Changes in life are the engine of human development. Even if these are unpleasant and unexpected changes, they still contribute to the development of personality and provide invaluable experience and knowledge. And if these are targeted and positive changes that are organized by the person himself, then there is no doubt about their benefits. Development is impossible without leaving your comfort zone. And change just helps to get out of it. Now let’s look in more detail at what changes in a person’s life are, what they are like and why they are needed.
Rules of human life
5. Always be yourself, proudly and sincerely
When a person tries to be someone else, he gradually loses himself. Stop doing this, you shouldn't be ashamed to be yourself.
You are a unique person with your strength, your ideas and your beauty. Stay who you feel you are, become the best version of yourself.
6. Live in the present moment, learn to see it
A miracle is happening right now. You can only be sure of something now, in the moment. Life is now.
So stop dreaming about the great things you will one day accomplish. Stop worrying about something you didn't do or did in your past.
It is very important to learn to be here and now. Experience your life as it flows, don’t get ahead of yourself and don’t mentally go back. The world is beautiful, appreciate it here and now.
7. Learn to learn from your mistakes and appreciate them
Everyone makes mistakes. This is normal, because progress is only possible with them. When a person doesn’t make mistakes, it only says one thing: he doesn’t really want to achieve something and doesn’t learn.
Make mistakes, take risks, fall, lose, but after that be sure to get up from your knees and start again. Appreciate that you are moving forward, growing, learning and understanding how to correct your mistakes.
The path to high peaks is almost always quite winding, on which you will encounter a lot of falls and failures. Therefore, the next mistake that you are so afraid of may be nothing more than the most incredible achievement of your life.
What kind of freedom do people want?
*This section was written based on an analysis of letters coming to me by email, as well as based on the results of working with clients.
People want a better life, that's natural. I want her too. The desire to grow and develop is inherent in us from birth.
When we do an exercise with my clients to determine the life a person would like to live, in 90 out of 100 cases I get approximately the same description: a large house on the seashore (with various modifications in the form of a swimming pool, a greenhouse, a large garden, etc. .), an expensive car, your own business that brings in a lot of money, but requires very little time to manage, and frequent travel.
I want everything, but I want nothing for it. This is exactly what I wrote about. Absolute freedom and the opportunity to do whatever your heart desires. Doing little or nothing in return. I don't want to upset anyone, but this doesn't happen. But even if we assume that this happens, believe me, in a vacuum of availability and doing nothing, there is no happiness, but there is boredom and lack of motivation to do anything at all. I have caught such conditions more than once.
About changes in life
11. Give your dreams and ideas a chance
In our life, chance is a rather rare occurrence; in most cases, we have to find it on our own. You will never be completely confident that your idea will work one hundred percent. However, rest assured that it will definitely not work if you don’t do anything about it.
For the most part, our ideas are worthy and require attempts to implement them. It doesn’t matter at all how the implementation of the idea ends: another life experience or success. In any case, you win.
12. You must believe that you are ready to move forward.
Think about what you are already ready for. You already carry within you absolutely everything you need for the next small step. So embrace the opportunities that come your way and be open to change. This is a real gift that will contribute to your growth.
A new life won't bring happiness if it's a mess inside.
As a person who has spent a lot of time running through life in search of happiness, I will say this about changes: a new life will not give you happiness if you strive for it in an attempt to escape from yourself. You will never win this race. None of my office jobs (and there were many different ones) nor the move to Cyprus (my big dream and the place where happiness should have fallen on me) met my expectations. Because there was an unhappy person living inside me. And he can live anywhere: from a communal apartment to a huge house by the sea. You need to start eliminating the habit of being unhappy from your life now, otherwise you will destroy even the most sincere and long-standing dream with it.
How to start changes in life
14. Always give people who cross your path a chance.
You may think this is quite harsh, but the truth is that you will not be able to maintain a friendly relationship with everyone. We all change, and our priorities change along with us. Some relationships only grow stronger over time, while others simply fade into the past.
Appreciate the opportunity to build new relationships, but abandon old ones that have already served their purpose. When a person starts a new relationship, he must understand that he is entering unfamiliar territory.
Be prepared for challenges, be prepared to learn, and always be prepared for the possibility that someone may come along who can change your life once and for all.
15. You should only compete with the old version of yourself.
Learn from other people, appreciate them, be inspired by their example, but never compete with them. You will only waste your time. You must always compete with only one person - yourself.
Compete to become better, to beat yourself. Make it your goal to consistently beat your personal bests and only then will you be able to benefit from this type of competition.
16. Learn to enjoy other people's victories
Notice what pleases you in other people, start telling them about it. If you recognize that there are great people around you, you will see how much good will open up for you.
Rejoice for the one who managed to achieve success. Wish him victory with all your heart, root for him. Sooner or later, such a person will definitely start rooting for you.
Inner feeling of anxiety
Often people in the usual bustle begin to experience an inexplicable feeling of anxiety. Many people have a premonition of inevitable troubles or misfortunes. Someone is feeling the burden of problems that have appeared or are looming on the horizon. The most sensitive natures can generally fall into long-term depression.
It is important to understand the reasons for this mood. If it is impossible to do this on your own, it is better to turn to specialists: psychologists will be able to determine the level of anxiety and give the necessary recommendations. You just need to try to understand yourself and find the true reasons for your depressed state. And this can only mean one thing: you need to change!
