A broad outlook, a deep inner world, professional activity - all this is most important in the life of every woman. However, appearance will always be either a helper or, conversely, an obstacle in the story of her life. But what if they tell me that I'm ugly?
Girls begin to look at their beautiful friends with envy, and look at their own reflection in the mirror with disappointment and even hatred. It’s worth starting with the fact that almost every girl in her life has heard from others that she is ugly or that there is something wrong with her appearance.
The statistics here are also disappointing - 98% of girls and women consider themselves ugly, despite the opinions of other people. And it’s worth highlighting the words “consider themselves” here. This means that in fact they are not ugly at all, they just consider themselves to be so.
In fact, the concept of “ugly” does not exist, because there is no friend according to taste and color. And here it’s not even about beauty, but about complexes, uncertainty and dislike for oneself.
How to accept and love yourself?
You can often hear the phrase: “They tell me that I’m ugly.” But look at the many popular actresses or models. Often we look at them and wonder how they managed to achieve such heights with such an ordinary appearance. Therefore, the problem is not beauty. Right?
An imperfect figure and facial features did not prevent them from achieving certain heights in their professional activities. For example, Kate Moss, a famous world-class model, said in one of her interviews that appearance is 40% of success, but many considered her ugly. And what brought the girl popularity was not her appearance, but the signature look of a she-wolf.
The first thing you need to do to prevent a girl from saying that she is ugly is to love yourself. After all, beauty has not only advantages, but also a large number of disadvantages. Michelle Mercier said that her appearance brought her not only fame and a sea of fans, but also a lot of suffering. This only means that it’s time to stop sighing at beauties and spend this energy on your beloved self.
Diagnostics
Endocrinologists are most often involved in identifying the causes of coarsening facial features. Taking into account the identified symptoms, the patient may be referred for consultation to an orthopedist, infectious disease specialist, or dermatologist. During the interview, the specialist finds out when the symptom appeared, which parts of the face underwent changes, and how quickly the manifestations progressed.
As part of the external examination, the doctor evaluates the proportions of the face and body, detects an increase in the size and deformation of individual structures, and identifies other symptoms: infiltrates, blue or reddening of the skin, dilated blood vessels. Women undergo a gynecological examination. An additional examination program may include:
- Hormone analysis
. It is the main study for confirming acromegaly, masculinization and virile syndrome. In case of acromegaly, the level of somatotropin is examined after an oral glucose test, and insulin-like growth factor is determined. Women are tested for cortisol, testosterone, follicle-stimulating and luteinizing hormones. - MRI of the pituitary gland.
Acromegaly and some variants of virile syndrome are caused by pituitary tumors. The study makes it possible to detect even small neoplasias ranging in size from 1-3 mm. - Sonography
. Necessary for suspected hormonally active neoplasia causing hyperandrogenism. An ultrasound of the female genital organs and an ultrasound examination of the adrenal glands are performed. - Studies in mucopolysaccharidoses
. Urine tests are performed to determine glycosaminoglycans, and enzyme activity is studied. Patients are referred for consultations to a psychiatrist, cardiologist, gastroenterologist and other specialists. - Radiography
. Indicated for patients with mucopolysaccharidosis. Confirms the presence of skeletal deformities characteristic of a particular type of disease. It makes it possible to determine the severity of orthopedic disorders and select the optimal treatment tactics. - Tests for leprosy
. To detect mycobacteria of leprosy, a bacterioscopic examination of skin scrapings at the site of the lesion, a histological analysis of the tissue of the lymph nodes and leprosy tubercles are carried out. To differentiate the form of leprosy, a test for lepromin, tests with mustard plaster, histamine, and nicotinic acid are performed. - Tests for rhinophyma
. Microscopy confirms a large number of epithelial cells and sebum. To confirm the diagnosis and exclude oncological lesions, cytological and histological examinations are performed.
Examination by an endocrinologist
Where to begin?
Following self-love comes an important factor - self-development. And it should be both external and internal. We all know very well that appearance gives advantages only in the first meetings. If in the future it turns out that the girl is just a beautiful dummy, few people will want to continue building a serious relationship with her.
If a person is told that he is ugly, there is no need to despair. Now your task is to analyze yourself, your appearance, in order to learn how to emphasize your strengths and hide your flaws. Confident people charge everyone around them with this confidence. Height, weight and eye color are absolutely unimportant when there is something special, something attractive about a person.
