- November 12, 2019
- Psychology of relationships
- Yanika Ivanova
Every year we have more and more acquaintances. We find them on the street, at work, in new companies or on the Internet. With some we develop warm friendships, with others we develop ordinary friendships, and with others we even develop love. Connections between people come in different forms, and they all often refer to interpersonal relationships.
Psychological connection
Often this includes relationships about which one can say: “Husband and wife are one Satan.” But psychological connections between people may not apply to marriage unions. However, such people often copy each other's behavior because they live together.
For example, a young couple who have been living together for a couple of years begins to think alike and do things the same way. This is often due to habits that have been developed through living together. They can assemble the bed in the same way, use a special “technique” to fold dishes, or cook identical dishes.
Difficult relationship situation
One of the most common options is a partner who is an alcoholic or drug addict. Sometimes it may be a partner's health problems, such as living with someone who is bedridden or disabled. In some cases, the early death of a partner. One way or another, such relationships can be safely called “punishment.”
Usually a person arranges this “punishment” for himself, unconsciously choosing a psychologically or physically disadvantaged person. This choice occurs due to feelings of guilt for bad deeds done towards him in a past life. In the previous incarnation, the roles of the “bad” and “good” partners were opposite, but in this one justice is restored.
Psychological connection between rivals
There is also the opinion of psychologists that such a connection appears between rivals or competitors. Such people, when communicating with each other, can show the same gestures, repeat filler words one after another and think in the same direction.
Interestingly, an experiment was once even conducted in which 25 male and 18 female couples took part. Each of them is used to playing a multiplayer computer game. At the same time, the rivals began to strive to win, and therefore expressed extremely strong emotions, but at the same time, a strong psychological connection arose between them.
Scientists believe that such a connection between people arose because each wanted to get into the other’s head, read his thoughts and predict his decisions. By the way, such an experiment prompted psychologists to believe that such a relationship strengthens friendships.
Fatality
Relationships in such a couple are often fatal in the most negative sense of the word. Typically this includes:
- love triangles;
- relationships in which either love or hatred reigns;
- relationships that continue regardless of the wishes of the partners, due to the influence of certain external factors.
Karmic love in real life is usually filled with hardships and suffering. In fact, this connection is incompatible with normal human existence. A person simply has neither spiritual nor physical strength left for personal and professional growth. On the other hand, by doing the “right thing” in such a situation, a man or woman gets a chance to reach the highest level of his development, to rise above his shortcomings.
Emotional connection
The next type of connection is emotional. Some believe that this is the most powerful relationship, although not always successful. However, if you and the person have a strong emotional connection, your union will be strong.
It is difficult to overestimate this type of relationship. But many do not understand its power, because they do not know how emotions can help build a strong union. Men are insecure about this type because they do not like to show joy, happiness, sadness, despair, etc. Women, on the other hand, can overact and upset the balance with their hypersensitivity.
What it is
The transmission of thoughts at a distance has a well-known name in psychology - telepathy .
Using this technique, you can exchange with another person not only thoughts, but also feelings, emotions, desires, you can even make some settings.
The exchange of information can be mutual , that is, a telepath is capable of receiving other people’s thoughts at a distance. Often this happens without the participation of the recipient's consciousness.
Telepathy is the object of close study by specialists around the world. There is already some data on how you can learn to transmit thoughts and discover telepathic abilities in yourself.
How to detect an emotional connection?
Emotional connections between people are important. How can you spot them? Take a closer look at how your partner reacts to your emotions. If he understands and interprets them correctly, then you have that same connection.
It is also always easy for such people to discuss the most sensitive topics, which in other cases can cause terrible discomfort. If controversial issues occur, then everyone is ready to listen to the other, and also calmly express their point of view.
Emotional connection helps you admire your partner's intelligence, be attracted to his personality, and communicate easily. It is very important to listen and hear each other, as well as to find understanding of your problems in the person’s eyes.
In general, developing an emotional connection is very useful, especially when it comes to relationships between a man and a woman. It is unlikely that you will need this when communicating with colleagues or competitors; this is where cold calculation is needed. But everyone wants to have someone with whom you can show emotions.
If you make this connection, you stop noticing a person's appearance and appreciate his inner beauty. Speak easily on important topics and understand completely different thinking. It becomes much easier to solve problems, and communication only grows. In a well-developed emotional relationship, you feel like you are part of something huge, bright and real.
