Human adequacy, signs and properties of inadequacy

Author of the material:

Inna Trofimova

writer, psychologist, gestalt therapist

The world requires us to comply with some standards that we are not obligated to comply with. Those around you expect adequate behavior, education, perception, and decisions. Is it really necessary to rebuild the inner world to meet external expectations? Adequate – is it normal or not so good? And how to adequately respond to the inappropriate behavior of your interlocutor?

In the article we talk about the manifestations and degree of adequacy, deviant behavior, and ways to counter toxic people.

Getting rid of inappropriate child behavior

The sooner you try to rid your child of inappropriate behavior, the more successful the results will be. This may require consulting a doctor and understanding that different forms of inappropriate behavior require different approaches.

So, when children show whims and stubbornness, it is necessary to try to communicate kindly and calmly with the child, in this case it is necessary to act using the method of distraction and not to encourage the child’s unlawful demands, but also not to resort to punishment. It is better to stop communicating with your child for a while. Without a response from an adult, the child will become uninterested in being capricious and stubborn. Then you should approach him and try to involve him in some kind of game, while maintaining an atmosphere of calm and goodwill

If tearfulness occurs, the child should be distracted, caressed and involved in a common game with children, or given some instructions so that he can complete them on his own.

Motor disinhibition is relieved by including the baby in activities associated with purposeful activities. You should alternate periods of physical activity with periods of concentration.

Prevention of inappropriate behavior should include creating optimal conditions for child development, ensuring constant physical and mental activity, full communication with adult family members, systematic stay in the fresh air, and changes in various types of activities.

The child should be encouraged in every possible way to show his own initiative. If a child is constantly limited or prohibited, then the child will very quickly begin to refuse what he is asked to do.

Constant prohibitions provoke children's nervousness. At the same time, the word cannot be an effective prohibition. If after the word “no” the child gets what he wants, then this word is not fixed in the child’s brain as prohibitive.

A child is more willing to comply with adults’ demands if they are formulated in the form of a request rather than an order.

When should you sound the alarm?

In addition to the above points, he invites you to familiarize yourself with examples of behavior that indicate the inadequacy of a partner . So, the following signs indicate an abuser:

• jealousy with or without reason;
• constant changes in mood;
• lack of respect for you;
• power and selfishness;
• inability to control anger;
• disrespect of your personal boundaries;
• habit of blaming you for everything;
• constant control;
• violent behavior;
• insults and violence.

Of course, if these signs are present, you need to run away from the man.

So, we hope that this information will help you find the right life partner and build a serious and strong relationship with him. If you see “alarm bells”, do not ignore them, but need to think soberly. You can find out which men you should avoid in this video:

How can therapy help inadequacy?

Therapists help people uncover and address the childhood experiences that underlie negative feelings in order to recover from them. By working with a therapist, people identify their assets and expand them. Clients learn how to recognize their strengths and minimize their weaknesses so that they can feel confident and adequate, regardless of their limitations.

Inadequacy can hold a person back from dealing with many of life's problems, from career changes to relationship difficulties. Through therapy, a person can learn to develop more realistic expectations for themselves. And also discover activities, relationships and experiences that can develop a sense of competence.

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Inappropriate behavior in a child

In children, it is often more difficult to determine the presence of inadequacy: for preschoolers and children of primary school age, fantasies and the presence of imaginary friends are the norm. Children tend to come up with explanations for everything that scares or angers them, and are easily carried away by mysticism. Symptoms that occur briefly and are easily explained are often not dangerous.

You should be wary if children become aggressive, excessively capricious, or stubborn. Frequent crying and hysterics can also be a manifestation of pathology. An inadequate child refuses contact with others for no reason. The child is easily excited and is characterized by increased motor activity. It can be difficult to concentrate on one thing for a long time. Cruelty towards other children and animals is possible.

The risk of developing abnormalities increases if the mother was seriously ill during pregnancy, the baby had severe hypoxia during childbirth, or the child lacks love, attention and care.