Prevention of facial skin aging
There are many inexpensive remedies and simple recipes for preserving youth. You can use traditional methods and prepare nourishing and moisturizing masks at home. But it is more effective to use lines of professional skincare cosmetics with active ingredients. When choosing, be sure to familiarize yourself with the composition. Signs of quality include a short shelf life and packaging that prevents air from getting inside. It is desirable to have a dispenser and detailed instructions for use.
Facial skin is very sensitive to various factors and is subject to age-related changes. And of course, the intensity of external influence matters. Exposure to ultraviolet radiation is especially dangerous - the sun literally dries out the skin. The degree of air humidity, temperature changes, air pollution and even hormonal levels also matter. Over the years, the skin loses elasticity and firmness, which contributes to the appearance of wrinkles. This is an inevitable process. But it can be controlled if you take proper care of your skin according to its needs.
Why do wrinkles appear? Some will say that the answer is obvious - from age. But it’s not the years that gather the skin into folds or pull it down. Let's look a little deeper for the reasons for the appearance of wrinkles.
They do become more pronounced with age. On young skin, even if a person has lively facial expressions, wrinkles form and are immediately smoothed out. But over the years, this ability to return to its original smoothness is lost. Why is this happening?
- The skin loses moisture. Dry ones are easier to fold, and they turn out to be more durable.
- Loss of elasticity, that is, there is less collagen and elastin proteins in it.
- Loses the ability to recover quickly: in youth, a night's rest is enough for wrinkles to smooth out. The older we get, the slower the skin returns to its original smoothness. Or it doesn't come back at all.
Anti-age drugs
Bb Laboratories – Delicate oil for deep cleansing
Laennec – solution for injection
Bb Laboratories – Two-phase serum concentrate
Two-phase placental serum concentrate
To effectively combat aging, the products used must have the following properties:
- Create good skin hydration, because it needs a stable water balance, but with age it becomes more and more difficult to maintain it.
- Provide the dermis with nutrients. Age-related changes are accompanied by metabolic disorders.
- Protect from negative environmental influences. With age, it loses its natural protective properties.
- Restore. As age increases, the regenerative function of the skin decreases. To normalize, you need to activate cellular processes and blood circulation.
The dermal biocorrector CURACEN is fully capable of coping with all these tasks. The advantage of the biological product is its multi-component composition, which preserves the beauty and health of the skin in the most natural way.
What are the advantages of an imperfect appearance?
Does your ex say you're ugly? This does not mean at all that it is so. This is just the opinion of one person, and there are 7 billion of them on the planet. If you yourself consider yourself ugly, then try to find the advantages in your imperfect appearance. They may be as follows:
- You can be sure that they love you not for your pretty appearance, but for something more important and serious. They love you, not what you look like.
- You have an extra incentive to develop and move forward.
- And sometimes what you consider to be your shortcoming - freckles, for example, can be liked by others and make you stand out from the crowd.
The fact remains: “ugliness” is only in the head, but absolutely every young lady can make herself interesting and attractive. The less a woman is fixated on complexes about her appearance, the more intelligent, tolerant and reliable she is for men.
Requests for help Write your story Hello. I feel like nothing. I don't have an ounce of self-confidence. I'm stupid, scary, weak, etc. Every day I am haunted by the feeling that I am disgusting to everyone. This makes me want to die. I tried to change my situation, began to pay more attention to my own appearance, increase my intellectual level... but the harder I try, the greater this feeling of dissatisfaction with myself becomes. It pounces and begins to choke... mercilessly.. This cannot continue. I do not know what to do.