Preface
Love is one of the most beautiful, brightest, and most necessary feelings for a person. Each of us has experienced this condition at least once in our lives. It is difficult to describe it in words, it is an unusually pleasant sensation, a sea of emotions, enormous energy, people feel that they can move mountains, they can handle any task, they experience a connection with a person that is difficult to describe in words. But what is love? Is it a really existing condition that unites people, a chemical process localized in a person, or a mass delusion?
Energy connection
This type of relationship usually receives a lot of criticism, since not everyone is ready to delve into the study of some energy channels and connections. However, it is becoming increasingly difficult to deny that an energetic connection exists between people. How to determine it?
You may have at least once heard a person talk about his strong attachment to another. Experts in this field insist that such a connection is established through thin energy tubes that connect people’s chakras. Information usually begins to flow through such channels and communication is established.
It is also worth remembering the expression “a warm-hearted person.” But for some it may not be so. The thing is that the tubes come from the heart chakra. Therefore, when you find your loved one, an energetic connection is established.
Is it possible to see such a connection?
Very often you can hear the opinion that two people have the same thoughts. This is not a joke expression at all. Scientists have long established that if there is a so-called telepathic connection between two individuals, then even when examining the functioning of the cerebral cortex, identical centers are activated.
This connection can be discerned between someone who is simply listening and someone who is actively engaged in conversation. Experts have noticed that when the listener is very interested, the activity of neural cells in the brain exceeds that of the narrator.
Types of Energy Communication
It is usually divided into energy channels and bindings. Esotericists study this area, which is why they explain this phenomenon. Experts usually talk about the existence of seven chakras, thanks to which energy, well-being and even the environment can change.
Energy channels are usually a one-time occurrence. In this case, people meet, “connect” to each other, exchange information and energy, and then “disconnect” and each continue to do their own thing. In this case there is no constant connection, so there is no constant exchange.
Energy bindings work on an ongoing basis. In this case, people do not “disconnect” from each other, but continue to interact. In this case, a joint dependence arises between them. Esotericists believe that such interaction harms the person’s personality, which came to this earth free. They even believe that such a connection can cause illness and psychological disorders.
The energetic binding begins to control the person. Such a connection between two people destroys both. Both show aggression, feel sadness and may even face suicide. Sometimes such relationships can lead to degradation, the reasons for which will be invisible at first glance.
Rapidity
Relationships form very quickly - within one month after meeting, the couple begins dating. A person is not able to correctly perceive all the information and only after a year or more begins to realize what actually happened to him. Before this, he is in complete control of his emotional reactions, which he cannot explain. No matter how violent the passion may be, partners do not always want to see each other after “awakening”, not to mention maintaining friendly relations.
Energy of man and woman
But the energy connection doesn't end there. There is another side of the coin, which talks about the interaction in this case between a man and a woman. Tantric teaching deals with a similar area. It is known from it that a man is charged with energy from above, and a woman from below. Accordingly, he is responsible for the ideological component, and it is occupied by the energy of force.
Esotericists believe that the more actively partners show their interest in each other, the stronger and more diverse the connection between them. Serious relationships lead to close connections across all energy centers. This is why lovers begin to feel each other at a distance, because they are tied by channels.
If a couple has a healthy relationship, then the energetic connection will only fuel the partners. Everyone will receive only bright and pulsating energy. If the relationship is unhealthy, then one becomes dependent on the other, and the connection turns dull and difficult. This is how aggression, anger, resentment, etc. arise.
Is it possible to break a karmic knot?
Astral intimacy is not easy to break. You must be patient. To break the connection relatively painlessly, you should convince yourself that nothing can be returned. There is a powerful technique for letting go:
- relax (meditation will help);
- light a candle;
- clearly imagine the image of the partner with whom it is necessary to part;
- sincerely thank the former chosen one for everything;
- represent multi-colored threads connecting the performer with a former loved one (the threads should lead to the energy centers of the partners);
- take a candle and burn the threads, moving the fire up and down (it is necessary to burn each thread);
- imagine that the former partner is leaving.
The procedure is completed and can be repeated.
You should not look for logic in mental proximity. Souls in love must meet to work off karma.
Spiritual connection
This is another type of connection between people that can be viewed with skepticism. Nevertheless, it exists and can be explained in words. A spiritual connection is very similar to an energetic connection. It is also installed as invisible, helping to make partners harmonious and happy. The only difference is that no harm should be expected from a spiritual connection.
This type of relationship requires a lot of work and patience. But when a spiritual connection arises between people, words are no longer needed for this couple. By the way, it can arise not only between a man and a woman, but also between same-sex representatives. You can consider some people to be close in spirit, which means that such a connection has already arisen between you.