Signs of inadequacy

There are many signs of inadequacy, but they must be considered comprehensively. Individuals should not be labeled as inadequate if they discover only one of the following manifestations.

The state of inadequacy is expressed in the following actions. And above all, it is found in unpredictable mood changes of a polar nature (a bad mood is replaced by euphoria, a good mood is replaced by a bad one), unexpected reactions to people (excessively impulsive behavior). The facial expressions and gestures of an individual in the described state do not correspond to what is happening. Such subjects are characterized by excessive theatricality, fussiness, excessive gesticulation, or, on the contrary, unnatural calm, inappropriate to the situation, a frozen, unblinking gaze directly into the eyes of the interlocutor.

An inadequate person tends to interrupt those talking, does not listen enough to their arguments and judgments, may not listen to others at all, or voice his own opinion off topic. Peremptory statements often slip through. Individuals in a state of inadequacy often express opinions that are completely inappropriate. They can take the subject of conversation into a completely different direction. They chat more about themselves. Their speech is filled with swear words, rude expressions, and slang phrases. In addition, they can demonstratively use abstruse sentences in ordinary everyday conversation.

In appearance, there is an inappropriate selection of clothing, a style that is inappropriate for the event or setting, pretentious or provocative outfits. The appearance also undergoes changes: brightly colored curls, an unusual hairstyle, provocative makeup. Among the sons of Adam, inadequacy manifests itself in excessive piercings, “tunnels” in the ears, many tattoos, and scarring.

Inadequate people tend to take with hostility any judgments and ideas of their opponents during a conversation, regardless of their reasoning and logic. They are also characterized by increased sensitivity, inadequate reaction to friendly teasing, jokes, and harmless jabs.

Inappropriate behavior can be expressed in aggressiveness, suspicion, motor disinhibition, suicidal attempts or a tendency to self-harm, immoral acts, antisocial behavior, conflict, disruption of social interaction, categorical statements.

Affect of inadequacy

The described phenomenon is a stable negative emotional state that arises as a result of failure, failure and is characterized by ignoring the fact of the fiasco or unwillingness to accept responsibility for failure. It arises as a result of conditions that give rise to the subject’s need to preserve his incorrectly formed high self-esteem and an inflated degree of aspirations.

For an individual to admit his own insolvency means to go against the existing need to preserve his own self-esteem. However, he does not want to allow this. This gives rise to an inadequate response to one’s failure, which manifests itself in the form of affective behavioral reactions.

The affect of inadequacy is a kind of defensive reaction that allows one to get out of confrontation at the cost of rejecting an adequate perception of reality: the individual maintains a high degree of aspirations and inflated self-esteem, while avoiding understanding of his own inadequacy, which became the cause of failure, avoiding incipient hesitations regarding his own skills.

The affect of inadequacy may be limited to one area of ​​an individual’s aspirations, but it can be of a generalized nature, taking over the subject’s entire personality. Children in the described state are characterized by distrust, aggressiveness, resentment, suspicion and negativism. A child's prolonged stay in such a state leads to the development of appropriate character traits.

Affective children are often in persistent confrontation with teaching staff and peers

Therefore, in various ways they try to compensate for their own bad positions, try to attract sympathy for their individuality and attention, thereby striving to satisfy their own claims to good positions and justify personal self-esteem. Such actions place such children in absolute subordination to the opinions of the environment, dependence on approval and evaluation by the team. Such subjugation can be expressed in two boundary manifestations: extreme compliance with group influence and negativistic resistance to group influence.

In an adult, the presence of a persistent affect of inadequacy is often due to personality characteristics

Such subjugation can be expressed in two boundary manifestations: extreme compliance with group influence and negativistic resistance to group influence. In an adult, the presence of a persistent affect of inadequacy is often due to personality characteristics.

Who is adequate?

