How to learn to ENJOY LIFE

Ivan Vdovin

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Come on, everyone has situations when life is not happy, and you live with some pain, everything around is gray, you don’t want anything. Just such apathy and depression that completely absorb you and this bottomless pit is so deep that you don’t even know how to get out of it. And complete anxiety, and vanity, you think that everything is lost and nothing will come of it, and how to live on? In this article we will talk about how to start enjoying life without anxiety and fuss. Read to the end and write comments.

Why don't people enjoy life? First reason

Joy in life is a set of states that bring satisfaction in the present life. That is, if a person is not happy with his life, it means he is not happy with himself or with another state of affairs. But the trouble is that the person most likely does not solve the problem, but thinks that everything will resolve itself.

But, unfortunately, this behavior is typical of people who have not matured psychologically, in other words, children. Even if a person is 40 years old, he may be a child at heart and not take responsibility for his life and what happens in it.

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Hence we get this thing: there is no joy in life because of problems, the solution of which a person shifts to others or to the circumstances of life. But each person must solve his problems himself and only himself, otherwise there is a high chance of slipping into complete negativity and to alcohol.

What is joy?

Joy is an internal emotion of pleasure and cheerful mood.

A person can enjoy many things in his life. From the joy of knowledge, the joy of communication, the joy of movement and, in the end, simply the joy of life, which many characterize as causeless joy.

Joy is different from satisfaction. Joy, as a “higher” emotion, relates more to the soul, but the “body” is associated more with satisfaction, as its reaction to something.

I’m now happy that I’m writing a new article on my blog about self-development. What are you happy about?

Take a piece of paper and write 10 things that make you happy most in life.

For me personally, enjoying life is a skill that I try to improve every day.

Let your interest be joy. Everything else is unimportant.
— Osho

Unfortunately, not all people know how to enjoy life. There is a lot of negativity in our society.

If every person paid more attention to their thoughts and emotions, then society would be more rosy, harmonious and prosperous.

Well, to create such a society, you need to start with yourself.

And if you are reading this article, then you already have an interest in this topic and a desire to be more joyful.

The emotion of joy is an ideal emotion to interact with people at work or while spending any leisure time, to inspire confidence in your interlocutors and is constantly in the spotlight.

The emotion of joy is the best emotion to be creative. Most masterpieces of art (art, music, culinary and many others) are created based on this emotion.

The emotion of joy is a high emotion to think about human existence, the meaning of life, one’s purpose , and other philosophical topics, which are so important for every person to talk about!

Why don't people enjoy life? The second reason

The second reason why people do not enjoy life is that spiritually they carry a burden of negative emotions that they cannot let go of and love to suffer. Here it is either self-pity or transferring the burden of suffering from one’s parents. That is, the child saw how mom or dad suffered, but he really wanted to help, so he took on part of the burden. In this situation, Hellinger arrangements help well.

And if we take self-pity, then such a person evokes negative emotions in himself in order to show those around him what a sufferer he is and how bad everything is for him, so that they would feel sorry for him. In this case, psychotherapy is needed to quickly find the root of the problem and eliminate it. There is a free consultation for this.

Trips

At first glance, traveling is expensive. Is it so? Not only seaside resorts, European castles, and exotic islands deserve our attention. You can visit inexpensive, beautiful places where there is picturesque nature, majestic mountains, small rivers, lakes and fresh air. The main thing is the desire to travel, the craving for new places and exciting experiences. A change of place is always pleasant memories, an emotional shake-up. The accumulated positive charge will give strength in everyday work.

Why don't people enjoy life? Third reason

Reluctance to live is the third reason. Even if a person lives an ordinary life, he can still have a program for destroying himself and not wanting to live. And if a person doesn’t want to live, then why be happy? After all, it is logical that if a person enjoys life, it means that he wants to live and live his life happily, despite any problems that fate brings us. Well, what can you do, such is life.

Therefore, we need to watch more subconscious programs and change them, change them to positive ones, so that the colors of life sparkle in a new way.

Psychologists would NOT want you to know these secrets about yourself

—Imagine this situation...
What if, instead of paying for years for useless consultations with a psychologist, in 21 days you can work with yourself? Get rid of negative thoughts and states forever. And instead live a calm and happy life? Stop living in stress due to relationships or constant lack of money?

Tell me this is impossible?

I thought so too, until I started working with myself

LIVING HAPPY IS EASY

My name is Ivan, I am 35 years old, and I have been practicing psychology for 15 years. I have studied all the basic methods and techniques through which I help people find happiness. NLP, hypnosis, body-image therapy. I was invited on television as an expert.

And it was... just a nightmare!

I lived in a state of depression for 7 years (constant stress exhausted me). I had a lot of low self-confidence (my self-esteem was below 0). I could not calmly communicate with people, it seemed to me that I was not worthy of them.

The relationship did not work out (because I was very negative, jealous, a doormat). I’m generally silent about decent earnings; I earned 15,000 rubles a month and thought that was the limit. I didn’t want to live... Envy.

The worst thing is, I thought I would have to live like this forever, and I don’t deserve love and happiness.

But it only got worse, negative states fell on me like a snowball. It felt like I was sitting in a deep, black hole from which there was no way out. Hopelessness, despair, pain, resentment.