Inhabitants of the mental
The mental plane, as well as the astral one, occupies all the space around us. In connection with this, any type of irritation, even occurring on other planes, is reflected on it. People perceive mental activity as a process of spontaneous thinking - in the form of any mental images (individual objects located in the mental plane, on which people do not have any influence).
Periodically, certain thought forms combine to form a so-called egregor. What is an egregor? It acts as an energy-informative consciousness created by a group of people, divided according to a specific criterion. So, many types of egregors are known:
- religious (Christianity, Islam, Buddhism and others);
- egregors of nations (are demons of empires);
- generic egregors;
- professional and so on.
The mental level mainly consists of thought forms and egregors.
Characteristics of Spiritual Connection
How to understand that your relationship has already grown into something more, and an invisible thread connects your souls and spirit? You can take a closer look at the main parameters of such relationships.
Often such people live in the present. No, of course, they are planning their future, thinking about improvement, but they always try to enjoy the moment. They appreciate what they already have, don’t look back, but don’t build castles in the air either.
Patience is key in a relationship. If you know how to restrain yourself, patiently wait for your partner to express his point of view, and also easily relate to his individuality, then a spiritual connection has already been established. Usually such people do not pay attention to domestic quarrels. Even if some contradictions arise, they are not afraid to discuss them and work on them in the future.
Support is extremely important in such relationships. At some point, you begin to understand that whatever you undertake causes positive emotions in your partner. You wanted to play the guitar, he is just glad that he will listen to music in the evenings. You've decided to take a cooking class, it's always a useful skill. And even if something doesn’t work out for you, he will always find words of support or just be silent in a hug.
This kind of connection between people helps you understand that you are not perfect. At the same time, you do not rush in search of perfection, but help each other fight your shortcomings.
Finally, a spiritual connection makes you forget about selfishness. You feel what your partner needs, which means you can easily close your eyes to your desires and help him at this very moment. You lose the spirit of competition and gain the strength to “fight” together for a common cause.
Who makes the strongest connections?
It has long been no secret that the strongest connection at the mental level is formed between parents and children, as well as between lovers. Often the same relationships can be observed between friends, especially if they have experienced a lot together and the friendship has been tested by time.
Please note that in the above relationships, the emotional sphere plays a leading role. After all, you love your child not for anything, but simply because you love him... This is probably why a mother always, as they say, feels in her heart if something happened to her child. And a loving son or daughter also clearly senses the state of their parents.
Why is this happening? It is obvious that dry calculation or relationships built only on mutual benefit will not allow a mental connection to develop between partners until such time as emotions - sympathy, respect, affection - wedge into their life together. They will slowly melt the ice crust that does not allow you to build sincere relationships and subtly sense your partner, and after this, a mental relationship will develop.
Mental connection
It is closely related to telepathy. There is such a thing as “mental telepathy” - this is a person’s ability to capture and read the thoughts of others, using the “sixth sense”. All this does not yet have reliable scientific evidence, so it can also be perceived with skepticism. But this is precisely what helped us understand what the connection between people at a distance is called.
Neuroscientists from Princeton University conducted an experiment in which they decided to analyze the brains of two participants. One of them was telling something, and the second was listening attentively. To obtain scientific results, they used functional magnetic resonance imaging. The experiment was successful and showed that during such a dialogue, active areas of the listener’s brain completely copied the narrator.
Some turned out to be more “synchronized”, so sometimes the story itself was a little different. Interestingly, the experiment failed with a foreign narrator. In this case, no neural activity was observed in the listener.
How does a connection between people arise? Are there any mechanisms for its occurrence? Scientists have not been able to understand the reasons for the emergence of a mental connection. They were able to explain that such dialogue usually connects two people like a cable. Some experts explained this phenomenon by the fact that people in everyday conversations stopped communicating information that was already understandable. For example, instead of: “Should I make you some tea?” - many people simply say: “Tea?” At the same time, anyone will understand what the interlocutor wants from him.
Of course, the question here is that, most likely, such a connection can manifest itself if the interlocutors are face to face, and, accordingly, they capture not only speech, but also words and gestures.
Is telepathic communication possible?
A keen interest in telepathy began in the mid-nineteenth century . Then magic salons began to open en masse, and magicians who appeared out of nowhere began their march across the country.
In the first half of the twentieth century, scientists first became interested in telepathy. The Rhine couple from America conducted an experiment that ultimately did not prove the existence of telepathy, but marked the beginning of serious research into this phenomenon.
During the last decade of the twentieth century, Edinburgh scientists concluded that the transmission or reception of thoughts at a distance is possible only during an altered mental state. A person is in such borderline states, for example, before going to bed or during a bright outburst of anger.