Adequate is a concept that emphasizes the compliance of an object with the surrounding reality, situation, expectations, standards of relationships and views, norms and rules. The word “adequacy” comes from the Latin “Adaequatus” - “equal”. In the theory of knowledge, this is complete or supposedly complete correspondence with something. Absolute adequacy is, to a certain extent, a hypothetical value the same as absolute truth and the criterion of truth.

Adequacy in a clinical setting is diagnosed by a psychiatrist, and in everyday life by anyone. The subjectivity of the concept is emphasized by the fact that the meaning embedded in it changes along with the development of society and the person himself. For example, people who are uneducated, in a fit of passion or religious goodness, have very different concepts of adequacy and inadequacy. Perhaps this is why inadequacy is often used as a label that can be applied to almost anyone if their words or actions do not fit into someone else’s picture of the world.

It is impossible to be “adequate at all.” You can be “adequate to something.” Therefore, adequacy is an additional characteristic of a living or inanimate object, an abstract concept:

• An adequate person is one who understands where he is, looks, expresses himself and behaves in accordance with written and unwritten moral norms, models or stereotypes of behavior. Someone who knows how to express himself the way he likes, but at the same time does not cause inconvenience to others.
• Adequacy as a personality quality is a measure of psychological state that allows a person to be a normal member of society.
• An adequate point of view is a manifestation of common sense, concentrated in personal opinion, assessment of what is happening and statements.
• Appropriate behavior is behavior that does not contradict common sense, which is thoughtful and acceptable in a particular society. This is the ability to manage one’s actions, to choose means of achieving a goal that fit into social and legal norms.

The concept of adequacy/inadequacy is used in mathematics, probability theory, philosophy, and psychiatry.

Causes

Factors that provoke inappropriate behavior in adolescents include:

• Hereditary predisposition - characteristics of the parents, as well as the impact of unfavorable environmental factors on the fetus (bad habits of the mother, working conditions, etc.).
• Social and economic – family instability, family conflicts, low social level of parents and low income.
• Unbearable loads - physical and psycho-emotional fatigue associated with large volumes of tasks at school or additional classes.
• Physiological characteristics - physical defects, flaws in appearance, defects in mental development, which lead to difficulties in adapting to a team, rejection among others, especially peers.
• Mental abnormalities - diseases, nervous and mental disorders, low threshold of excitability.
• Psychological impact - pressure and reproaches from parents, excessive severity or permissiveness, personal character traits (perfectionism or selfishness, indifference).

Criteria by which one can determine the sanity and adequacy of a person

Adequate behavior is conscious.

Psychologists refer to this as:

• ability to restrain emotions;
• ability to control actions;
• communication skills;
• energy;
• determination;
• social activity;
• comfortable feeling;
• the ability to experience a wide range of emotions and feelings.

At the same time, isolated emotional breakdowns do not relate to abnormal behavior. Or, for example, the rowdy behavior of a person who has abused alcohol is a “situational inadequacy.”

However, their regularity should make you think about the possibility of choosing such a person as a business or family life partner.

An adequate person will not allow himself:

• Make fun of others.
• To vehemently adhere to any views or dogmas.
• To impose your opinion or preferences on someone.
• Constantly depressed.
• Deliberately arouse in others a negative attitude towards oneself.
• Thoughtlessly guided by other people's views, beliefs, recommendations. For example, taking new recipes for the treatment of cancer or other diseases as an axiom, blindly following only them, completely rejecting proven medicinal methods.

An adequate individual is capable of:

• see your shortcomings;
• analyze errors;
• endure problems and failures;
• sympathize with others;
• give an unbiased assessment of what is happening;
• don't go ahead;
• accurately assess the current situation and one’s own capabilities; respond flexibly, act accordingly: timely and proportionate;
• track moments that lead to selfish qualities and actions;
• prioritize;
• do not shoulder all the responsibility and all the affairs;
• not be subject to stereotypes;
• maintain harmony, follow ethics.

While an inadequate person is unable to evaluate his behavior, he is selfish and inclined to blame others for his own failures.

