Why does a man want a woman to cheat on him?
Pushing a beloved woman to cheat is a step contrary to common sense and the laws of nature. Men are terrible owners, preferring to protect what belongs to them. Maybe it's because the husband doesn't love his wife?
It happens, but most often the motives for wanting a spouse to be unfaithful are more complex:
- Dislike . The most obvious option is that the man has stopped having feelings for the woman, but intends to continue to be married. In order to avoid quarrels due to failure to fulfill intimate obligations, he considers the right decision to switch his wife’s attention to another man. A woman who has received attention, care, and sex from others will be less demanding and scandalous.
- Rehabilitation . A husband who secretly cheats on his wife is often tormented by a feeling of guilt, realizing that he is doing things that go against his conscience and moral principles. Wanting to relieve the emotional burden, the “reveler” secretly dreams of the appearance of a “leftist” man, trying to “whiten” herself. A spouse who has been caught cheating, who is regularly reproached for his affair with his mistress, may want revenge after which the woman will not have the right to reproach him for his “left-handed” affair.
- Weak sexual constitution, potency problems. If in a couple the woman is more sexually active than her husband and wants intimacy more often than he does, the thought appears in the guy’s head - it’s good to have a “substitute”. The situation is typical for couples who have been living together for a long time, where feelings have been lost, or the man has erectile dysfunction, is much older than his wife, and is afraid that his partner’s sexual dissatisfaction will cause his wife to leave.
- Fear . Men who have experienced the betrayal of a close woman (mother, grandmother) in childhood, stop believing the sincerity of feelings, constantly expect a “knife in the back”, this exhausts the psyche so much that there is a desire to create a situation and calm down.
- Fear of intimacy. The problem, rooted in childhood, is similar to the previous case. There is a category of people who avoid genuine spiritual intimacy with a partner, what is called merging, when “you and I” turn into “we.” Trying to prevent a complete merger, such individuals carry out artificial separation - they cheat, morally isolate themselves, subconsciously proving to themselves that they are not one with their wife.
Treason: is it possible to save a family?
In fact, a very common option is not physical, but emotional betrayal: correspondence with “objects” on social networks, SMS, fantasies. And we can’t say that this is a safe option. A serious feeling often grows out of it, and then it is difficult to save the family.
Is it worth it? Everyone decides for themselves. Most try to save the marriage, and, I must say, successfully. Couples need to find a reason and talk it out. You have to survive the insult and be able to move on. And after everything has been clarified, discussed and an end has been put, it is strictly forbidden to return to this topic! If every day is everything, it’s a dead end, you can’t get out of it.
The traitor must realize, draw conclusions and never repeat such actions! Otherwise, it’s also a dead end. Option one - put yourself in the place of your half, imagine an avalanche of this destructive pain... And even better - imagine these feelings before a destructive thought enters your head. Because of lust and whim, you can lose everything that is truly valuable in life.
Betrayal can be forgiven and survived if there is love and respect. You should not share this with anyone you know. They will definitely remind you later and give a lot of emotional advice. It is better to consult a psychologist or specialist. After all, your friends will almost certainly tell you: “But I will never forgive!” But they are not the ones in your place now.
How to make your wife cheat?
Most women do not want to cheat on their spouse when they get married. Nature endowed girls with monogamy, making raising offspring a priority. Pregnancy, childbirth, raising a child to a more or less independent age is a long process, without the support of a man (breadwinner, breadwinner, guard) in ancient times it was impossible to complete the task.
Centuries-old upbringing, which condemns the wife’s infidelity, added to the fidelity. Traitors in many countries faced death and serious injury. Modern society is loyal to husbands who walk to the left, but a lady who has a lover will hear unpleasant epithets to her face and behind her back.
However, with effort, even the most faithful, loving, exemplary spouse can be driven to adultery, you will need:
- Firmly realize that the wife is the property of her husband, she will not go anywhere. Try to convey the fact by any available means, including in direct text (look in the mirror, who needs you, be glad that I married you at all).
- Compare her with other women (Dimina Olya is more beautiful, slimmer, more successful, Our accountant, Verochka, is so smart, not like you. Mom’s borscht has nothing in common with your slop).
- Ignore your spouse's needs. Need boots? Let her earn money and buy it herself. Which salons, this case cannot be corrected.
- Stop paying attention. Flowers, snacks, trips to the park, a restaurant, a movie – these are forbidden areas. In a hopeless situation, you need to mention (come up with) details of independently visiting interesting places for official reasons.
- Frankly admire the ladies passing by, provoke flirtation, give out compliments.
- Refuse intimacy under any pretext , declare that the wife has lost her attractiveness, has ceased to excite her, focus on physical defects (excess or lack of weight, stretch marks, cellulite, sagging skin). When it was not possible to avoid sex, you should ignore foreplay, care only about personal satisfaction, and after the process silently turn away and leave. No kisses, hugs, tender words.
