Negative attitudes: how to identify everything at once and remove it forever?

Many people know that the reality around is created by the thoughts that are in the head. And what your reality will be depends on whether these thoughts are positive or negative.

Limiting beliefs are neither good nor evil. They can both stop us and help us develop. It's great when we know our weaknesses. If they exist, then you can work on them and grow.

How should you work with limiting beliefs? In this article I will talk about what settings are and share the technique for developing them.

What are installations

Attitudes are what we believe in. These are our thoughts, opinions that form a belief system.

Let's take two girls as an example.

One believes: to be a good wife, you need to cook, wash, clean and forget about your fulfillment. The floor should always be washed until it shines, the dishes should be washed, things should be perfectly ironed, dinner should be ready when your loved one arrives. She lives only for her husband, forgets about herself, considers this right.

The second is sure that in marriage you don’t have to be Cinderella to be loved. Household chores can be delegated, lunch can be ordered at home, and you can go to your favorite job, chat with friends or take a walk with your husband.

Which of these girls is right? Both. They just have different belief systems.

Or let's take two guys.

One believes that you can only earn money in the office. There is a stable salary, good company, bonuses and the opportunity to climb the career ladder. This arrangement is the height of his dreams.

Another thinks he can make more money online. For him, the office is a cage. You have to go to work every day, sit there from 9.00 to 18.00. Vacation once a year, if given. And the salary cannot be higher than a certain ceiling. As a freelancer, he can work as much as he wants. Will be able to travel at least 20 times a year and still work. If he wants, he can easily change his place of residence. Will be able to increase earnings when he creates his own team.

Who's right here? Both again. The first has one belief system, the second has another.

This system completely affects life. After all, as they say, thought is primary. That is, the belief system creates our reality. And if you think that you can’t make money doing what you love, then you will find confirmation of this particular attitude. If you believe that all men are assholes, only such men will come across in your reality. If you think that vacation is only for the rich, then you will not have a good vacation.

Attitudes prevent you from taking everything from life. They make it difficult to believe that reality could turn out differently. But there is always a way out: change your limiting beliefs.

Instructions

1st step

It consists of defining the goal, that is, the problem that prompted the implementation of this technique. To do this, you should think about the difficulties that plague you in your work or personal life. Analyze what they have in common? What causes negative reactions the most? Choose one that will be your goal.

2nd step

It is more difficult, because you will have to face your experiences, to raise the entire layer of feelings that you have pushed deep into yourself. Next to the goal, write down a number of your thoughts and prejudices regarding it. That is, what scares you, angers you in this situation, what feelings generally arise. Is there any doubt regarding the solution to this complexity. Imagine what could happen and end if you don’t take any action. What risks will arise, what new tasks will need to be performed. For example, “I am afraid of what my colleagues will think of me if I take the initiative in a new project.”

3rd step

At this stage, you should give a new command to the subconscious, that is, change its attitude and remove negative consequences. To do this, come up with any word that does not evoke strong emotions, that is, neutral, but at the same time simple and memorable. For example, the word “love” is not suitable, but “hand”, if not associated with any experiences, will do. After that, give the following command, inserting your code word:

“This instruction is for you, my subconscious. Every time I realize or notice a problem, I will say the code word “pen” for you and you will completely eliminate the problem. I thank you for always fulfilling my tasks and remaining faithful to me.”

4th step

Take the sheet on which you wrote down all the prejudices and start reading one sentence at a time, inserting a code word at the end. Read the same sentence so many times until a yawn occurs. Only then can you move on to the next one.

5th step

And to complete the exercise itself, for this we will need to remember positive affirmations, that is, reformulate every negative belief into a positive one, so that false and destructive attitudes no longer arise in your thoughts. You can read my article in which I described how to make affirmations. Once you have them, repeat the following phrases, again until you start yawning:

“Now I forever remove all problems that are associated with my goal (specify goal), pen.”

“Now I forgive myself, and all the people who are associated with my goal, pen.”

This is the best technique that will allow you to work together between your consciousness and your inner storehouse of information to improve the quality of your life. Such elaboration is very effective because it brings with it profound changes.