By secret:

As a rule, an adequate person has a sense of humor, which helps him treat himself, the actions of others, and overcome difficult life circumstances with dignity.

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Adequate

(lat. adaequatus - equal, equalized; from lat ad: to, for, completely, sufficiently, relatively, comparatively, about, almost + aequatus: equal, equation, comparison) - completely, exactly corresponding, proportionate, consistent, true, identical . Corresponding to something, to someone, with something (i.e., the use of the words “adequacy”, “adequate” do not make sense without indicating what they are adequate to).

Example:

1) «An adequate person

“is a widespread speech error in the Russian-speaking environment, a phrase that does not carry meaning without indicating what exactly ( the situation, the rule of law, someone’s personal ideas

) the behavior (
of the object in question
) is adequate (
corresponds exactly
).

2) In the theory of knowledge, the term adequate

serves to designate the correct reproduction in ideas, concepts and judgments of objective connections and relationships. In this sense, truth is defined as the adequacy of thinking to being (i.e. thinking cannot be adequate in itself, it can be adequate to something ( an object of comparison, a standard, etc.

), which must certainly be indicated.

When writing this article, material from the publication “Kazakhstan. National Encyclopedia" (1998-2007), provided by the editors of "Kazak Encyclopedias" under a Creative Commons BY-SA 3.0 Unported license.

Adequacy

Adequate behavior is behavior that is understandable to others and does not go against generally accepted norms, corresponds to the situation and the expectations of others. Every society has generally accepted moral standards. So, an adequate person will behave in accordance with these norms and perform actions expected by others. For example, if he entered a trolleybus and sat down on the seat, this is adequate behavior, but if he lies down on the floor in the trolleybus, this is inadequacy

Please note that all these norms are external, created by public opinion. That is, a person lives adequately according to external guidelines and is not always guided by his feelings and desires

Simply put, he knows how to control himself. For example, you liked your neighbor’s handbag, you’ve wanted one for a long time, but you’re not going to take it away. In fact, adequacy is a rather relative concept, because moral standards may differ in different religions or countries, for example, if in the East it is customary to drink tea while sitting on the floor, then somewhere in Europe, say, in London, this will be less at least strange. And if a person behaves correctly, in your opinion, this does not mean at all that other people will also consider it normal. In general, all people are inadequate to one degree or another, and they certainly commit such actions from time to time.

How to identify an inadequate person?

It must be said that depending on the psychotype, adequacy can manifest itself in different ways. Someone shows their weaknesses by showing off a new model of an expensive smartphone or car, another behaves aggressively, a third talks to himself while walking down the street.

In favorable conditions, inadequacy may not manifest itself in any way, but as soon as you find yourself in an extreme environment, all the oddities come out.

Of course, first we pay attention to a person’s appearance. If he is sloppy, not fashionably dressed and not combed, then one immediately gets the impression that he is strange

However, it is worth noting that many great people who made breakthroughs in science and who we call geniuses looked something like this.

On the other hand, genius cannot be called adequacy, since it does not correspond to generally accepted norms, but rises above them. And without inadequacy with a plus sign, humanity would not have been able to achieve such a level of development.

People, at the level of intuition, can distinguish a mentally healthy person from an unhealthy one. This will be indicated by his gait, gestures, verbal communication, and reaction to what is happening.

Visible conduct disorder

Mental patients, being in a state of acute psychosis, may incorrectly perceive the environment, or not perceive it at all. They can act solely under the influence of the “voices” or delusional ideas that sound inside them, simply sweeping away from their path everything that interferes with the implementation of their plans. Getting in the way of such a patient can be deadly.

A person’s behavior may not correspond to accepted standards for a number of other reasons, from alcohol, medication or drug intoxication to an acute affective reaction.

People who behave aggressively, strangely, or outlandishly for many years typically have either severe personality pathology or a severe mental disorder that alters their perception of the world, thinking, and/or behavior. And this is the case when the presence of mental problems is obvious. However, this is not always the case.