- Share children. When a child brings good grades or takes a prize at the Olympics, be sure to say: “My son!” When grades leave much to be desired, emphasize the wife’s failure as a mother and teacher, reminding that this is “her son!”
- Show constant unreasonable jealousy , suspicion, checking your phone, email;
- Appearance. Loungewear is not a reason to spend money; we wear out everything that is lying around in the closet: the notorious sweatpants, stretched T-shirts, alcoholic T-shirts, holey socks and panties (an excellent reason to reproach a cross-armed slacker). Shower, shaving, deodorants should be left for going out.
- Irritating factors. Loud music in the evenings, friends with beer, baking bread until the morning will speed up the process.
- Protected area. Home is not a place for girlfriends and in-laws; let him meet them outside. A good way to “get on with” your friends is to flirt with them, shower Masha and Katya with praise after leaving.
Keti Topuria
While married to businessman Lev Geykhman, the singer had a secret affair with the scandalous rapper Guf. It all started with collaboration on the composition “Far.” The romantic relationship was hidden for 9 months. Afterwards there was a divorce, first from her husband, and then a scandalous separation from Guf himself.
Keti Topuria cheated on her husband with Guf. Photo: howmade.ru
Answers from psychologists
Psychologists say that they are often approached by husbands who want to suggest cheating on their wife. Professionals explain what such an initiative entails and offer a consultation session for the man to identify the true, hidden motive for such behavior.
Such a debriefing, culminating in couples therapy, helps get rid of obsessive desire. Wives come, not understanding what to do with the offer, how to live, realizing that their beloved spouse is ready to provide their soul mate to someone else’s user.
My husband wants me to cheat on him in front of him: what should I do?
It is up to the woman to decide whether to agree to the experiment or not. If the action does not contradict her moral principles and desires, you can support the proposal. It is important to understand what will happen to the relationship between husband and wife after the fantasy comes true. Neither a psychologist, nor a fortune teller, nor the participants themselves can predict the outcome.
For some, legal betrayal becomes an impetus for freedom, the destruction of the tank, while others, on the contrary, draw closer together on the basis of a common “secret”. If such behavior is unacceptable to your spouse, you should not force yourself to experiment to please other people’s “wants”.
My husband likes it when I sleep with others
Men love with their eyes, this explains the popularity of porn films, sexy video chats, and erotic press among the stronger sex. Moscow sexologists conducted a study showing that over the last 10 years it has become more widely used, which involves making love to a woman in front of a permanent partner, her husband.
The audience is men over 40 with a history of active, varied sexual premarital life. Such games make it possible to shake up an alliance that has existed for more than 5-10 years, to disrupt the perception of the wife as a relative, to “want” her.
Lyudmila Gurchenko
The actress was married 5 times, but was not particularly faithful to her significant other. In Gurchenko’s life there were always fleeting romances and secret affairs, but fans did not condemn Lyudmila Markovna. Her talent was greater.
Lyudmila Gurchenko loved young gentlemen. Photo: fotoalbom.su
Yulia Nachalova
The singer and TV presenter was married to Evgeniy Aldonin, to whom she gave birth to a daughter, Vera. However, in 2010, Nachalova became interested in hockey player Alexander Frolov. After her divorce from her legal husband, Julia’s new relationship lasted only 5 years. In 2016, Frolov announced his final separation from Nachalova.
Yulia Nachalova with her hockey player lover. Photo: kfcpromo.ru
Alla Pugacheva
The prima donna also cheated on her husband, Philip Kirkorov. While married, the Diva fell in love with Maxim Galkin, and the fourth marriage was doomed. Alla Borisovna began living with the young parodist while still in the status of Kirkorov’s legal wife. True, not for long.
Pugacheva cheated on Kirkorov with Galkin. Photo: tvcenter.ru
Anastasia Zavorotnyuk
First, the actress cheated on the father of her children with actor and director Sergei Zhigunov, whom she met during the filming of “My Fair Nanny” in 2006. However, this relationship turned out to be frivolous and lasted only 2 years. In 2008, Anastasia unexpectedly married figure skater Pyotr Chernyshev.
Zavorotnyuk left Zhigunov for Chernyshev. Photo: news.myseldon.com
Tatiana Navka
It is no secret that Tatyana Navka was married to figure skater Alexander Zhulin. However, during the filming of Ice Age, the athlete began a secret affair with ice partner Marat Basharov. Soon the lovers stopped hiding their relationship. Personal life with actor Marat Basharov also did not work out. But today Tatyana is married to politician Dmitry Peskov.
Tatyana Navka cheated on her husband with Basharov. Photo: vremax.com