How to Identify Limiting Beliefs

To change the limiters, you must first find them. How to identify your limiting beliefs? There are several ways to do this:

Observe your emotions

To independently identify negative attitudes and find them in the subconscious, you need to observe your emotions. When we think or talk about limiting beliefs, a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness arises. They take away all the joy and energy from a person.

For example, you dream of standing on a big stage, filling stadiums and singing for people who love your work. When you imagine this, it’s as if warm lead is pouring inside, and those same fluttering butterflies fill your body. And then the phrases ring in my head: “This is impossible. I don't have that talent. To become a famous singer, you need a lot of money." At this moment everything inside collapses. These are the limiters.

Pay attention to the phrase

Negative attitudes and blocks often contain words: never, everything, everyone, always, must, impossible, wrong.

If you say or think about a phrase with these markers, then most likely it is that same negative belief.

How the subconscious is formed

To work with the subconscious, you need to know where to start. Throughout our lives, our brain forms a large number of programs that determine the order of our actions in each specific situation.

They are laid in several ways:

• In childhood and adolescence - by parents, teachers, educators. These behavior algorithms are literally cemented in the subconscious, and it is extremely difficult to change them. Complexes, clamps and attitudes acquired in childhood are that part of the unconscious that only a competent specialist can influence.
• Mass media. Every day, through television, radio, the Internet and printed magazines and newspapers, we receive a large flow of information in the form of visual images, texts, music. Modern media channels are a powerful tool for influencing the subconscious, forming the necessary attitudes and reactions unnoticed by the consumer. The ability to filter information coming from the media will allow you to avoid such manipulations.
• A close circle of friends, relatives, and colleagues also has a great influence on a person’s subconscious. For example, many people acquire bad habits during adolescence, when such behavior is considered normal in their social circle. Having matured, these people continue to smoke, drink alcohol, and break the law subconsciously, thinking that this is what they really want.
• Reinforced skills and habits. If you repeat an action many times, a program is formed in the subconscious and becomes a skill brought to the point of automatism. For example, when you learn to skate, in the first stages of training falls and hitches are inevitable; you have to think through every movement in order to place your foot correctly, gain speed, and brake. With the passage of time and regular practice, automaticity comes: the process of skating occurs by itself, without conscious effort on your part. The unconscious turns on.
• External influences. There are many professional techniques that influence the unconscious of another person and force him to act in the interests of the manipulator. These include “breaking the pattern”, “mirroring”, provoking emotions - playing on fears and complexes.

How to work through negative attitudes

What to do with negative attitudes that prevent you from earning more, building relationships, and being fulfilled? How to work with them? I will share with you a technique for transforming limiting beliefs that will help with this.

Take a blank notebook and divide it into spheres:

• health
• money, work, business
• relationship
• rest
• friendship

Write down all the beliefs that you say most often. Or, which you often think about in these directions. Be sure to write by hand. When we write words and write letters, more neural connections in the brain are activated than when we type on a computer or phone.

In the area of ​​money and business, you can find the following attitudes:

• no money left;
• opening your own business is risky;
• in order to earn good money, you need to work for days;
• To get a good position, you need money or connections.

If we are talking about health:

• I am constantly sick;
• doctors only need money;
• I have a weak immune system;
• There are no normal doctors.

In the sphere of relations there may be the following restrictions:

• all men are goats;
• Nobody needs a divorced woman with a child;
• all men cheat;
• Nobody needs a strong and independent woman.

Friendship is like this:

• true friendship can only be in childhood;
• friendship between a man and a woman does not exist;
• nowadays it’s every man for himself, no one will help you;
• A true friend is known in trouble.

Some people even have attitudes about relaxation:

• if I rest, I am wasting my time;
• rest for the lazy;
• if you relax, then only in style;
• holidays are not for everyone.

You can read more about what beliefs exist in different areas in the previous article. Perhaps among them you will find your settings that you forgot or didn’t think about.

After you write down all the beliefs, opposite each negative one, write 3 promoting ones. That is, you need to transform limiting beliefs into positive ones.

Transforming beliefs creates new neural connections in the brain that are responsible for skills and ways of thinking. If an action or belief is not repeated, the neural connections weaken. Therefore, it will be good if you constantly say positive statements, like affirmations.

Affirmation is a positive statement that can replace a negative one when repeated many times.

