. If a friend wants to take a step, then you should not stop him, thinking that this step will be wrong. Just let the person do what he wants. If a friend sees the situation differently, then don’t interfere, just step aside and watch what happens. What a friend does may be right for him, but not for you. All people are individuals and make their own choices in life, whether they are right or wrong.
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Be yourself. Be honest. Share your most secret things. If someone cannot accept you for who you are, it will be difficult to establish a relationship with them. Don't fool yourself by giving up your beliefs, values, and points of view in order to be someone else's friend. Never do favors for anyone despite yourself.
Accept your friends for who they are . We all need people who love us for who we are. Be yourself and let your friends also show only their true selves. Remember, other people are looking for the same thing in a relationship.
Communicate openly and honestly . As a result of long communication with a person, we begin to trust him! As a result, we become more open and honest. Share with a friend what worries you. Don't be afraid that someone else will know what you really need or care about. Also ask your friends what you can do to make their lives better. If a problem arises, find a joint solution. This will take your friendships to the next level!
Know how to listen and hear . While many of us can listen, not very many can hear. And this can really be a problem in friendships. Do only what your friends ask you to do and vice versa. Don't do something that your friends don't ask you to do!
Be sensitive . Trying to understand things from your friend's point of view can help you communicate and understand each other better.
Answer carefully . Think before you speak - especially if you're angry. This will help get rid of hurt feelings and offended pride. Always choose your words carefully. As they say, if it flies out, you won’t catch it!
Give compliments . Express your love for your friends by praising them for good qualities or things they do well. Has a friend done something you admire? Let him know about it!
Be grateful . Let your friends know that you value your friendship. Tell them or write them an email thanking them. It's always nice!
Forgive and let go of negativity. Did a friend do something that hurt you? Was an apology made? Let go and move on! If this is not done right away, it will sooner or later ruin your friendships in the future. Never carry the burden of grievances from your past. Just try to start over.
Find time for your friends . Show your friends that you want to be there for them. Is your friend far away? Write to him on a social network, by email, chat with them via messenger, and finally call him by phone. Plan a weekend or vacation together. When you make time for your friends, you show that they are an important part of your life.
Develop what you have in common . Most friendships begin over some common theme—a favorite sport, a love of self-help books, a desire to earn a lot of money, or to travel the world. Reinforce your common interests whenever possible.
Try something new ! Gain new experiences together! Jump from a parachute, sign up for a dance class, drink a new type of tea at a local cafe. It can be anything!
Have fun! Friendships, like any other relationship, can fail if all you do is complain every time things go wrong. This will not strengthen your friendships in any way. Always do something fun that you both enjoy. Laugh more. This will prolong friendships and life in general. Remember, not a moment of sadness or any complaints!
Create balance in your friendships . Entering into a relationship with selfish motives will not bring anything good. Don't be the person who takes and takes and takes. Think about what you can do for them? How can you help? What can you add to their life to make it a little better?
Take equal responsibility for your friendship . If there is a problem in a friendship, you need to acknowledge your role in it and figure out how to fix it together. If both people do not strive for friendly relations, then soon the friendship will be completely screwed.
Keep your promises . If you know you can't deliver or follow through on something, never promise that you will. And if you made a promise, then try to keep it. It's better to tell the truth: "I don't think I can do this on Saturday night, let's have dinner next week?" It will be better if you agree first, and then make a different decision and refuse the meeting at the last minute.
Admit your mistakes . When you do something wrong, admit it. Learn to apologize. Yes, a friend may be upset about something, but apologizing “on time” will help avoid ruining your friendship. Your apology shows that you understand your mistake and hope not to make it again in the future.
Keep your friends' personal information private . As relationships develop, friends often share confidential information with us. If a friend tells you his secret, it is because he trusts and trusts you that you will keep everything a closely guarded secret. You should never betray your friend by sharing his secrets with others. You shouldn’t do this and ruin strong friendships.
Let your friends go. Sometimes friendships end. You can change a lot in just a year. Imagine how much you can change in 10 years! When you met your friends, you were alone. Now you are different. That person is no longer there. The same thing can happen with friends. Most likely, your lifestyle has changed radically. I don't really want to spend a lot of time together anymore. And all because you have fewer common interests. This is fine. It has happened so many times in my life. Sometimes we struggle to save a fading relationship. But it's better not to do this. You just need to talk, let everything and everyone go, and everyone go their own way!