After all, it is still more common for a person to approach life with joy, to take for granted all defeats and victories. This is how humans differ from animals in that they are endowed with self-reflection, that is, the ability to analyze the reasons for all their successes and failures. And when the cause is found, it can always be eliminated - if only there is a desire.
Of course, it’s more difficult when there are no more desires left. Then a good emotional shake-up comes to the rescue - a new film, meeting new interesting people. Or maybe adrenaline will help? Then a parachute jump or a descent from a mountain peak will truly revive your sense of life.
Human life
17. Encourage yourself in difficult situations
Difficult times come in each of our lives. It is important to support yourself during this time. A few deep breaths and a reminder that challenges will only make you stronger.
Remember all the good and right things that exist in your life, remember all your achievements and victories. Focus your attention on what you currently have, rather than on what you lack.
18. Forgive others and yourself
Each of us has been hurt at some point because of the actions of another person or because of our own wrong decision. It is normal to be sensitive to such an experience, but sometimes it happens that the suffering drags on for too long a period of time.
A person experiences his pain again and again, thereby only prolonging what is not the most pleasant period in his life. The most effective and, perhaps, the only medicine is forgiveness.
This does not mean that you erase your past and forget what happened. This means that you allow the resentment to go away, the pain to dull. This event remains in memory solely as an important life experience, but nothing more.
19. Show concern for others
Take care of the people around you, help them find the right path, if you know it. Remember that the more you help the people around you, the more they will help you. Kindness and love always return.
Accept your feelings
Does it sound strange? How can you accept what is unpleasant, such as fear, uncertainty, grief or anxiety? Acceptance allows you to deal with these feelings instead of letting your emotions control you. Look at your feelings a little differently.
Let's take fear, for example. You may experience a variety of sensations, including emptiness in your stomach, trembling, sweating, or an inability to think clearly. What if we consciously renamed fear? Call this state excitement. When you're anxious, you may also experience a feeling of emptiness in your stomach, shaky knees, and sweaty palms. Accept these sensations and call them what empowers you. This is a change in thinking.
You can do this with different emotions. I often think of grief as love that has no way out - so I just channel the love in a different direction. This makes me feel better.
Changes in life
23. Embrace imperfections
Always remember that perfect is not synonymous with good. One of the greatest challenges for those who want to make themselves and the world a better place is to accept things as they really are.
Sometimes it is even useful to accept people and the world around them as they are. Making them fit your crazy ideals is a thankless task. But that doesn't mean you have to settle for a mediocre life and give up on change. Sometimes you just have to accept what doesn't seem ideal to you.
24. Walk towards your goal every day.
Whatever your dream is, you should not miss a single day to move towards it. Any action, even the smallest, brings you closer to it. Tiny steps make a big difference if they are taken regularly.
Most of us at least once in our lives think about the need to follow our calling, but only a few begin to do something in this direction. Constant work in this case is a steady, albeit gradual, movement towards your goal.
What can they lead to?
What do changes in life lead to? Change is an experience. Changes reveal a person from some side. Sometimes what seems like a tragedy can lead to positive results. For example, a person was fired, and then he found his true calling. However, even positive changes carry a certain charge of destructive energy. Let's look at the negative impact of changes in life.
Negative impact of change
Change is scary. Any changes in yourself are a rejection of part of yourself. That is, first you take something away from yourself, find yourself in a vacuum for a while, and then gain it. For example, you give up a toxic social circle, bad habits, dead-end jobs, destructive love relationships, etc.
Changes in life are a strong emotional shock. A person finds himself in a state of anxiety, because of this there is a high risk of making incorrect, rash, emotional decisions. Try to look at recent changes with fresh, new eyes, as if they were not happening to you. Take the role of observer.
Changes in life always drive a person into a state of stress and instability. The longer he stays in this state, that is, the slower he adapts and makes decisions, acts, the higher the risks and danger. Living in conditions of constant uncertainty and instability is fraught with the development of neuroses and psychosomatic diseases.
Life rules
25. Open up your feelings
If you feel bad, then give yourself time to get over it. Don’t close yourself off and don’t push your suffering into the farthest corner of your soul.
Talk to your loved ones, tell them the truth about how you are feeling, let them listen to you. This easy way of releasing your worries and worries will be the first step to getting over the situation and feeling great again.
26. Responsibility for your life should lie solely with you.
Make your choices and make your mistakes. Be prepared to fix them yourself. When a person does not take responsibility for his life, someone else does it instead. Only in this case do we become a slave to other people’s dreams and ideas, abandoning our own path on which only you can become a pioneer.
The only person who has the right to control the consequences of your actions is you. Nobody says that it will be easy, because each of us always faces a sufficient number of obstacles. But you simply must be responsible for everything that happens in your life and overcome these difficulties.
27. The most important relationships in life must always be maintained.
Telling the people you love how much they mean to you brings true joy and honesty to your relationship. Tell them this regularly. You don't mean much to many people, but to some of them you mean the world.
Understand for yourself who these people are, value them and take care of them as your greatest treasure. Remember that you don't need a specific number of friends, you need people in whom you are confident.