My life has turned into endless torture. But then a miracle happened...

I FOUND THE KEY... EVERYONE HAS IT...

One day my father came home from work, a little drunk, although he never drank much.

He came into the kitchen..., looked at me with a dissatisfied expression and began to say with anger how worthless I was, how I couldn’t do anything, and in general, how sorry he was that he was my father.

At first I felt severe mental pain (this is very painful to hear from my family). Then I got offended (does that mean I’m not a favorite son?!) And then an insight came to me...

I received that magical kick that I had been waiting for all my life. It changed my thinking, my life and my relationships with my environment.

I had already forgiven my father simply because he told me the truth and I was happy about it!

But then the most interesting thing began...

Literally 5 minutes later I was already sitting at the computer and writing out all the psychological (!) methods of working with myself.

I was even confused, because my plans were to continue to suffer all my life.

It was such an incredible feeling of freedom and desire to do something that I burst into tears of happiness.

THE MAIN SECRET OF HAPPINESS

If you think that you cannot change your life, become rich or successful, or create a happy relationship - you are mistaken!

You can change your life by changing your thinking and the main thing is to do it EASILY!

• 5 simple and powerful methods of working with yourself (they work even if you use them incorrectly) - You don’t have to turn to psychologists, you are your own psychologist.

• “The secret method” of working through any negative state. This will allow you to eliminate the negative and switch to the positive in 5 minutes.

• 15 minutes a day - Just 15 minutes a day to change your life 180 degrees. Become happier and more joyful.

• Saving up to 100,000 rubles in 1 year - You will save on trips to a psychologist, and spend the saved money on a vacation by the sea.

• 21 days – It only takes 21 days for you to see changes in your life. You will start smiling. Wake up with joy.

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PS If you want to say “thank you” to me, just download the guide and start using it every day.

PPS How about becoming happy today? =)

Material well-being

Let's not lie, money is an important component of life. Finance makes it possible to purchase beautiful clothes, a variety of food and high-tech equipment. Entertainment, restaurants, cafes, sports, exercise equipment, travel also require money. The list can be endless. Happiness is not brought by money itself, but by the opportunity to please loved ones and yourself. Even if your income is modest and you are not rich, you need to be able to get joy from small purchases and be able to spend your money correctly. Reasons to enjoy life usually come from intangible things, but finances provide an additional opportunity to enjoy life.

Although, according to some psychologists, the level of happiness depends little on wealth. Many millionaires don't feel happy at all. What is important here is the inner worldview, the ability to enjoy the small, intangible side.

How to learn to enjoy life?

To start enjoying life, you need to go into life looking forward, and not carry all the negativity that happened to you in the past. It sounds simple, of course, but it’s not simple at all. I myself was looking for answers in life to become happy and enjoy life. And personally, I had to work hard in this regard. But here I will share the usual methods that will help you.

Meditations

To clear your mind of the past and get rid of the oppression that drags you back to negativity, you need to teach your body to react neutrally to various situations of the past. Simply put, all our emotions are in the body, accordingly, our body once learned to experience a given emotion, so we need to return to the past experience and neutralize the situation, or rather relive it. That's all. But this is not done in 1-5 times. And for 50 and above. But no one said it was easy to do.

Read more: What is meditation and how to meditate correctly

Take up dancing

I have never seen dancers not enjoying life. If a person dances, it means that he a priori likes to live. This is how it is built into our psyche. Remember yourself, when everything is fine with you and life has presented you with a good surprise, you really want to dance, or, well, make a little face. It's the same here. You dance and everything gets better.

It will also be a plus to dance and remember negative situations from the past, so you will neutralize them and everything will get better gradually. But dancing is the coolest thing in life.

Have some good coffee

This method is suitable for those who want to start enjoying life here and now, and is not suitable for those who constantly drink coffee. The fact is that coffee produces a hormone of happiness and therefore, if necessary, induce a good mood now. But this method will stop working and even cause depression if you constantly abuse coffee. But here everything is individual. Article about coffee.

Putting on a smile

Yes, no matter how banal it may sound, but a smile on your face helps a lot in setting yourself up for a good life. What's the secret? The fact is that everyone associates a smile on their face with joy. Our body will remember that if we smile, then everything must be fine. Worth a try.

But this method does not always work right away; you need to put on a smile in the morning and walk around with it all day, even if you feel bad and sad. You will forget about it, but be sure to return to the tight smile. At first it will seem tense, and then it will become more natural.

Memories before bed

Before you go to bed, remember 10 joyful events that happened to you during the day? You may think that nothing good has happened to you, but try to screw it up and pull out something good to the point of absurdity. For example, the cashier at the store smiled at you, the weather was good, and so on.

This way our brain will be reformatted from a negative perception to a positive one. This does not happen very quickly, but gradually your brain will restructure itself in a positive way.

Internal negativity is a pit where positivity drains.

Look, what a thing, you yourself feed positive or negative energy with your energy. But you unconsciously choose the negative. Why?

The fact is that how you were raised or what your childhood was like depends on whether you will be positive or negative.

The bad news is that if you don’t deal with your internal negativity, it can lead to stress and illness.

The worst thing is to live your whole life in negativity and regret your wasted life.

The only thing that will help cope with negativity is Gestalt therapy.