So here are 25 ways to build strong friendships that I follow in my life. Reading them is one thing, but applying the acquired knowledge is another. Be sure to take note of several methods and try to integrate them into your relationships with your close friends. You will see how your relationship will immediately become stronger and bring a lot of joy and benefit! Always be a great friend!
Good luck!
Happened to every girl...
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Passion, attraction, love appeared. He and she want to hug each other, but not in a friendly way. Hugs will contain that warmth and sensuality that only happens between a man and a woman, as the main participants in a love union.
But, if we continue to consider the issue based on the meaning inherent in the song, it turns out that it is not so easy to move to the level of a love relationship. In fact, both a man and a woman are ready for their relationship to turn from friendship into romantic love, but there is always some “But”.
And our task is to help you remove those obstacles and barriers, fears and concerns that this most notorious “But” gives rise to.
Who knows you better?
There is a deep connection between best friends, and this connection is not lost even when you call someone of the opposite sex a friend. They know you inside and out, and perhaps your conversations have become closer over the years. They may know who your first sexual encounter was with, and they may even know what your favorite position is. This can translate into the bedroom and then they will know what you like, what you don't like and why you do or don't do certain things. This is where your connection can come in handy. So, if you're going to take the risk, at least you can use what you know about each other to make your first time a memorable one.
Are you comfortable mentally and physically
Nothing is more awkward than having sex with someone for the first time, especially for women. Even the selection of clothes and underwear becomes a disaster on this day. With a friend it's a little different. Yes, there are nerves, but they are different. It's more like, “Oh my god, is that a smart idea?” rather than, “Will he be happy with my body?” They've seen you in a bikini, and maybe lingerie (so let's be honest, all the embarrassment is turned off when you're best friends with someone of the opposite sex). Mentally, he or she already thinks that you are the calmest person on the planet so that there will be no problems.
This could develop into a relationship.
If your connection is deep enough and you really want it to develop, then it can lead to a relationship. Every relationship has its rough edges, but you'll probably work around most of them thanks to your long-term friendship. This may sound too cheesy, but sometimes what you really need is right in front of you, so don't make quick negative decisions if your friend proposes a relationship, because you could lose your true happiness. Can you finally hear the wedding bells?
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They already love you
You don't have to fight or compete for their love and attention because you already have it. Years of friendship have built you up well, and it will be a strong bond that won't break if things don't go as planned. You can always feel comfortable knowing that your best friend loves you on a completely different level than anyone else. So, even if this love is not romantic, it is certainly unconditional.
Once done
There is a good chance that this situation could go along with the plot: “one and done.” There are two types of such development: first, after intimacy you will not want to talk to each other again, second, everything will not go exactly as you expected, but your relationship will remain the same. Obviously, the latter outcome is what most people hope for. And this could be your result too. Don't let the feeling of awkwardness become more awkward.
If no mistakes happened, then that's really great.
It is normal to refrain from any awkward action after the first time. If you start having feelings, don't let them know until you're 100% sure you're ready to deal with the consequences. Check your feelings over the next few days, and if you can communicate freely as before without feeling awkward, then the scenario can develop further. In the end, it's the right thing to do. What bad things could happen besides the obvious?
You could be one of the couples who defy the odds
You already know that so many things can go wrong if you decide to hook up with your best friend. But don't forget how much good can happen (don't regret what you didn't do when you get butterflies in your stomach at the sight of your friend). You may have just those beautiful butterflies that give you happiness and wonderful excitement. You can build even more wonderful memories if you let your feelings come out. Stay friends until you realize that the relationship has become solid enough. After all, this will not always be a negative experience.
When to let go
Not all friendships last forever, and quality matters more than quantity. “If the cost of staying friends is greater than the reward, it's time to let go,” says psychologist and friendship expert Dr. Irene S. “Sometimes the rift can be deeper than the attitudes this pandemic has created.”
“While it helps identify people you can really count on, just having one good friend makes a big difference to your health,” says Lydia. And letting go of people who no longer share your values means making room for those who do.
He or she has definitely thought about it
Surely, if you are friends with a young man, he has definitely thought about sleeping with you. There is not even the slightest chance that this has not crossed his mind especially if you are “his type”. Guys strive for the familiar, and they value comfort, they want a girl - a best friend, who could simply be there and support him in any situation. This way, the next time you catch his erratic gaze when he looks at you, you will understand what he is really thinking about.