To date, world scientists have already conducted a large number of experiments, which have led to some conclusions.
It turned out that most often people who are in close emotional contact .
Russian academician Kobzarev Yu.B. explained the phenomenon of telepathy in his own way. He claims that during the appearance of thought, charged particles are launched into space, which are given the name “psychons.” Psychons accumulate in clumps that are captured by people with a family or emotional connection.
Technique for transmitting thoughts at a distance in this video:
Signs
How does a mental connection work? Some attribute it to magic, while others associate it with psychology. For many, telepathy is quackery, since no solid evidence of its existence has yet been found.
One thing we all know: such a connection most often occurs between close people. Most often this is a mother and child, then a brother and sister, as well as a husband and wife.
How do we feel during a mental connection? At some point, we may suddenly become aware of what someone close to us is doing or feeling. Sometimes we may suddenly remember a friend when suddenly we receive a call from him. It happens that close people say the same words or finish a sentence at the same time. Most often, a mental connection manifests itself when words are not needed to understand a person.
Chakra connections with everyone around you
After laboratory tests on myself, my wife and children, and my dog, the following was the result... (No, other people were used for statistics).
Let's look at the connections between Alexander Gorlovsky and different objects in the structure of these connections.
There is only one connection with everyone that surrounds us. But, two-sided. That is, two people are somehow connected. But one person can have this connection 100% (for example, fans of the singer), and the singer himself to the fan - the usual 10%.
Now let's look at the spouses' connections. There are two connections between spouses – a common energetic and a sexual one.
A sexual relationship is formed by sexual chakras - the root (in this place a man has all his main household) - the chakra of arousal, the sacral - pleasure on both sides, the solar plexus chakra - the chakra of property. And... an imbalance of male and female energies. This imbalance is what underpins the sexual relationship between spouses, when their connection is reduced to three chakras - mental and heart.
Every person has masculine energies and feminine energies. Some more, some less. In total – 100% “gender energies”. I received from the Source 80% of feminine energies, 20%, respectively, of masculine energies. What is their optimal balance? As practice has shown, all of us, over time (after removing the blockage of the chakra), at a certain stage of our enlightenment, come to the optimal ratio of the energies of our own and the opposite sex.
What types of imbalance are observed?
What does it mean? If a person has 90% of his energies (a man is masculine, a woman is feminine), then he inevitably has problems of excessive sexual preoccupation in life, which are given to him in order to successfully complete his Lesson. Everything is always given to us to complete the Lesson. Gender energies – including.
If a woman was born with 75% male energies, if a man was born with 75% female energies, then their destiny is homosexual attraction.
It should be noted that the connection that is formed by the imbalance of male and female energies does not decrease when the balance of these energies is formed in the spouses. Why is not yet clear. As can be seen from the tablet, with passionate love, the overall connection is very modest. What makes it possible (a person should always have the opportunity) to turn events in any direction...
Some amendments have been made.
In the first column, Alexander, at the time of falling in love for the second time - as can be seen from the throat chakra - his wife was afraid, there was already smoke. When he was in love for the first time, all the chakras stood at 100%, and the overall connection was 40%. In the first column of women, there is the current wife Alexandra - when she is in love, she has a low connection along the solar plexus chakra (because the object of love is someone else’s husband)... Normally, a woman also has all chakras at 100%.
Our consciousness
The work of academicians K. M. Bykov, V. N. Chernigovsky and their employees has proven that our internal organs send many nerve impulses to the brain. These signals reach the higher parts of the brain, but are usually not reflected in our consciousness. However, this only happens as long as the internal organs are healthy.
As soon as the disease occurs, that is, as soon as the signals from the internal organs acquire greater strength, the person begins to feel them. He senses a diseased liver, heart or kidneys.
These facts show that there is no impassable gap between what we are aware of and what we are not aware of. Some processes may seem to disappear from consciousness. Anyone who has ridden a bicycle for the first time knows what efforts, attention and will are required at first to maintain balance.
And then, when the skills have already been acquired, these actions are performed automatically, and the person no longer thinks about what movements need to be made to maintain balance. This activity takes place outside of consciousness. A person who knows how to ride a bicycle does not think about signals that carry information about a change in the position of the center of gravity and an imbalance. The developed conditioned reflexes continue to be carried out without control of creation.
The reason for the emergence of such automatic skills is clear to the person himself - the cyclist remembers how he learned to ride. But it happens that some conditioned reflexes can arise under the influence of signals that from the very beginning remained beyond the threshold of consciousness. As an example, let's give an interesting experience.
