Women's tears are one of the weapons that the weaker sex resorts to when there is no way to influence strong partners. Tears can be shed by women, they are forbidden by men - that’s what society says. Tears are a person’s weakness in a situation in which he is crying. If a man cries, then it is allowed to do so because of the death of a loved one. Why does a woman cry next to a man?
All women are different. But there comes a time when they cry. Depending on her upbringing and the goals of her behavior, a woman may cry for one reason or another:
- There are women who cry at every opportunity. They get specks in their eyes and they start crying. Such ladies definitely irritate men.
- There are women who use tears as manipulation. If they fail to achieve something from men, they begin to cry and become weak. If a man detects manipulation, he doesn't like it. Otherwise, he succumbs to provocations.
- There are women who cry when they are really bad and in pain. Their tears are rare, but sincere. It is in front of them that men fall to their knees to ask for forgiveness and love.
Women's tears are a controversial instrument. Depending on the intentions with which a woman uses them, she gets one or another result.
Why don't men like women's tears?
Many women know that men cannot stand women's tears. Articles are written about this, they are talked about on TV shows, and wise mothers advise. Dear readers of the women's magazine prettysecrets.ru, there is no need to cry for any reason and do not use tears as manipulation and influence on a man. Why? Because typical reactions of men in this situation are:
- Stopper. The man simply doesn't know what to do.
- Escape. The man turns around and leaves so as not to feel guilty.
- Sympathy. This behavior is rare on the part of a man. He doesn't want the woman to cry, so he starts to calm her down.
If you don’t want to push a man away from you, then it’s better not to cry for any reason. Moreover, see how a man reacts to your tears. If it’s easier for him to leave and talk to you when you calm down, then you definitely won’t help yourself with tears, and you’ll only piss the man off.
Why don't men like women's tears? Because in a situation of suffering of the weaker sex, a man understands that he caused pain. A man should be strong and protect the weak, but it turned out the opposite. If he sees a woman crying, he feels worthless. A man feels guilty and reckless if he sees a woman suffering because of his actions or decisions.
A problem can arise if a man has not actually done anything bad to a woman or he considers his actions to be correct. In such a situation, he will consider women's tears to be manipulation, which, in principle, will be the correct conclusion. Moreover, it is necessary to distinguish real men from males - they all belong to the stronger sex, but differ in their attitude towards women:
- Real men respect, love and value women. They stand on an equal footing with them and build serious relationships. There is no obvious intent to cause pain in their thoughts.
- Males usually think only about themselves, consider themselves the smartest and most necessary, compared to women. They treat women as an obligatory attribute of entertainment, sex, and life. They don't like women, they don't respect them, some are even afraid of them.
It follows that only real men will feel guilty and empathize with women who cry because of them. Males are more likely to feel superior when they see female tears. They will rejoice that they were able to win, defeat women. And their steadfastness in the face of women’s tears suggests that they themselves know what tears are.
If we turn to wise sayings, then one of them says that no person is worthy of other people's tears. Believe me, a man who is confident, strong and wise will never need to be cried for.
Never cry for a man you don't know. Usually men who have known women for only a few days, when they see women’s tears, immediately begin to think that these ladies are hysterical or sick. They don’t want to get involved with women who cry within the first month of dating.
It is better not to use tears as a manipulation at all. If you are hurt, cry. But if you cry to force a man to do something, then you will not be able to justify yourself to him.
Men's tears from contemplation of beauty
This may seem strange and incredible, but the powers that be also cry because of the beauty they see. It is difficult to believe that sometimes rude, sometimes uncouth and brutal men in their habits can be influenced by beauty, and this beauty can give rise to such completely unexpected emotions in them. Thus, a lump rising in the throat and moistened eyelids can be observed in a young man looking at a ballerina performing a dance from “Swan Lake” in her gentle, light and bewitching series of aerial movements. Just like listening to an amazing musical composition performed by a symphony orchestra or representatives of high art in its best manifestations can touch a strong representative of society. The beauty of music, choreography, painting, opera, ballet and other types of virtuosity absorbs listeners, and men are no exception. They are also able to appreciate the quality of the material they listen to and watch and are moved by the contemplation of such a beautiful action unfolding before their eyes.
