Hello everyone, dear friends! Writes Lyudmila Redkina. They say happy hours don't watch. Have you ever had such a feeling in reality? I remember when I went to the park with my loved one, time flew by very quickly and unnoticed... It was truly a state of happiness, but it quickly ended and everyday life began. But why does this happen: all their lives people strive to achieve this very state, but it still doesn’t come? In this article we will try to determine what happiness is for a person - a process, a goal or moments - and how it is expressed.
Definitions of happiness from great people
Great people became great because they achieved success in their lives and became famous for something. I don’t know what about their own happiness, but they definitely know a lot about feelings and achievements. Being a great, famous person is a great test, and not everyone passes it with dignity. Therefore, from their own experience, from their observations, they defined this complex concept of “happiness”.
Let's see what it is in their understanding:
- “Many seek happiness in areas above their level, others below. But happiness is of the same height as a person” - Confucius.
- “The great science of living happily is to live only in the present” - Pythagoras.
- “You must believe in the possibility of happiness in order to be happy” - Leo Tolstoy.
- “Everyone chases happiness, not noticing that happiness follows on his heels” - Bertolt Brecht.
- “Time, money... Happy is the one who does not count either one or the other” - Alexey Ivanov.
- “In the building of human happiness, friendship builds walls, and love forms a dome” - Kozma Prutkov.
- “The greatest happiness in life is the confidence that we are loved, loved for being who we are, or despite the fact that we are who we are” - Victor Hugo.
- “Happiness does not come down to having money, it lies in the joy of work and accomplishments” - Franklin Roosevelt.
- “A man’s happiness or misery is chiefly the work of his own hands” - John Locke.
- “A person who is not busy with work can never enjoy complete happiness; on the face of an idle person you will always find the imprint of discontent and apathy” - Heinrich Goethe.
- There is no complete happiness without an admixture of suffering” - W. Shakespeare.
- “Nine-tenths of our happiness depends on health” - Arthur Schopenhauer.
- “If happiness consisted only in bodily pleasures, we would call happy the bulls who found peas to eat” - Heraclitus of Ephesus.
- Happiness is like fairy-tale palaces, the doors of which are guarded by dragons, and you must fight to master them” - Alexandre Dumas.
- “Unhappy is he who cannot forgive himself” - Publius Sirus.
- “People can only be happy if they do not consider happiness to be the goal of life” - George Orwell.
- “To enjoy happiness is the greatest good; to be able to give it to others is an even greater one.” - Francis Bacon.
- “One of the main signs of happiness and harmony is the complete absence of the need to prove anything to anyone” - Nelson Mandela.
- “Happiness is like health: when you don’t notice it, it means it’s there” - I. Turgenev.
- “Happiness lies not so much in possession as in the process of mastering the object of our desires. In order for us to be happy, our happiness must always lack something” - C. Helvetius.
This is the understanding of great minds. You may not agree with something. But there is truth in every statement. I think that each of these quotes is written with life experience and stuffed cones.
Philosophical roots of the concept
From a philosophical point of view, happiness is complete and undivided satisfaction with the way life is going. Every person, regardless of status, position in society, religious views or hobbies, does not have the opportunity to be fully satisfied with their needs.
90% of people are in a continuous search for happiness. To do this, certain goals and objectives are set and achieved, a circle of interests and acquaintances is outlined, a comfortable environment and interesting work are selected. A feeling of satisfaction - happiness can be bright, instant, long-lasting, sustainable. Often a person ceases to be happy, but outwardly nothing changes around him. One becomes accustomed to what has been achieved. At this moment, new goals and objectives are set, having achieved which you can again experience a pleasant feeling of satisfaction with life.
A person becomes happy having achieved something, but after a while he again plunges into thoughts, loses his spark, returning to his usual but ordinary life. Philosophers claim that happiness directly depends on a person’s internal state. Despite the beliefs of society, a harmonious state is not always achieved by external factors. Example: a successful and profitable business interferes with building a loving family, or a close-knit family does not have enough finances to realize all the ideas and dreams. Other people feel complete satisfaction only by knowing that they are loved and important to their own family. It makes no difference to them whether they receive a large or small salary. The goals that a person sets for himself may differ. For one of the categories, it is necessary to achieve a solution to a global task - to build an empire of successful enterprises or become famous, while for others it is enough to build a strong family.
What does happiness mean to me
The feeling of happiness is worth a lot. It is with the desire to be happy that people chase money, remove “extra” people from their path, and strive to “grab” more of everything. But does it bring the desired feeling? NO!
The pursuit of money, the pursuit of fame, the pursuit of happiness is just an unconscious desire to fill the screaming needs in your psyche for security, respect and acceptance of others, and freedom.
So in this pursuit there are those who consider happiness as the goal. They reason like this: “When I earn my first million, I’ll be happy,” “When I become famous in this industry, I’ll live happily,” “When I finish graduate school, go to work at a leading IT company, I’ll be a happy person.” But the years go by, but there is no satisfaction with life, life flies by in a 4x4 m office and where is happiness?
For me, happiness is balance and harmony in all areas of my life. Therefore, sometimes this word is considered difficult, because it is very difficult to maintain this balance. My happiness is in simple things and moments; in my own words it can be described as follows:
- a loved one is nearby;
- my health and that of my family;
- the ability to travel;
- freedom from opinions and judgment of people;
- faith in God, in the best, in yourself and the people around you - faith in something gives strength and motivation to live;
- good living conditions (more or less repairs and a neat house);
- when I have free time and I can spend it as I see fit;
- I have money for everything I need and a little more (well, “a little” is different for everyone)));
- activity and desire to act and change.