freak, age: 17/01/12/2012
Responses:
You know how some people say: “If someone doesn’t like me, kill yourself, I won’t change!” If you want to please everyone, then take this parable into account: Along a dusty road at dawn, a marvelous trio walked along a dusty road to a village behind the mountain: a father with a beard and a son of about six years old, and next to him a donkey to carry luggage. A man is coming towards you. And he laughs at them: “Well, you have to be so stupid!” Donkey for what? Put the baby down! And go to the village next to them. The boy jumped onto the donkey. There was a wonderfully cheerful shoot. The old man comes towards me, shaking his head. - Children, oh, they don’t respect their parents! Put your father away! You look young! And he walked on, shaking his beard. The son wandered nearby, and the father rode the donkey. Well, it seems like everyone was happy now. And from behind the hill came granny. - Why, father, are you just sitting there, and son? And, groaning, she continued on indignantly. And the son jumped to his father on the donkey in an instant. Let's go together and sing a song. Old women from the market are coming towards us. - What are you doing?! Donkey, he's not a bull! And they immediately raised a piercing cry. Our heroes jumped off the donkey in an instant. We thought: “Really, what is it?” One thinks like this. The other one is different. We must act in our own way! And we learned a lesson from this trip that everyone, as they think, is an expert in this. And it’s impossible to please everyone. As you yourself decided - so move like that! There is a very funny desire - this desire to please everyone. It interferes with creation, because it’s not real at all! Those who are younger than you very often write here similar to what you wrote. And who is older, especially - much - almost never. There were some mistakes in your upbringing, in the attitudes your parents instilled in you in life, and this has not yet become obsolete for you... Be patient a little, and everything will pass. I also had huge complexes because I was teased at school. Then it passed. Firstly, I realized that they were quite groundless, and secondly, I really didn’t give a damn about who I was. If only I had a social circle that interests me, and so on. Honesty with yourself is also a thing that takes a long time to learn. It also helped me a lot to communicate with those who are truly free from the opinions of others. Whoever you hang out with will determine how much you gain, the main thing is that they are fairly positive people. And also, don’t think only to yourself, turn your attention to others. And you will immediately notice a lot of things that will raise your self-esteem.;)
Alexey, age: - / 12/02/2012
Hello my darling! Let's figure out together what's wrong. You know, everyone has a feeling of dissatisfaction. Especially at an age like yours. And I had - I’ll tell you this. I was the smallest and thinnest in the class, I was terribly embarrassed about it. “Girl, what are you, someone’s sister?” “No, I’m studying here along with everyone else.” I so wanted to finally grow up, I waited and thought, when I get older, I look my age, and not a couple of years younger, then everything will work out. I am 20 years old, I already look about my age, I have stretched out and changed in such a way that many of my friends did not recognize at first. And guess what? All these thoughts about how to change, how good it would be to become this or that - they were all stupidity. Because this is just a screen, the problem is different. Self-doubt happens for various reasons - sometimes because there was no love in the family, you were “not loved.” Only this is not the parents’ fault, but their misfortune. Forgive them from your heart and work on yourself. And sometimes, more often, it seems to me, uncertainty comes from conceit. It happens that a person is dissatisfied with himself, is not confident in himself, but in fact, pride is hiding behind all this. The feeling of dissatisfaction with oneself can be objective, for example, you didn’t prepare for the test properly, you got a C grade. Here's a lesson for you - you must always try, work hard, so that there is a result. Your feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself is biased and inflated. Every person is the image of God. And the image of God cannot be a nonentity, an ugly person, or anything else like that. Do you know who gives you such thoughts about yourself? The one who hates people the most is a crafty enemy. He knows that you are the image of God, but he is trying with all his might to dissuade you. This is a war for life. Therefore, like everyone who comes to this site, and all people in general, we need to tirelessly fight evil, cut off bad thoughts, and not allow them into the Holy of Holies - our heart. Pray, read the Gospel. Ask for the help and intercession of the Mother of God. In your own words, you can also learn “Our Father” and “Rejoice to the Virgin Mary.” God bless you, honey.
