For many years, sex in the missionary position was considered the only correct option for intimacy. Any deviations from the norm were equated with perversions that had to be combated. Only with the advent of the sexual revolution and under the influence of Western trends, people began to gradually master new intimate techniques and add variety to their usual “bed” routine.
Such changes have helped save many couples from breakup and from infidelity, but still some prejudices remain alive. And because of this, men are constantly forced to clarify before intimacy why girls like to be spanked and punished. Is it possible to behave this way with a new lover?
The butt needs to be stroked and caressed
Physiologists have established: by caressing and stroking other people’s buttocks, we fill ourselves with a feeling of harmony and bliss. Why?
The answer was given by famous American scientists. The fact is that in our memory from infancy we retain warm memories of stroking our mother’s large, warm and elastic breasts. A small hand and large hemispheres are the first life-affirming impressions. With age, stroking the breast no longer allows a person to recall distant sensations. Then the breast is replaced by another... soft place!
Well, in order for a woman’s butt to continue to attract and excite, she definitely needs proper nutrition fitness exercises for the buttocks and, of course, a good massage .
How to excite a woman by spanking her buttocks?
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Spanking a sexual partner can be quite a stimulating experience for both.
It is worth noting right away that spanking does not mean causing pain. Women in this process are aroused by a feeling of helplessness and subordination, the feeling of a warm male hand on the buttocks and the anticipation of subsequent sexual pleasures. For men, the arousing effect is the feeling of control over your partner, playing with her attractive buttocks and putting her in the appropriate mood for sex.
Before moving on to the description of the implementation of this technique, it should be noted that the partner must trust her partner, only in this case can the exciting effect of spanking be achieved.
1. Waiting for the time of “punishment”.
Anticipation heightens perception and increases sexual arousal. You can emphasize anticipation in different ways. For example, “ordering” her to excite herself until the time comes for the “punishment” to be carried out. In general, create a kind of scenario according to which the game should develop.
2. Preparation for “punishment”.
The next step in your script could be an “order” to get ready. This may include taking a bath, wearing special clothes, etc. If you say that the duration of the spanking will depend on how she is prepared, then the preparation process will have a completely different effect. This will make her think about it constantly, which will affect the degree of arousal.
3. Assessing her appearance.
Next must necessarily be an assessment of her appearance. Explore every inch of her body with sensual touches, comment on her preparedness in light of how this will affect her “punishment.”
4. Create a ritual
, which she must complete before starting. She can kneel down and beg for mercy. Always agree that she will be forgiven after "punishment". You should play it as if the "punishment" of spanking is for her benefit, and if she acts like a "good girl" during it, she will receive a reward afterwards.
5. Don't rush to start
when she is already in the desired position. Before spanking, play with her buttocks, squeezing, stroking, as if testing their elasticity. At the same time, monitor the degree of her arousal. While stroking, tell her what her butt will look like after the “punishment.” When she begins to tremble with excitement, you can begin, she is ready.
When you start spanking her, you can start doing it through her clothes. When you have already warmed her up enough, you can move on to spanking her bare bottom. It is necessary to alternate spankings with stroking, since the essence of spanking is to ensure blood flow to the lower organs, thereby arousing the partner, and not causing her pain. Spanking can also be combined with stimulation of the clitoris, anus, labia and vagina. This way, she will associate spanking with other arousing things and will become more aroused by spanking.
7. Correct technique.
A big butt is the key to health
Numerous observations by scientists and doctors have revealed a pattern between the volume of the buttocks and women’s health. Ladies with big butts:
- They can boast of the active production of estrogens - those hormones that are responsible for fertility, the beauty of hair and skin, and mood;
- They have an excellent metabolism, especially if they do not have excess belly fat;
- Tend to produce breast milk for a long time;
- They have a broad outlook, are smart and enterprising;
- They give birth to healthy and smart children;
- They suffer less often from high cholesterol and blood sugar, and almost never suffer from cardiovascular diseases;
- Experience more pleasure from intimate relationships.
It is believed that ladies with voluminous buttocks have an enviable life expectancy, they are active and cheerful. All this, of course, is a great advantage of women, and men have always been impressed by healthy ladies.