Why is the woman crying?
A woman suffers because she allows suffering to happen. When a person does not want to suffer, he refuses everything that brings him suffering. But a woman, unlike a man, more often allows herself to go through suffering, instead of simply ridding herself of the possibility of it happening.
If you see that your apartment is dirty, what do you do? You are cleaning up. That is, you rid yourself of what causes you discomfort, suffering, grief. Why, then, do you not deal with the men who bring you suffering? If a man doesn't make you happy now, then why should he suddenly want to make you happy in the future?
A woman suffers because she allows suffering to happen. There are women who, for example, do not want to suffer from infidelity. Therefore, they look out in advance for men who do not show signs of a womanizer or womanizer, or immediately break off relations with those who cheated on them. They do not want to suffer because of men who cannot be faithful, so they refuse them without regret. But if a woman forgives a cheater or sees a man flirting with other ladies but not breaking up with them, then she is voluntarily allowing suffering to enter her life.
You can blame men for being so bad and making women unhappy. But women are also to blame for allowing such men to be near them. A woman suffers because she allows suffering to happen. If she did not want to suffer, she would immediately protect herself from those gentlemen who cause her suffering.
Dear women, understand for yourself that next to you is exactly the man whom you allowed to be next to you. And if you suffer because of him, then it is your own fault for not breaking off relations with him. Other women, who are more confident and want only happiness for themselves, part with those who cause them pain and do not want to live in peace and harmony without regret. Why do you allow suffering to be present in your life?
Men's tears from the pain of loss
Perhaps the most common, deepest and bitterest emotional shock and source of a man’s shedding of tears is the pain of losing loved ones. This is probably almost the only case when no one will ever laugh at a man’s weakness shown in this way. What could be more difficult, more depressing, more murderous than the feeling of losing a loved one? What could be worse than the realization that you won’t get him back, won’t hear his voice, won’t see his smile, won’t hug him and won’t feel the joy of spending time together? The tragedy and severity of the situation, hopelessness and uncertainty in the future fill a heartbroken man and look for a way out in tears. It is a sin to accuse him in this case of showing weakness, because no one is immune from losses and the destructive power of pain that these losses instill in the heart of the sufferer.
You don't have to suffer
They say: “The world is full of suffering - problems, illness, old age, death, earning money, etc.” The question arises: why should problems, illness, old age, death, earning money, etc. bring suffering? The idea that something must cause suffering preprograms people to expect that when they are faced with difficult situations, they must suffer. No one can cancel illness, betrayal and the need to earn money. But why should a person suffer from this? This is a program that is implanted in people's heads. They internalize this program, which is why they then go through life suffering.
What would happen if you were not told why you should suffer? Half of your misfortunes would simply disappear. Difficult situations would happen, but you would not suffer because you were not programmed to suffer because of them. You don't have to suffer because you were fired. You don't have to suffer because you are terminally ill. You don’t have to suffer because your loved one leaves. An amazing thought, isn't it? But people suffer not because it is their natural reaction, but because they have been taught this since childhood.
First they tell you that something causes suffering in people, and then they teach you to accept problems. Why not initially teach that problems are the norm of life, you need to solve them, and not suffer because of them? There is not a single person who has never been sick, faced difficulties, or been deceived or betrayed by other people. Moreover, there is not a single person who will not die sooner or later. So, why suffer because of what is natural in human life?
Surprisingly, people sometimes suffer because of such little things that seem funny in the eyes of others. Girls can suffer because they are a couple of kilograms heavier than supermodels. Guys may suffer because they have to work and earn pennies. Someone may suffer because they are not famous. And there are people who suffer because they are not loved by everyone with whom they have ever communicated. Such petty situations, and people suffer because of them as if the world had really collapsed and time had stopped.
You don't have to suffer. Moreover, it is stupid and pointless to suffer over little things. After all, there are much more serious problems happening in the world. And even they don’t have to cause you suffering. It is better to deal with them and solve them than to waste time on emotions that only harm you, and the situation does not disappear from this.