Landish, age: 20/12/02/2012
Hello! What begins to choke you, you can and should be able to stop. Words like these helped me: “Stop. I do what I can. And it’s good that I’m trying to do this. I don’t see now what exactly is good in me, but I know for sure that there is good in EVERY person. There’s something in me too.” It seems to you that you are disgusted with everyone, because you are disgusted with yourself. A person is designed in such a way that he transfers his feelings to other people. If a person is narcissistic, then it seems to him that everyone is simply delighted with him. Both extremes are not good. Try to stick to the golden mean. Many people mistakenly believe that self-flagellation is good, it is “healthy criticism” and it leads to self-improvement. Hence, parents often believe that upbringing is, first of all, a bunch of comments and notations, always poking one’s nose into every mistake. Then, they say, children will grow up good, truthful, etc. Nothing like this!!! Then children become irritated, touchy, do not like people, but are afraid of them, begin to be secretive, deceive, get angry, and their desire to do anything disappears completely... Teachers, as they say, “from God” always point out to children, first of all, their strengths hand, guide gently, imperceptibly, without criticism. Children love such people, obey them, try to please them and not upset them. The results amaze everyone. They say: this is a teacher from God... Why am I telling you now about education?! - Yes, because you are 17 years old. The period of SELF-EDUCATION has already begun, which will continue throughout life. SELF-EDUCATION has the same roots: you must first SEE THE GOOD, and then STRENGTHEN it. And you took on yourself “from the wrong end,” so to speak. Well, it’s okay, many people go through this. The main thing is not to get stuck at this stage, not to “go in cycles”, but FORCE yourself to see the good in yourself too. Otherwise, what happens is: you hate yourself, then (over time) you transfer your hatred to other people. First on those who hurt you, even accidentally. Then on those who did not help, but were busy with something else. Then to my parents - “It’s difficult for me, it means they raised me wrong, they didn’t give me something,” then to the whole world - “The world is cruel, there’s only dirt everywhere.” It’s really difficult to get out of this, it’s better not to “get caught”. There is only one way out. Look for positive aspects in everything, evil will creep into your eyes, just have time to fight back. And not a “freak,” but an image of God, albeit clouded (if you don’t believe in God, he’s just a man, albeit not an ideal one, but a man.) In fact, if, for example, bread becomes moldy, does that mean that it’s is no longer bread and you can trample it underfoot?! If a person killed someone, is it possible to treat him like a dog? No! You can punish, but you need to treat them humanely. If the temple is abandoned, stands without a roof, and no longer looks like a temple, is it possible to set up an office or store there? If the table is dirty and stained, is it possible to climb on it with your feet? Do you know what I mean?! Every person has dignity simply because he is human. Only in order to treat a person (and yourself, of course) with dignity, you must first SEE this dignity in yourself, in your parents, in EVERYONE, no matter what they are. Please see. Think about goodness, about good deeds, read about good things, watch good films, admire a beautiful tree, sky, snow. Bake a cake on Sunday for your family, clean up the house, tell your friend that you are glad to see her... Educate yourself in kindness.
Elena Ordinary, age: 36 / 12/02/2012
Hello. As I understand it, no one considers you a “ugly” except you yourself?!... You know, it happens that a completely pretty girl suddenly begins to look for flaws in herself. “I’m stupid, I’m ugly, no one needs me...” Once upon a time, a long time ago, I convinced myself of this(... Not so long ago, a man appeared in my life who convinced me of the opposite... With him , I felt like a woman for the first time. But this lack of self-confidence ((I was depressed, behaved badly, did not believe him.. In the end, he got tired of it and stopped communicating with me (Not because I am a “freak and a moron,” but because, considering myself as such, I built a psychological barrier between me and him ((... Now, I understand that the main thing in a woman is character, hard work, kindness and the desire to be happy. Don’t push myself into this terrible state where I drove myself. Otherwise, by plunging headlong into self-hatred, you can unwittingly offend a loved one and... miss the most important thing in life. If you don’t like something about yourself, correct it, but don’t forget about internal qualities, the main thing is to remain human.. Good luck!)
Shorty, age: 21/12/02/2012
Hello. There is only one problem that is obvious to me. Appearance has nothing to do with it. You don’t accept yourself because your current state greatly does not correspond to the standard that you yourself chose. I'll tell you a little secret: almost none of the people meet their standard and 95% of them suffer from depression and neuroses. What is the way out, you ask? Very simple: accept yourself as you are. You simply don’t even notice how many good qualities you have that you can develop. And they are not related to appearance or intellectual level. You just need to become a Human: a noble, merciful and loving creature. There is a big secret hidden in loving others: you need to learn not to focus on yourself, but to focus on your neighbors and try to see the good in them. Believe me, this is an effective solution, which was proposed for the treatment of neuroses by a world luminary in psychology. When you focus on your neighbors and learn to love them not in words, but with the help of real deeds, then you will gain a completely new feeling, a sense of the value and integrity of your life itself and its fullness of real meaning. The meaning that neither a beautiful face nor a brilliant mind can give you. The heart cannot be deceived by these stimuli; it operates at a different “frequency”. And don't think of yourself as ugly. Better try to see the good in other people!
Alexey, age: 26 / 02.12.2012
What to do? - Patiently continue what you started. To improve your appearance, you need to exercise and improve your health, eat right - all this is very important for beauty in youth. It is very important to develop the intellect and raise the cultural level, to read more, and serious books, and not mass publications. And the most important thing is to educate your soul, your emotions! Everything about a person should be beautiful, but first of all his soul.