Twisted Worldview

I would like to talk in more detail about those individuals whose worldview is distorted. This can happen as a result of improper upbringing, mental illness or trauma.

What is the main problem of such individuals? They do not understand the basic rules of morality and do not know what is good and what is bad. They create their own carefully written “constitution”, which they are guided by. They also have a personal “Criminal Code”. They have created their own framework and think within it. Their beliefs are so rock-solid and unshakable that it is impossible to budge them.

They have problems with self-awareness and worldview. Psychological or spiritual literature cannot help such people, since they only accept information that does not contradict their canons. They ignore all unpleasant moments or adjust them to suit their constitution. But those quotes from the smart book that coincide with their postulates will be cited as indisputable proof of their rightness.

For other groups of people behaving inappropriately

there is the following rule. If a person behaves in such a way that one may suspect that he has a mental disorder, he can be provided with psychiatric help without his consent only when his actions pose an immediate danger to himself or others. This is written in “On psychiatric care and guarantees for citizens in its provision.” In other cases, assistance is provided only by court decision. An application to the court is submitted by a psychiatrist (local psychiatrist), who is conducting an appointment at a dispensary, or by a hospital emergency room doctor, if the patient was brought there.

Thus, the correct course of action in relation to a person suspected of suffering from a mental disorder is:

1. Ensure your own safety
2. Call the police if a person violates public order or someone else's rights
3. Submit a written application to the psychiatric clinic at the patient’s place of residence

In conclusion, I would like to note that someone’s strange behavior never means a mandatory call to a psychiatrist or hospitalization in a psychiatric hospital. Perhaps the person has suffered mental trauma, serious stress or emotional shock; maybe he has lost his nerve, he is offended, angry, annoyed or humiliated. This condition is called an “acute affective reaction.” Over time, this condition can go away on its own: the person himself will find a way out of the situation. Inappropriate behavior may be due to the fact that he is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, and his inappropriate behavior is associated with this. And this will also pass without outside help, without examination or hospitalization.

And there is another very important thought that I would like to express. Please remember that in any case, you alone are responsible for your own safety. Try to ensure this safety for yourself first. Do not attempt to assist persons who are not helpless. Especially if you are not asked to do so. If you really want to help a mental patient, call a specialist. And then everything will be okay.

All materials on the site are presented for informational purposes only, approved by certified physician Mikhail Vasiliev, diploma series 064834, in accordance with license No. LO-77-005297 dated September 17, 2012, by a certified specialist in the field of psychiatry, certificate number 0177241425770.

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Synonyms for "accordingly"

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• expedient
• properly
• appropriate
• must
• accordingly
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"Something wrong with my head"

When someone's behavior is alarming, frightening, or confusing, people say, "There's something wrong with his head." Meaning mental disorder. Let's figure out why people behave strangely. And does every case of strange behavior necessarily need treatment from a doctor?

We, as a rule, evaluate the behavior of others on the basis of our own experience, ideas about the norms of public morality, as well as the rules that we are accustomed to follow. For example, “I would be ashamed to behave the way that girl behaves”; “I will be ready to fall into the ground (I will fight, get angry, get scared, feel guilty - underline as necessary) if they treat me like this”; “You can’t swear, undress, or shout in public places”; “Children must obey their parents in everything”; “It’s not nice to gesticulate violently in the company of unfamiliar people”; and so on.

If someone’s behavior, from our point of view, goes beyond the bounds of what is acceptable, we unconsciously feel anxiety, since we cannot predict this behavior. After all, if we are in the same room with such a subject, we can easily find ourselves in an awkward or dangerous situation, since he is not able to regulate his own impulses. In addition, our own personal boundaries are under threat: if a person does not feel the distance that must be maintained, he can easily invade our personal space and cause pain. In the situation of the presence of such a person nearby, we feel discomfort and, if we cannot get out of the situation, we are always in noticeable tension, being forced to control the environment.

The meaning of the word ADEQUATE. What is ADEQUATE?