The best technique for working through negative beliefs

Oksana Kamenetskaya shared this practice with me, here is what she says about the history of the creation of this technique:

One day in 2012, I heard this exercise from Lisa Nichols. She told it very quickly with a beaming smile and it seemed to me that it was all so easy, somehow funny, and I decided to just take it all and repeat it. I had no mentor, no coach, no one to give me advice. Accordingly, I just took it and did what she said.

We will need simple tools. We take a notebook, an ordinary one from a stationery store. 18 sheets, no less. You will also need a simple pencil (it is very important to have a regular pencil, not a pen), a pen with red paste and an eraser.

The fundamental point is that the notebook must have at least 16 sheets, not 16 pages, but sheets. You will need this notebook for the next six months. It will become your dear, amazing dream that will lead you into a new life.

The exercise must be done strictly following the step-by-step instructions.

Imagine that I gave you the recipe for your new life. If you decide to do something in your sequence, you will get a different result, but it will not be as fantastic.

How to identify limiting beliefs?

We need to take and write out everything, absolutely all of our limitations in life that we have. But the thing is, it’s easy to say: “you’re writing your negative beliefs.”

How to write them out, where to find them, where to get them from?

Let's agree on terms. We will talk about how our limiting beliefs are simply our persistent thoughts.

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This is that internal conversation, the internal dialogue with ourselves that we conduct. Very often we don’t even notice these thoughts at all, we just live like that. But it is these thoughts, formed over very long years, through long repetitions of the same thing to ourselves, that shape our today's life and today's reality.

And the exercise is that this is a game, a race, a hunt. Your task is to find, catch and write down these beliefs with a pencil. And the task of these beliefs is to hide from you.

Whichever of you wins, you will live such a life.

We start with the part of the exercise that is not the most positive, but it is the most important.

If you now have an internal state that it is impossible to continue living like this, if you tell yourself:

Since I live, I can’t live like this anymore and I don’t want to. I can no longer live in such a relationship or without a relationship, I can no longer live without money, I can’t do anything, everything I undertake doesn’t work out, I’m unlucky in everything, and so on.

If you are ready to change something, remember, today is your day.

How to get rid of negative thoughts?

It is very good and important if you are already prepared for this exercise. It’s good if you’ve been reading my blog for a long time, trying to set goals, trying affirmations.

But the point of this exercise is that if you just read the affirmations:

• I live in a beautiful house
• I have a good and harmonious relationship
• I have a good team
• I travel the world

But internally you think completely differently; your internal beliefs will win.

Let's take our notebook and a simple pencil or red pen.

On the notebook itself, write today’s date and the phrase: Today I start my new life.

Over time, everything is forgotten, and in a year you will look at this notebook and remember where it all began.

We open the notebook. On the first sheet of paper we write the area of ​​life we ​​will work on. And after that we leave four more sheets.

Then again on top we write the name of another area of ​​\u200b\u200blife and leave four more sheets. And we do the same with the third sphere and the fourth sphere.

If you listened to me and took a notebook with 18 sheets, you will have more sheets left for the fourth sphere.

1. We take the first area and write: Money, work and business.
2. Second area: Relationships.
3. Third area: Health.
4. Fourth area: Personal growth.

This exercise cannot be done on a computer; it will mean nothing. We work only in notebooks. It is fundamentally. This is where your hand, notebook and subconscious work. It is this combination that produces the result.

Regarding the fourth sphere, Personal growth, many people say: “I can’t even write two lines.” But still, trust me, leave 6 sheets for this area. In this area you can write endlessly.

You must fill out the entire notebook; it should not be any other way.

A Step-by-Step Plan for Finding Negative Beliefs

Under the very first heading “Money, work and business” we write only one phrase in pencil that we think about money. And we do the same in other areas. With a pencil.

Attention, we write only one phrase in pencil. And after each written phrase in each area, we leave approximately a paragraph, that is, as much space as the phrase you have already written took up.

Then we write the next phrase that we think about this area, only in pencil. And again we leave space after this phrase.

And we continue to do this in all areas. It is very important at this stage to write everything in pencil 100%.

Thus, you should have your entire notebook covered in pencil. Including the empty spaces you left after your phrases, there should not be a blank page left in your notebook. Write everything down in pencil, leaving blank paragraphs after each phrase.