By the way, one day I seriously thought about this question, because many things in life did not suit me. Then I perceived happiness as a goal. And, naturally, she was very upset that achieving it can be very difficult, considered herself an unhappy person and, of course, blamed her loved ones for this!
But then I realized that I myself am “the architect of my own happiness,” and that after all, this desired feeling is in the little things, and not at the end of life. Therefore, I stopped living in dreams and consciously began to look for positive moments in life. And it worked!
What factors determine
The definition has been given, cut with a knife, but what is it? And here psychologists gave us the answer! Read the contents of our pie called “happiness”.
External environment
Let's start with the smallest ingredient. Only 10% of our well-being depends on the external environment. It's where we were born, what family we were born into. In short, everything that we initially have no control over and cannot change. But in adulthood, these factors are the easiest to change.
Personality
Here it will be upbringing, character, genes. Do you have friends who are always happy or always unhappy? It's all about character traits.
These factors are established at birth and are influenced by parents and the environment. You can change them by changing your environment, working with a psychologist, or working through them on your own. All in your hands.
Remember that 45% of your happiness depends on your thoughts and emotions. For some people this rate is even higher, so never ignore your individuality if you feel unhappy.
The concept of happiness is individual for each person
Self-realization
And the last point is approximately the same percentage as for personal qualities. Your satisfaction with your work, the results and the overall process is the key to your happiness. How can you be happy if you spend 5 days at a job that you don’t like, and on the weekends you watch TV and have no entertainment?
It doesn't work that way, think back to when you were young and dreamed of skydiving and book your spot for next weekend! Your accomplishments, your enjoyment of them, and the entire process are extremely important.
What about money?
You've probably already heard that the most frequent clients of a psychologist are rich people? There could be many reasons for this. For example, through hard work a person has isolated himself from others. Or, for example, he does not know how to hear what he wants, and simply does what his parents told him. Money is just a tool to achieve your goals.
Money alone will not make you happy. But, as the joke goes, “crying in a Porsche is much more comfortable than riding a bicycle.” And it’s more convenient to pay a psychologist without compromising basic needs. Therefore, harmony is important here.
By the way, according to sociological research, there are more happy people among poor people and people living in poor countries. Money gives you a feeling of happiness. But only as long as you strive to ensure that your physical needs are fully met - medicine, housing, education and predictable government action.
When you start earning more than you need to live, money itself doesn't bring you pleasure. It's all about what you spend it on. How many people actually have financial knowledge? To summarize, we can say that big money drowns out our more subtle needs. Or maybe not? Write your opinion!
Examples of happiness from life
I'll start right away with an anti-example.
Everyone remembers the famous Russian fairy tale about the fisherman and the fish. What ultimately killed the old woman? Her dissatisfaction, inability to rejoice and be satisfied with what she has. Having received youth, a palace and wealth, she remained a curmudgeon and a muttering bitch in her soul. Therefore, she returned to her broken trough.
HAPPINESS IS IN CONTENT
An argument from literature will also be Pushkin’s poem “Ruslan and Lyudmila” - here the heroes overcome obstacles and achieve the only goal - to unite with loving hearts. It is after its achievement that this peace, joy and complete satisfaction with the present moment comes.
In various shows we can see examples of real bliss when “amateurs” perform complex dance tricks, vocal sequences or musical passages.
About six months ago I talked to a girl who went to Uganda as a volunteer. So she told me that in this nationality there are only 4 dishes that they prepare every day, and they have never eaten anything else. How happy they were when these people tried mashed potatoes, stew, and pizza. For them it was real happiness...
For my children, complete satisfaction with life comes at sea, or when they are fooling around with dad, or when their favorite crab stick salad is on the table! In general, I noticed that it is much easier for children than adults to feel happy.
And finally, 2 examples from famous people:
- Andrey Grigoriev-Appolonov, 44 years old, lead singer of the music group “Ivanushki International”: “It’s simple. For me, happiness is loving and being loved.”
- And for Ben Carson, happiness was to perform the world's first operation to separate conjoined twins.
And there are many such examples when people strive to achieve something important and achieve it when they love, feel love and are healthy.
How to become happy and successful
To improve your life, become happy, successful and rich, you can take an online course or training. Learning from a person who has walked this path will help you believe in yourself and achieve what exactly you want in this life.
For me, such a person is Pavel Volya.
His online course “Improver Express” will teach 3 main things:
- Initiative.
- Action.
- Efficiency.
The training consists of 23 chips. It was they who helped Volya turn from a simple beggar Penza guy into the highest paid presenter of the TNT channel and my favorite stand-up comedian. According to Forbes magazine, Pavel earns $2.5 million annually.
He has a happy family. Pasha is married to Laysan Utyasheva, and they have two beautiful children: Robert and Sofia.
The course is suitable for both men and women from 16 years of age.
How the training will take place:
- You receive theory and practical assignment.
- Do it.
- If you did it right, move on to the next one.
If you don’t mess around and do all your homework responsibly, then pleasant changes await you: at work, in your personal life, with relatives and friends. This will lead to more money, connections and success.
Cost – 15,000 rubles. with access forever, but there is also the opportunity to take the course for 3,000 rubles.
If within 2 weeks you decide that the course is not suitable for you, your money will be returned.
After registering for training, a girl from Pavel’s team will contact you and answer all your questions regarding the training. You will discuss payment terms with her.
Also in this article you will find reviews of all courses of the “Willpower” project from Pavel and Laysan Utyasheva.