Men's tears from sentimentality
Another answer to the question of why men cry is sentimentality. It often manifests itself in those who are already older, who have survived the crisis of the “fateful forties” and have crossed the line of fifty. A treacherous, stingy male tear creeps up towards old age, uncontrollable, swift, bitter. And yet, it is necessary to distinguish between the concepts of sentimentality and sensitivity. In ordinary life, a sentimental person may not always be emotionally pliable and capable of being moved by tenderness or tenderness of the moment. A sentimental representative of the stronger half is capable of being incredibly cruel, while a sensitive person cannot be cruel. Therefore, you should not trust an elderly man stroking a mongrel or feeding pigeons, because he may simply treat them much better than the people around him. And this is explained quite simply - during the fiftieth birthday, the body loses most of the male sex hormones. Hence the sentiments, and tears, and excessive sensitivity.
It's easier to cry than to change
It is easier for people to suffer than to change. Change is an effort on oneself, inconvenience, pain, the unknown. It’s like finding yourself in a dense forest, where you need to trodden a new path, safe and familiar. And in suffering, yes, a person feels bad and unpleasant, but he already knows everything, is familiar, he has somehow gotten used to it and got used to it.
This is why people prefer to change other people and the world as a whole rather than themselves. After all, I want to live beautifully and happily. However, how can you live differently if you yourself do not change? The world will definitely not change, will not adapt to you, since it exists according to its own laws. He can change for you only when you begin to look at him differently, that is, change yourself, change the style of your gaze. For example, the world looks different in the eyes of an optimist and a pessimist, although for all people it is the same.
The people around you will be indignant, why should they change for you? In the same way, they can ask to change for them. Other people decide for themselves what they should be, how to live and what to do, just as you do. Here again you need to change yourself to make life easier: do not demand something from others, but give yourself what you need, develop the desired qualities in yourself, surround yourself with those things and people that will make your life beautiful and interesting .
In other words, if you want to live better than now, change your worldview, thinking, algorithm of actions, behavior, develop useful and necessary qualities in yourself, transform yourself, make your appearance beautiful, in the end. Do everything possible so that the world around you finally becomes the way you want it to be. And here it’s up to you to choose: suffer or change? After all, it is easier to suffer than to change, but for a strong person this is only a bonus.
Crying from helplessness
There are frequent cases of tears from representatives of the stronger half, associated with a feeling of total helplessness and the inability to influence a particular situation. Usually it is preceded by a feeling of injustice of what is happening and the resulting outburst of rage, anger and indignation. And in combination with powerlessness and the lack of ability to prevent what is happening, outbursts of aggression and anger are transformed into meager tears of helplessness. History knows many examples of how crying befell even the strongest, strongest and most persistent husbands from a sense of hopelessness of the current situation. Why do men cry and what cases provoke such a male reaction?
- An unfulfilled dream destroyed by someone.
- Losing something you love and losing the effort you put into it.
- Financial collapse associated with an unforeseen combination of circumstances.
- Loss of a roof over your head due to a natural disaster or other disaster.
- Separation for a long period from a beloved child.
- A spouse lying on her deathbed, dying of illness.
Bottom line
Women's tears have different purposes. It depends only on the woman how her man will react if she uses her tears in time. All men react differently, this should also be taken into account. However, a man's indifference becomes obvious if you really cry from pain, and he does not understand this.
If you defeated a man with the help of tears, then do not say it out loud. Next time the man will remember that you pressed for pity, and will no longer succumb.
Men's tears of joy
The strength of bitterness from the loss of a loved one is directly proportional to the powerful surge of joy that a man experiences, for example, during some positive and happiness-bearing moments in life. Why can’t a man cry in front of people and show his feelings if he experiences an overwhelming feeling of joy and a storm of positive emotions? Human stereotypes sometimes have too negative an impact on the public. And ridiculing men's tears serves as direct proof of this. The manifestation of a violent reaction in the form of tears of male happiness may be preceded by the following prerequisites:
- news of the pregnancy of his beloved wife;
- birth of a child;
- a long-awaited meeting with a comrade in arms after many years of separation;
- victory in the World Cup of your favorite football team;
- achieving some significant success in career activities.