Why do guys like to spank girls' butts?
There are many more explanations why men like to spank girls’ buttocks, even if we do not resort to scientific interpretations. Namely:
- In this way, a man compensates for his inability to dominate in a relationship;
- against the backdrop of a desire to use force, but social rules, morality and boundaries, he can only do this in a similar form;
- by spanking the butt, a man evaluates its elasticity, which determines the degree of sexuality and sexual activity of a girl (lack of sex and low levels of sex hormones make the butt flabby);
- by the ideality of the shape of the butt, a man evaluates a woman as a potential mother for his offspring and a carrier of good genes;
- in the animal world, mating is mixed with aggressive behavior of the male, which often manifests itself among people;
- in this way a man expresses his sense of possessiveness towards a woman.
Sexologists say that the feeling of aggression, fear and causing pain to each other helps people increase the level of hormones in the body, blood pressure, which accompanies faster and greater sexual arousal.
Spanking on the butt is only permissible in relationships where there is already flirtation and sexual intimacy between partners. For both partners, this is an opportunity to diversify their sex life, saturate it with thrills, a taste of danger and aggression. In most cases, this is accompanied by animal instincts and the human subconscious.
Interesting research
In an attempt to find out which female buttocks are most attractive to men, scientists began research. About a hundred men took part in the unusual experiment. They had to choose pictures of those girls whose butts seemed the most beautiful. The women in the photo differed in one thing - the degree of curvature of the spine in the lumbar region. Because of this curve, the butts looked especially convex.
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These ladies turned out to be the most popular among those surveyed. It turned out that the male half likes best those buttocks that have a convexity of 45 degrees relative to the spine. This figure is a consequence of the correct distribution of the center of gravity, and thanks to the correct bend, the cutest butt is formed. Psychologists, in turn, have confirmed that men have always liked not necessarily voluminous and plump, but most importantly, convex butts of girls. But recently, the male half is increasingly liking large, but elastic, specially trained buttocks, in which muscle mass predominates rather than fat. And the bulge of the butt here is an indicator of sexuality, a sign of an “elite”, special female. More and more guys like slightly plump ladies, whom they undoubtedly want to spank on the ass.
Do girls like having their butts spanked?
In fact, a woman's reaction to a spanking on her buttocks from a man can depend on a number of factors, be it the circumstances, the degree of trust in this man and the format of the relationship between them, the girl's mood and the feelings that she has for her partner. But first of all, we can explain a girl’s behavior when I spank her on the butt based on her relationship with a man.
From a stranger
If we talk about a situation where a girl is slapped on the buttocks by a man she doesn’t know, in 90% of cases the reaction will be extremely negative. A woman will consider such an act arrogance, rudeness, sexual harassment or personal insult. Perhaps she can even complain to the relevant authorities, after which the man will be held accountable. And only in rare cases can a slap from a stranger be perceived as flirting if the girl is relaxed and at first sight she liked the young man.
At the beginning of a relationship
It’s quite an unambiguous situation when a relationship is just forming between young people, and the guy already allows himself such open gestures towards the girl. If there has not yet been intimacy between them, but the man dared to hint so openly about his passion and attraction to the girl, she can either respond with mutual flirting, or simply be shy. It all depends on the degree of sympathy at the beginning of the relationship, as well as the liberation and sexuality of both partners.
With a loved man
It’s rare when men deny themselves the pleasure of feeling all the charms of their girlfriend’s figure. The girl will have a positive attitude when her lover strokes and spanks her buttocks. This will be perceived as his desire in her direction, passion and manifestation of feelings, and also as a sign of possessiveness, like, this is my woman and she belongs to me. If there is sympathy between young people, a slap on the butt can be regarded as an impact on the erogenous zone in order to excite the girl.
If you find out about violence against someone else's child
Punishment differs from punishment, and sometimes ears and butts are not the only witnesses to fleeting parental anti-humanism. Alas, sometimes under the guise of parent-child relationships there are many unpleasant things that are unsightly to society.
