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- Diagnosis of problems
- Making a strong-willed decision to fight
- Difficulties in a person's life
- Ways to overcome life's difficulties
It is difficult to find a person who does not know what the difficulties of life are. But there are millions of people in the world who do not know how to overcome these difficulties. They lie to themselves, denying the existence of difficulties, give up, stopping any attempts to solve problems or understand them. What does this lead to? Nothing positive. A person falls into prolonged depression or develops nervous and mental illnesses.
If you are a strong-willed person, accustomed to facing the truth, then this information will not be useful to you. If you don’t have the courage to solve problems, work on yourself from today, because you have already taken a small step in this direction - you have decided to learn how to overcome difficulties.
Diagnosis of problems
To fight the enemy you need to know him by sight. Therefore, first we will determine the presence of difficulties and see which category they belong to. Life difficulties:
Serious problems from outside (loss of the most expensive property, a house burned down, a large sum of money was stolen, death of a loved one, incurable illness). Difficulties of moderate complexity (you were kicked out of work, your husband or wife cheated on you, you got sick, you have no means of subsistence). Difficulties in self-identification, psychological problems (fear of death, feelings of inferiority or worthlessness, depression, panic). Domestic difficulties (tired of cleaning, cooking, quarreling with my husband because of his carelessness, plumbing is out of order, not enough money, the phone is broken, difficulties in family life).
The problems described in the first two points are not necessarily the most difficult. The third type of problems - psychological - can be of any complexity. The subtle world called “psyche” is difficult to analyze, so to deal with this kind of problem, you have to try. Everyday difficulties from the last category are only at first glance inferior in complexity to the previous ones; they drag you into a pool of sadness, fear, sluggish, destructive hatred of yourself and the rest of the world. Therefore, any of the problems is serious, especially for the one who has it.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself
Accepting reality will help organize your thoughts and feelings. This is the key to being productive. How we behave when faced with a problem determines how quickly we find a solution. Even if our problem cannot be solved (for example, the loss of a loved one), we still choose each time how to react to what happened.
You shouldn't indulge in self-pity. It will not allow you to move on and will completely deprive you of your fortitude. Ask yourself: “What can I do right now to help myself in some way?” You may have to overcome your fear or do something unpleasant. The main thing is to act.
Making a strong-willed decision to fight
Giving a clear name is mandatory, because vague complaints like “I feel bad, my soul hurts, it’s hard, and I don’t know why” and “cure” are impossible.
After recognizing the problem, you already have a formulation. It’s not always easy to take even this step, but don’t think about it, do it in order, so to speak, in small steps. In this way you will go through the entire long, albeit difficult, path. Don't forget: “Great things start small.”
After looking your difficulty in the eye, the problem will already decrease in size. Now it will not pulsate in your exhausted brain every day or seem like a black bottomless abyss. No, after the bold step of identifying the problem, you have already seen your enemy and know its size. It turns out that this is not a bottomless abyss, although it is very deep in some particularly serious cases.
How often does it happen that a person knows a problem that has been bothering him for a long time, but does not want to fight, he is disappointed in life, does not believe in himself and walks around like a psychological corpse - Homo Sapiens lives, eats, breathes, but has lost interest in anything , life only by the fact of its existence is disgusting. What can I recommend?
Strange as it may sound, if it seems to you that the end has come for the person you previously saw in the mirror, this is good because there is nothing to lose in such a situation. All that remains is to make the decision to fight, to solve problems.
You may ask, what to do if it is completely unclear which direction to move? Should you do something even if you are not sure about the right path? Of course yes. Here's an example. Imagine that there is a small wooden box in front of you. It is filled with balls of the same size, but of different colors: first, a handful of black balls are poured, and the same amount of white balls is poured on top. The box is closed.
Now we draw parallels: one of the black balls is you. The ball lies at the bottom of the box, there are black balls around, there is also a large layer of balls on top and the situation seems completely hopeless, since there is no way to get up and the ways to solve the problem are unknown.
Now imagine that you pick up the box and start shaking it. Yes, at first glance you are doing things at random. You don’t know what’s going on inside, you know one thing - when you shake the box, at least something happens inside. Now let’s reveal the cards: in the process of such shaking, the balls in the box begin to mix. It happens chaotically, but everyone has heard the theory of probability.
So, according to this theory, the balls in the box will eventually return to their initial position with almost zero probability. So doing at least something is useful in depression, in decadent moods. And then, you see, while shaking, you will understand in which direction you need to tilt the box and your ball will be pushed up by other balls.
Accept reality
Acceptance does not mean agreement. You just need to admit that this or that event is a fait accompli. By insisting and repeating that this should not have happened, you are only wasting your time and energy. By accepting what is happening, you will take the first step to find a way out of the situation.
Imagine a traffic jam. One person will think: “How unfair! And why does this always happen to me? He will begin to get angry, nervous and argue with other drivers.
A psychologically stable person will simply remind himself: “Millions of cars drive on the roads every day, it is natural that there will be traffic jams from time to time.” This attitude towards what is happening will help maintain calm. Such a person will turn on a podcast and wait for the traffic to be restored.