Only after you have written down all your beliefs in all four areas will you pick up a red pen and do the second part of the exercise.

What are your beliefs now?

Limiting beliefs are something that have been formed in us throughout our lives. Typically, these are thoughts that begin with the following phrases: “I believe/I am sure/iron/guaranteed/no doubt.”

If you can say about something: well, yes, it seems so, I heard - this is not your belief.

The expression: “This is what I won’t undertake in life - I’m guaranteed to fail” is your belief.

“I believe that all the troubles in life come from money” is your belief.

You take this notebook and your first thought is: “so, what can I write here, what limiting beliefs do I have?”

Don't think about it, don't think about subconscious programs. Just ask yourself questions about each area.

Attention! Often limiting beliefs sound in our heads through the voice of our parents, grandmother or strict teacher. If you too often feel unworthy of having something, try this technique >>>>

How to identify negative attitudes about money and work and business?

You have entered the Money area. Work and Business. Ask yourself: What do I think about money and business? What do I think about finances?

You may be thinking:

“Money doesn’t grow on trees, rich people are angry and cynical people, to earn a lot you need to work for days.”

Remember what you were told about money as a child. And write like this:

“My grandmother always said that money doesn’t bring happiness.”

Or do you look at your life and think:

“I don’t have enough money to pay for utilities, I don’t have money for vacations, I always live from paycheck to paycheck.”

You write what you really think. Write short phrases, no need to describe long stories. When you have written all this, move on to the next area.

Look through this article to understand which attitudes are typical for you Test: check if you have negative attitudes about money, wealth and business?

Negative beliefs about love and relationships

Here we are talking not only about love relationships, but also about relationships in the family, with parents and children, with work colleagues, neighbors, and so on.

Watch the video to see how to get rid of negative attitudes

Ask yourself: “What do I think about relationships?”

Frequent beliefs about love relationships that live in people are:

• All men are assholes
• All women only need money
• All my relationships end quickly
• Nobody loves me
• In a couple, someone always loves more (and that, of course, is me)
• If a person sees my love, he immediately leaves

Dig deeper, maybe someone told you something bad about your appearance as a child, and it stuck in your subconscious.

You can enter your thoughts about yourself if you think that you are ugly/ugly, your butt is too big, or your legs are short. Write down all such beliefs in a notebook.

Your task is to find all your thoughts on the topic of any relationship and unload everything onto paper. They wrote a conviction and left a space after it. They wrote something else and left the place.

Negative health beliefs

Let's move on to the health sector. As is correct, no one wants to write anything in this area. This means that there is a lot to work on, but we hide it. Our task is to be honest to the end.

We write: I have crooked teeth, I don’t take care of my health, I don’t play sports, I drink a lot, I smoke, my eyes hurt because I sit at the computer a lot.

Your personal attitude towards medicine, doctors, clinics are also beliefs. If you have a negative attitude towards medical workers all your life, you may have health problems.

And this negativity and fear of not going to the hospital just leads to the fact that you will have to go to hospitals and doctors a lot.

And the last area, the largest and most important.

Negative beliefs about yourself and your abilities

These beliefs might include:

• I watch too much TV.
• I spend a lot of time on social networks.
• I don't read much.
• I'm not developing enough.
• I take a lot of courses, but I don't apply what I learn.
• I don't understand the power of thought.
• I can't sit still.

While you are writing such beliefs, you should not have any internal dialogue (Why am I writing all this? How will this help me fix my life? What does this have to do with my limitations?).

Also, you don't have to wonder whether the thought is good or bad. For example, you think: I don’t earn enough. Is it good or bad? Maybe it's good for you that you don't earn much. It is your right.

We are talking about writing down all our beliefs on paper. And the more beliefs you write down in a notebook in the area of ​​personal growth, the better.

How do you rely on your strength? Do you hope for help from others, but no one helps you? Do you trust your intuition? Can you set goals? Do you know how to manage your time?

All your thoughts about yourself that are not directly related to money, relationships and health - you write all this in the fourth sphere.

If we just took the general picture of life, we would write very little. And if we choose four areas of life for ourselves, then it’s easier for us to think about where any thought in our head can be attributed.

