Love relationships: what is it and what are they like?

The feeling of love is one of the strongest, it is difficult to study. But still, the psychology of love exists and constitutes a separate scientific direction. Psychologists study love relationships in couples, the reasons for the emergence and fading of feelings, and the stages of relationship development.

My younger sister's relationship with her husband began to deteriorate after a couple of years of marriage. They entered into a period of quarrels, disagreements and grievances. If not for their knowledge of the psychology of relationships, they would have separated. But together she and I delved into the study of the issue of marital relations and found the cause of the disagreement - hormones. Of course, the mind won: the production of the necessary hormones also depends on it.

In this article, I will briefly talk about the main stages of a love relationship so that you can understand what is happening in your relationship with your spouse and why.

What is a love relationship?

A love relationship is a sexual and emotional connection between two people. In practice, this is the period before marriage when partners get to know each other, experiencing love and attraction.

Types of love relationships.

Depending on the character, experience and formed ideas about relationships, partners subconsciously (or not) occupy a certain role in them. There are several of the most striking types of relationships.

Romantic love is a type of relationship that almost all couples go through when they first start dating. Characterized by mutual care, relative equality, interdependence. Both partners take the initiative, influence each other’s behavior, and are both afraid of making a mistake.
Friendship-love is a partnership relationship that is built not so much on mutual attraction as on respect. It is easy and safe for both men and women to voice their thoughts or opinions. In such an alliance, it is not customary to reproach or force someone to do something. People here are used to reaching agreements, helping each other, abandoning gender stereotypes. For them, it doesn’t matter who washes the dishes, who drives the car or pays off the loan.
Charismatic love - in this type of relationship, one is much more attached to the other. It is in this case that it is customary to say that someone loves, and someone allows themselves to be loved. The first partner is ready to fulfill any requirements, just to get approval. The second one, out of habit, uses power and “gets out of his way.” The relationship is considered codependent and needs correction.
Love without obligations - this type is chosen by free individuals who do not want to burden themselves with duties, conventions, and responsibilities. They spell out the rules, but everyone has the right to have connections on the side.
Submission love is a manipulative type of love relationship. One of the partners loves, and the other pursues some of his own personal motives and goals. For example, he is in a relationship for the sake of sex or an apartment in the city center.
Love-expectation is chosen by people who are not bound by feelings or emotional attachment. Some are driven by financial gain, others by status or other compelling facts. In such a union there may be intense sex, shared property or business, but not love.

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Love and relationships: 6 steps to ideal.

There are several simple tips on how to make a love relationship comfortable, long-lasting, and almost ideal. There is no universal recipe, but there are tips that definitely won’t hurt to listen to.

Break traditions.

Almost all relationships suffer from routine, routine, and predictability. And when it gets boring, someone else meets. This will not happen if you add fuel to the fire at the right time. For example, surprise. Didn't take out the trash again? Hide a trash can in the closet. Half an hour late again? Sing stupid songs for the next half hour. And about how you can diversify your leisure time, write - not rewrite.

Touch.

Oddly enough, sex, kissing during a meeting and hugging goodbye are not enough to create a special connection. Gentle stroking of the hand while watching a movie or preparing dinner is a completely different matter. Magic appears when we remove an eyelash from the cheeks of our loved ones, cover them with a blanket at night or massage our feet.

Look for a compromise.

Even the most harmonious couple does not see eye to eye on everything. And this is wonderful, because it is not boring, interesting, and always unpredictable. The main thing is to find a compromise. For example, he is used to spending Saturday evening watching an interesting film, and she is used to SUP surfing. You can alternate entertainment or meet in the middle: a woman is engaged in active sports on the water, and a man is watching his favorite blockbuster on the shore.

Listen and hear.

Psychologists have proven that most conflicts are caused by misunderstandings. It’s as if people are talking but not hearing each other. This is partly true. During the parterre's remark, we think about what we will say in response to him. A simple rule will help you get out of a blind corner - always repeat the words of your interlocutor, ending with the phrase: “Did I understand correctly?”

Support.

This is not about saying, “You did the right thing,” despite your own opinion. But emotional support is priceless, so you should always stand on the side of the partner. That is, listen to his arguments, feelings, try to understand. Mutual support gives a feeling of security, confidence, and brings people closer together.

Love between a man and a woman: disease or cure?

Love... Scientists never tire of analyzing this sublime feeling. According to their research, love affects our body like a drug or painkiller, literally intoxicating us.

Psychologists say that a person cannot live a harmonious life without love: he needs it and plunges into depression if he does not find it.

And the World Health Organization has added love to the register of diseases under the official number F63.9.

Everyone who has at least once experienced this intoxicating feeling strives to experience it again by entering into a love relationship. Whether active or in the background, we are always on the lookout. We meet people on the streets, register on dating sites, look closely at colleagues and enthusiastically join new companies. And all this, in most cases, in order to meet your person and find love.

On the subject: What is love?

Kinds

There are a huge number of types and types of relationships between people, but if we talk about close relationships, we can highlight:

Affiliate . To a greater extent, they are built on mutual understanding and respect. In such couples, self-realization and development come first.
Homemade . Partners live with each other, the main aspects are calm and balance. They lead a common life, but do not pursue material wealth; the priorities in such unions are completely different.
Patriarchal. In such relationships, the man is in charge, and the woman unconditionally accepts all his decisions. The whole family lives under the protection of a man, the man is the breadwinner, the woman creates comfort in the house.
Matriarchal. In such a couple, the leading role is taken by the woman, strong, energetic, and strong-willed. A man in such a union takes on the obligations of the weaker half of humanity. They can be durable and harmonious if both partners are satisfied with this situation.
Sexual. Built on passion and sexual attraction. Between partners there may be nothing but animal instincts that draw them to each other.

By the way! In addition to the species presented, there are a huge number of mixed species and subspecies. Each couple is unique, and their relationship is also unique.

Who seeks will always find

And we find it. As a rule, suddenly.

We meet, fall in love and plunge into a state numbered F63.9 from the WHO disease registry. We start a love relationship and, at first, enjoy our happiness and euphoria.

A storm of feelings and emotions covers us, and critical thinking is completely absent during this wonderful period. It's like we're in a state of drug intoxication. Everything about our loved one seems charming: appearance, voice, and demeanor. And we perceive its shortcomings as an amazing feature - its zest and charm. And here, under the influence of this love intoxication, it would be good not to completely dissolve in your partner, to preserve yourself and not make any fateful decisions.

But... As sooner or later the disease passes, as the effect of any drug ends, so our euphoria gradually fades away. Passions subside, and we begin to see our partner for who he really is. Gradually calming down and getting used to each other, we move directly to building a love relationship.