To accept reality, we need to understand what we can control and what we cannot. In situations that you have no control over, try to control yourself.
Difficulties in a person's life
Imagine life without difficulties. It seemed like it could be better. You will be surprised, but it is the presence of difficulties that shows us how good life can be, gives us food for thought, and makes us, like the balls from the example above, move. If difficulties in a person’s life disappear, then there will be nothing to compare the rest of the events with; no one will even imagine what difficulties are, or what joyful events are. There won’t be any, since everything will be painfully the same.
To maintain vitality, to maintain self-control, you must always remember what was written on the ring of King Solomon. It said, “This too shall pass.” When he was in grief, he looked at this inscription and calmed down, because there was an instruction that everything would pass. But he was in no hurry to rejoice too much, so as not to be upset later, because even in this case he looked at the inscription and was convinced that this too would pass, that everything in the world passes and passes.
Control sad thoughts
The mind can be both our best ally and our worst enemy. If you allow negative thoughts to take over, you simply won't be able to do anything.
Thoughts like “I’ll never be able to do this” or “I can’t stand another minute” will prevent you from achieving your goals. So try to notice when your thoughts become overly pessimistic.
If you feel yourself panicking, think about what you would say if your friend were in this situation. Surely you would encourage him and assure him that he would succeed.
Why does a person need difficulties in life?
Well, Nadezhda, let's argue about the simplicity and transparency of the laws of life. As an argument, I will take the Bible (I have not read other holy books of various religions, but I do not think that they differ from each other in the sense of moral laws and their presentation). So, the Bible is a holy book for all Christians and an authoritative source of knowledge for a large part of atheists (in the sense of a person’s moral code). This is a guide book to life, which contains the basic rules of human existence and morality. That is, the laws of life. These laws have been tested for thousands of years and are considered the absolute truth and the highest justice. However, even in the Bible itself, these laws are presented in the form of parables, which, if desired, can be explained in any way. This is what all kinds of interpreters have used for many centuries. Yes, conclusions based on these parables are made extremely transparent, but they are interpreted very differently - depending on the ideology of the interpreter and his needs. It turns out that the laws of life, as well as the various laws of society, whatever one may say, fall under the well-known saying: “The law is that whatever the shaft is turned, so it turns out.” After all, the basic biblical commandments, such as “thou shalt not kill,” “thou shalt not steal,” “thou shalt not commit adultery,” and all the rest, have never been simple and transparent. Here is an example: our Soviet intelligence officers, during the Great Patriotic War, obtained, and in fact stole data from the Nazis and thereby saved, for example, mined cities, saved hundreds of thousands of innocent people from senseless death. And these actions of theirs are not condemned, but, on the contrary, are called a feat, although they violated one of the sacred laws of life. So it's not that simple? What can we say about secondary laws? I mean guidelines that, although they have not become the main commandments, are considered the laws of life. Such, for example, as the “Law of Cause and Effect,” which states that nothing happens for nothing, or the “Law of Boomerang,” which is based on the idea that all actions come back to us, and even strengthened many times over. There is also the “Law of the Mirror,” which says that everything that happens to a person is a reflection of his thoughts and actions, or the “Law of the Barrier,” which states that a person, by the power of his intention, can raise any “barrier” that blocks his path to goals and a great many different rules called the laws of life. Where is the simplicity and transparency in these and similar laws? Not one of them is an axiom; all of them are not only constantly confirmed, but also refuted, and have any number of interpretations and exceptions. Most likely, these are not the laws of life, but our fantasies, from which we really want to make the Enduring Laws of the Universe. People really need fairy tales, and they make them up. In fact, I think the simplicity and complexity of our lives are determined not only by our attitude to a particular situation, but also by the situation itself, which is not always simple.
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Quotes about temporary difficulties
If it rains in your life, focus on the flowers that will bloom thanks to this rain.
If the path is replete with difficulties, then any end will be for happiness!
If something doesn’t work out in your life, don’t be upset: know that these are just temporary difficulties... Everything passes...
When there is patience and hard work, difficulties recede.
Life-long temporary difficulties always arise!
As always, we have temporary difficulties that turn into difficult times.
This year the first six months will be difficult... But then there will be berries and mushrooms...
After difficulties come joys - this is how striped life has decreed.
Statuses about overcoming difficulties
And I would also like to live, and not just overcome difficulties.
Do not complain in the face of difficulties, grit your teeth and overcome them.
Teach children to overcome difficulties, then they will not even understand that this is a great art.
Difficulties strengthen, without them a person relaxes and becomes limp.
Overcome difficulties - reap your laurels if you have time before the next ones arrive.
Overcoming difficulties, we gain wisdom
Easy and expensive can only be the last step.
I haven’t forgotten my mother’s instructions: overcome difficulties, and everything will work out. I overcome it, but nothing works.
Difficulties do not need to be avoided, they must either be stepped over or overcome.
A day without overcoming difficulties is a gift of fate.
Everyone is given strength, so you can always overcome your difficulties.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself when difficulties arise along the way; feel sorry for others who are afraid of these difficulties.
The harder your path to the top, the greater success awaits you.
When you overcome difficulties, it is important to go and do it in the style of the eyes being afraid, but the hands doing it.