You could see your beliefs in my examples. If not, sit down and think about your limitations, what your parents, teachers, neighbors, colleagues, bosses, etc. have told you. Collect all your beliefs and distribute them in a notebook across all four areas.

Once you have completed all this in pencil, at the very end, you definitely need to do two things. At the end, write in pencil a phrase that you somehow formulate for yourself. Something like this: “If I become a successful, happy and rich person, most likely I will not benefit people.

But only you write with a pencil and in the way you see it yourself.

And one more obligatory phrase that should be at the end across the distance is whether you trust a higher power at all. Do you believe in God, do you trust God. You can say - in life I rely only on my own strengths and so on.

It is important to identify all settings!

Because if they don’t do it now, they will also ruin your life later... I think it’s even better not to do it in one day.

First, take the time to write your beliefs in pencil, rest, and then pick up a pen with red ink the next day.

Important advice. When you write with red ink, you don’t think at all about what’s going on in your life, you forget about what’s in your head and what’s currently surrounding you. What you write in red ink has nothing to do with your life.

You won't need to think anything, you'll just come up with new phrases.

So the next day you take out your red ink pen and start from the beginning. But it will be easier here, you don't have to think. Imagine that you just have a creative task. For each phrase that you wrote in pencil, you simply write a refuting phrase.

In the present tense, she must be positive and she must not use “Not” with verbs.

For example, you wrote in the area of ​​“money, work and business”: I am a poor person, I earn little.

You don't need to write in red ink: I am not a poor person.

This won't work. You need to write: I am a rich person, I am a wealthy person, I am a prosperous person.

If you say that “I earn a lot”, that’s also not necessary. You need to write: I earn a lot, I have enough money for everything I want.

And this is how we go through all areas. Under no circumstances at this moment think:

Well, why am I writing this nonsense, it has nothing to do with what I believe and think.

Yes, this has nothing to do with what you think and think. Your task is simply to write everything that was written in pencil with red ink, refuting it, in the present tense, without “not” and be sure to add some kind of emotion of happiness.

For example, you wrote in pencil:

• “I can’t afford to stay in expensive hotels”
• "I can't afford to buy expensive gifts."

Then below you write:

• “I am happy and grateful that I am relaxing in the best hotels in the world”
• “I buy gifts for my loved ones.”

And so on until the very end.

The phrase that I recommended you write at the end (about money, that when you achieve success, you will not be useful), you change to “I am becoming even better, every day I bring more and more benefit to other people, the more I have money, resources, opportunities, the better I become.”

This is a very important program. The subconscious will help you develop more and more.

And a very important point where we talk about trusting the Universe.

I will share with you a big phrase that I wrote quite recently and it should be the final one after your whole story in red paste:

A higher power loves me and helps me realize my plans. I trust the divine intelligence and convey my request to it. The deep wisdom of my subconscious knows how to realize and bring to life everything I have planned for the benefit of harmony, peace, goodness, health, prosperity of me, my family, other people and nature.

And this will be the conclusion of your entire notebook. This will be on the very final sheet.

Examples of replacing negative attitudes with positive ones

Let's look at examples of replacing negative attitudes with positive ones:

All people have their limitations. They just need to be detected and replaced with promoting installations. Then your thinking will change, and with it your reality. After all, it all starts with the head.

How to use the subconscious: 12 rules

Our unconscious makes it possible to discover secrets previously unknown to people. If you learn to use it, you will discover new talents in yourself, become smarter and more receptive to the world around you. To do this, you must adhere to the following rules:

1. Get rid of negative emotions. Resentment, anger, dissatisfaction, irritation and other negative feelings interfere with making logical decisions necessary in working with the subconscious.
2. To use your subconscious mind correctly, guide your brain in the right direction by monitoring and adjusting your thoughts every day.
3. Get rid of stereotypes. You should not follow all the advice of other people, because each person's life experience is unique and may not be suitable for you specifically. If it is important for you to learn how to use the subconscious, remember: self-development requires spiritual transformation, and not submission to established concepts.
4. Do not hurry. Managing the subconscious takes time and hard work on oneself. An immediate reaction is a very rare occurrence in the initial stages.
5. Get enough sleep. Sleep is a source of vitality and energy necessary to accomplish great things. Fatigue accumulated during the day slows down the body's functionality.
6. How to use the subconscious in decision making? Take breaks to rest. You cannot work for a long time without a break. The optimal number of rest breaks is three to four times a day for 10–20 minutes. This is enough to organize your thoughts. A cozy atmosphere and pleasant music (classical compositions, sounds of nature, songs of your favorite bands) will help you relax.
7. Do things that bring you joy. Your subconscious will be grateful for pleasant emotions. The more pleasure the body gets from what it does, the easier it will be to connect the outside world with the inside.
8. Treat your subconscious mind like a business partner who needs to be paid for services. Don't forget to count on yourself. Payment may be a trivial word of praise or a small gift. If you pamper yourself, your subconscious mind is satisfied.
9. Treat yourself early, not at the last minute. A good mood is a great motivator. You need to encourage yourself not only after completing work, but also before doing something planned.
10. Don't bother fulfilling other people's wishes. You need to achieve your own goals. If you keep a small diary and write down your dreams there, it will help you navigate faster. Refer to the list when you are about to perform a task to make sure it is necessary.
11. Practice trance (a process during which the state of consciousness changes). Complete relaxation is recommended not only during periods of physical or mental stress, but also on vacation. We must remember that the brain is always working. Regular trances contribute to better concentration on the sensations and emotions experienced at one time or another.
12. Evaluate your life. For this, it is convenient to use a 10- or 100-point scale. If you are completely satisfied with your life, feel free to give it the maximum rating. If the scores seem too low, there is reason to think about which area is working in the wrong direction and how to improve the situation.

Bottom line

We found out that negative attitudes prevent a person from becoming happy and living life the way he wants. A person dreams of living in abundance, but they echo him - money does not buy happiness, money is evil. A person dreams of becoming a successful entrepreneur, but he is told that all businessmen are dishonest, it is impossible to conduct business honestly.

A girl dreams of a strong, happy family, but they tell her that all men are womanizers. The girl laughs cheerfully, and they tell her that you will cry. Isn't it time to boycott outdated attitudes and clichés that have lost their meaning?

In our time of the developed science of psychology and the discoveries of quantum physicists, it is time to believe in the power of one’s own thoughts, and not in a predetermined fate and fate. But in order to create life with the power of thought, you need to defeat the internal enemy - the subconscious.

This is a conditional enemy, he wishes us the “best” - to remain calm, balanced and go with the flow. But you can deceive the subconscious - simply convince it that the state you need already exists and you don’t need to make any effort to achieve it. It will be good for everyone - you and the subconscious.

Way of thinking

Psychologists define two types of thinking:

• fixed;
• flexible.

People with a fixed mindset are fatalists. They believe in fate, fate, “God’s punishment.” They are convinced that nothing depends on them, so they just need to go with the flow and graciously accept “gifts and kicks” from predetermined fate.

People with a flexible type of thought process know that everything in this life depends on themselves. They know that “Trust in God, but don’t make a mistake yourself.” These people do not perceive life’s failures so tragically, because they can always correct mistakes and change circumstances.

They work on themselves and successfully achieve their goals. In their lives, people with flexible thinking are not guided by negative attitudes.

Consciousness and subconsciousness

To understand how to get rid of negative programs, you first need to understand how the mechanism of human perception with its conscious and unconscious components works.

1. It is believed that consciousness is a biological function of the brain that allows an individual to receive information about the world around him and about himself. Thanks to consciousness, a person can lead active life activities: thought processes, setting and realizing goals, analyzing situations, etc. Consciousness is a programmer: a thinking, creative component that is responsible for self-realization in society.
2. The subconscious is a biological function of the human brain, which is responsible for mental processes that occur without reflection in consciousness and in addition to conscious control. The subconscious is responsible for preserving life in environmental conditions: the instinct of self-preservation, the coordinated work of all body systems. The subconscious is a database plus an ultra-fast computer for accumulating, processing and providing information at the right time.

This system is built in such a way that the subconscious accumulates information about past events in a person’s life, and when a person finds himself in a similar (similar) situation, the consciousness receives impulses coming from the subconscious, processes them and, based on this information, directs the person along a certain path.

It turns out that a person consciously makes exactly the decision that corresponds to the subconscious programs and attitudes embedded in him. Thus, successful people continue to be successful, and unsuccessful people remain unsuccessful.