The man was in Pavlov’s “tower of silence,” isolated from the outside world. No random sound, light, or smell could penetrate there. The man held his hand on the electrodes. As soon as current was passed through them, he pulled his hand away because he felt pain. Each time, before turning on the current in the chamber, a special apparatus produced a very weak sound - so weak that the person was not aware of it, and it seemed to him that there was silence in the chamber. After a series of combinations of “inaudible” sound and current, they began to turn on only the sound, without reinforcing it with current. And the person had the same reaction as when exposed to electric current!
This experience can serve as a clear example of the so-called premonition. A number of weak signals, unnoticed by us, can cause the appearance of certain reactions; however, their reasons for the person himself remain unclear.
Transmitting thoughts with a glance, touch
The activity of the brain is more complex and broader than our consciousness. Consciousness is the result of the work of some group of nerve cells that are most intensely active at the moment. This group is not constant: new and new cells are constantly switched on and off. However, even in cells that are switched off from intensive work, certain processes continue that are not directly reflected in consciousness. But these cells will instantly convey vital signals to our consciousness.
It is clear that the emergence of thoughts is possible under the influence of certain influences that themselves remain unnoticed. But they may ask the question: aren’t experiments with “thought transfer” something unusual that cannot yet be explained by science? After all, artists with amazing experiences perform on the stage. In a crowded room, spectators come up with problems, write them on paper and hand them over to the jury.
The artist is behind the stage at this time, then he is brought onto the stage and one of the spectators who came up with the task is invited there. The viewer takes the artist by the hand and he, concentrating, begins to perform the task. The only form of communication between the viewer and the artist is at this time the viewer’s hand tightly squeezing the artist’s hand.
Sometimes they don’t even do this - the viewer is simply next to the artist. How does the artist know what he has planned? It must be immediately emphasized that these experiments have nothing to do with the topic to which this article is devoted, because what is happening here is not the transmission, but the guessing of thoughts.
This process is reminiscent of the common children's game of “quiet music”. One of the players goes out the door, while the others hide an object. When the child starts searching, someone is playing a musical instrument. If the seeker approaches the object, the music intensifies; when he moves away from the object, the music becomes quiet or stops completely. Guided by the strength of the sound, the seeker eventually finds the object and carries out the intended order.
The artist guesses the task in approximately the same way, with the only difference that the signal for him is the reaction of the viewer who conceived the wish. Without noticing it, the person squeezes the artist’s hand with varying strength and the more strongly, the more the artist’s action resembles the condition of the task. You can use other audience reactions as well.
An artist who has trained for a long time easily picks up any reaction and navigates it. You don't need any supernatural sense to do this. After training, each of us is able to perceive impressions that previously went unnoticed. It is known how sensitively blind people feel sounds, how finely developed their sense of touch and smell is.
Appearance of thoughts
Let's try to understand some aspects of this phenomenon. First of all, let us answer the question: is it even possible for thoughts to arise that are not associated with any immediate external impression? Can thoughts appear as a result of some non-sensual impulses?
This question has been the subject of philosophical debate going on for thousands of years. Idealists and churchmen believe that thoughts arise without any visible connection with phenomena of the external world acting on the central nervous system of a person, that the cause and source of thinking is the “divine soul.”
Materialists argue that whatever thought arises in our brain, it is the result of certain influences of the human environment or nerve impulses entering the brain from internal organs during various disturbances in their activity.
The entire history of the development of science exposes the fanatical inventions of churchmen and confirms the correctness of materialism. The great Russian scientist I.M. Sechenov was the first to show that thinking is based on the mechanism of a reflex - a reaction to external irritation, and the genius of I.P. Pavlov was able to reveal the mechanism of these higher forms of reflex activity and give the world the main laws of brain function. Thus, idealism was dealt a crushing blow in its main refuge; Only obscurantists who neglected scientific facts could cling to old views.
In order not to be distracted, we will not dwell on the very complex issue of the physiological mechanisms underlying thinking. Let us only note that, although thought is a product of the work of the brain, thinking itself is also determined by the influence of the social environment in which a person lives.
Human thinking cannot develop on its own. Even the most complex creation of nature - the human brain cannot give birth to a single thought, being left to its own devices. The brain is only an instrument of thinking, while the content of thought is given by the external environment around us.
Instincts and some desires are not always conscious, but they reflect certain biological needs of the body. Children can sometimes be seen eating chalk; they greedily gnaw at it like sugar. This is an expression of the growing organism’s need for calcium salts necessary to build the skeleton. The reasons for such reactions are not always reflected in consciousness.