And if you have witnessed (seen, heard or learned) violence against a minor, you need to take action. Wrong tactics: knock on your neighbors’ door and announce that you will go to the local police officer or give a short lecture about the education system. Correct: consult with a lawyer, a school psychologist, a police officer you know, and then take action together with the guardianship authorities or the same psychologist. Perhaps by discussing further behavior with them and the child in advance.
If you already have a child in your arms with signs of beatings, you need to take him to the hospital, record the fact of physical violence, and only then decide what to do next.
Everything you need to know about spanking in sex.
Many girls, oddly enough, like to be beaten. Of course, I don’t consider the option of hard masochists or when a huge man kicks a half-dead woman’s head. But a lot of girls love having their ass spanked or tormented a little. And don’t give a damn about trying to prove that this isn’t actually true, that girls love tenderness and violets. Girls love it when they are tormented, grabbed and dragged, placed on their shoulders, to the nearest cozy cave to fuck. This is nature and there is no escape from it. And in nature, tenderness has a low priority. But it is important to remember that all the cute rudeness only works when the girl likes the boy. It is a mistake to think that if a foul-smelling drunk migrant worker catches a charming girl on the street and puts her on his shoulder and drags her into the bushes, she will feign resistance with a sly smile for the sake of decency.
What kind of butts do men like?
Not all butts are equally useful... No, not like that. Not everyone likes it, of course. If some of the guys love small breasts, and someone is delighted with size 5, then everything is wrong with butts. There is hardly a connoisseur of a flat ass that you can’t really grab.
Men like butts:
- Pumped up. Firstly, the man immediately sees that the girl loves sports and tries to keep herself in shape. Secondly, toned buttocks are a sign of a girl’s sexual activity.
- Rounded. The more bulge, the better!
- Moving excitingly. Swaying your hips - what could we do without it? But don’t forget that voluminous hips should be in harmony with your waist. If both parameters have the same numbers, they look unattractive. And then wag, don’t wag, there will be no effect.
By the way, scientists found out back in 2012 that one part of men is a fan of women’s breasts, and the other is a fan of butts. So if you have a flat butt, don’t be upset, but buy yourself a dress with a deep neckline. And, conversely, tight shorts will attract the attention of a connoisseur of the butt and distract from the emptiness in the bra. The main thing is to have something to look at.
Does size matter? Here everyone chooses to their taste:
- Some guys dream of holding their butt like Kim Kardashian.
- Others prefer regular (medium size, moderately elastic) or small and neat.
I would also like to note that for most men it is still more important that a woman’s figure be proportional. The figure is described in detail in this article. But you will learn from this article why men like plump girls (women).
The main rule
For butt spanks to be enjoyable, they should only cause moderate pain. It should not be too painful - otherwise such an act will not cause any excitement. After all, intense pain suppresses arousal. The main thing in light spanks on the butt is, rather, the painful premonition and emotions that accompany them. The image in the imagination is important.
Between affection and humiliation
Probably all the mothers in the world spank their children on the butt. Sometimes it's affection, and sometimes it's punishment. “Our sexuality has such a fine structure that any life events can leave their mark on it, including humiliation and guilt,” notes psychoanalyst Jacques André. The richness of the palette of feelings that Sergei experiences surprises him: “When a friend spanks me, I experience excitement, shame and excitement from my own shame...” For some, reaching the pinnacle of pleasure means walking a fine line between pain and pleasure.
Why do men like to touch a woman's butt?
Any guy, of course, will say that he likes both a woman’s breasts and butt. But during sex, according to statistics, the buttocks are touched much more often. And they just admire the breasts.
Stroking the thighs causes arousal, which improves the quality of sexual intercourse. That's right, because you can look at breasts in everyday life. And you can only see attractive naked butts on the beach. Well, or in the women's bathhouse. Accidentally.
Another reason why men like to touch a woman’s butt is the desire to please their partner. We know where women's erogenous points are, and the buttocks are one of the strong zones. And further:
- A spank stimulates the nerve endings around the genitals, and accordingly, the act brings more pleasure. The happier a girl is, the more active she is in bed. And everyone is happy.
- Well, in everyday life, stroking the bottom is a hint to the girl that it’s time to finish with everyday issues and relax..