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Dangers of inadequate condition

Is an inadequate person dangerous in society? It depends on how much it goes beyond moral standards and what actions express his condition. In any case, communicating with such an individual is a rather unpleasant experience. But if this is expressed by aggression, or the person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, then this can be very dangerous. It is better to avoid such a person. If this is not possible, try to act as calmly as possible and try not to enter into conflict. Remember, an inadequate person is not aware of his actions! And, as in a state of passion, he can do anything.

What does inadequate mean? Who is this inadequate?

Inadequate means not corresponding to something. In colloquial speech, inadequate is this abnormal, incorrect, unpredictable.

An inadequate person (in slang - inadequate) is a person who behaves strangely, unpredictably, and dangerously.

Inadequate information is information that does not correspond to reality, is incomplete, erroneous or false.

Inappropriate behavior is behavior that is inappropriate to the situation. For example, if a student sings songs in class and does not listen to the teacher, the teacher can write a report about the child’s inappropriate behavior.

To behave inappropriately (behaved inappropriately) means to act differently from what the situation requires. For example, provoking conflict for no reason.

Adequacy

Adequate behavior is behavior that is understandable to others and does not go against generally accepted norms, corresponds to the situation and the expectations of others. Every society has generally accepted moral standards. So, an adequate person will behave in accordance with these norms and perform actions expected by others. For example, if he entered a trolleybus and sat down on the seat, this is adequate behavior, but if he lies down on the floor in the trolleybus, this is inadequacy

Please note that all these norms are external, created by public opinion. That is, a person lives adequately according to external guidelines and is not always guided by his feelings and desires

Simply put, he knows how to control himself. For example, you liked your neighbor’s handbag, you’ve wanted one for a long time, but you’re not going to take it away. In fact, adequacy is a rather relative concept, because moral standards may differ in different religions or countries, for example, if in the East it is customary to drink tea while sitting on the floor, then somewhere in Europe, say, in London, this will be less at least strange. And if a person behaves correctly, in your opinion, this does not mean at all that other people will also consider it normal. In general, all people are inadequate to one degree or another, and they certainly commit such actions from time to time.

Toxic people: adequate or not so?

Toxicity is a failure, but not in genetics, but in attitude and attitude towards others. Toxic people view everything through a filter of skepticism and displeasure. They live in negativity and spread negative energy around them. They never say what they feel, but accuse and demand that others conform to their ideas of adequacy. They live in their reality and generously share their toxicity with others.

How to recognize a toxic person?

At first glance - no way. But there are several signs that can help identify a toxic personality.

Toxic person:

• He never hesitates to harshly criticize his interlocutor.
• I am sure that everything that other people say and do is just to spite him.
• Actively takes part in finding and punishing those responsible.
• Denies his negative sides, covering himself with devaluation and accusation.
• Infects with negativity even after five minutes of communication.
• It instills horror even from a distance, as it can ruin the mood in a telephone conversation.
• Always finds an excuse for his behavior.
• Does not doubt that he is right even without a single argument.
• He does not appreciate, but devalues ​​everything he touches.
• He weaves intrigues and loves to pit others against each other.
• Collects and concentrates grievances and unpleasant memories.
• Openly humiliates the interlocutor in the eyes of others.

And most importantly, toxic people know how to demand and get their way, because they are confident that they are right. Communicating with them takes so much energy that sometimes it’s easier to obey. But this is not a solution. How can you tell them “no” to protect your interests?

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Error state

Directed away from the desired target. For example, when a person in childhood found a way to solve some life problem that was successful for a child, and it turned out to be effective, was repeated many times, was consolidated through repetition, and is now repeated by an adult, although it has long been a reaction. An inadequate reaction is when a child was constantly scolded as a child, and he got used to constantly making excuses, grew up and realized that he no longer needed to make excuses, but he still continues to do it. Behind such maneuverability of a psychologically healthy person there are often the following reasons: physical problems, accident, bad manners, incompetence, psychological problems and provocations of the environment.