Agnia Lvovna, age: 72 / 12/03/2012
Hello, I would also advise you not to stop at the self-improvement you have achieved, but to continue to develop yourself both inside and out. If you don’t like your figure, for example, you’re fat, sign up for a gym, eat a separate diet (side dish only with vegetables, meat or fish, too, only with vegetables,) stop eating sweets, go to the pool, and voila, I think in a couple of months you will significantly lose your volume. Although it is worth noting that one man I know said that 90% of men love fat women and only 10% -very plump :))) so take note. In the end, the famous blonde Marilyn Monroe was the taste of almost all men, but she was not skinny. If you have pimples or blackheads on your face, first of all make an appointment with a dermatologist, let him consult you and prescribe medications, carefully monitor what you eat, because if you constantly eat at McDonald's, the skin on anyone's face will deteriorate, or eat sushi and spicy food. Go to a beauty salon, sign up for a facial cleansing, experienced the masters will help you with advice. If you are too thin, then don’t be upset, you will always have time to gain weight. Try to change your hair color, for example, get highlights, go to the nearest beauty salon or hairdresser, and get advice on what will suit you, highlighting or maybe coloring your hair a couple of shades lighter, longer nails, beautiful long ones to please the eye)) buy a couple of new dresses, you should love yourself and pamper yourself) smile at yourself and say that such a beauty will definitely succeed! If you don’t have the financial means, get a job , with a free schedule, for example, handing out leaflets or working on promotions, you work for your money and spend it on yourself. You will have an incentive and all sorts of bad thoughts will fade into the background!
Marie, age: 22/12/03/2012
You write that you are haunted by the feeling that you are disgusting to everyone... First of all, stop focusing on the attention of the people around you, don’t take it to heart. Most likely, you feel this way because you have invented shortcomings in yourself and it seems to you that you really have them, that everyone around you sees them! Believe me, people close to you love you for who you are, and if these people are not your relatives or friends, then you shouldn’t try for them. You need to change something in yourself and your life only because YOU want it, and not because of someone! You called yourself scary, most likely you are not. And there are a lot of people in the world who will call your appearance peculiar, unusual, unique... but not scary!
Ulyana, age: 23/02/28/2013
if you are rich and lonely and want to commit suicide, leave everything to me and live like an earthling and then we will change and you will think differently, life will probably be filled with meaning)
Alexander, age: 19 / 07.11.2013
Hi) I have this problem. There is a way to get rid of it, if someone doesn’t like you, say “go to Kudykina Mountain.” Don't give a damn about other people's opinions and no one dares undermine your confidence. (only I can do this, but I won’t do it. Good luck).
Fallen Angel, age: 15/12/14/2014
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I'm scary and I don't like myself
The girl says she's ugly? Such words should not be in your vocabulary. If you hear the phrase “they tell me that I’m not beautiful,” then immediately remember the great Coco Chanel, who once said that if a woman is ugly, then she is simply stupid. And nothing else. Moreover, in the modern world there are much more opportunities to emphasize your beauty than in the time of Chanel. But even then, women knew how to emphasize their advantages and hide their shortcomings.
"You're ugly!" - says the husband? It’s unpleasant, yes, but maybe this is your fault? It is important to recognize the fact that if you are ugly, it is only your choice. Don't like the reflection in the mirror? Don't you hear compliments from your husband? So it's time to act. Write down a list of what, in your opinion, is considered a disadvantage, and get to work!
They tell me I'm ugly
In fact, it turns out that most of our shortcomings are far-fetched, and many people simply do not notice or do not even consider them as such. If the situation is already beyond the norm, if a woman begins to hide behind enormous clothes, leave the house less and less and seek solace in food, then the help of a psychologist will not hurt.
It turns out that 50% of beauty is not a straight nose and big breasts. These are well-groomed hair, clean skin, healthy teeth and so on. These points can be easily and simply implemented, and you can already be considered a pretty lady, at least. Absolutely anyone can grow their hair, lose a couple of extra pounds, and improve their skin condition. The modern beauty industry allows you to do this.
If some part of the body gives you peace of mind and cannot be corrected with cosmetics, you can always turn to the services of a plastic surgeon. However, this should not be abused.
There are factors that even surgery cannot change. For example, height. There is only one way out - look for the advantages in it. What usually happens is this: tall girls envy their petite girlfriends, and, on the contrary, short girls dream of gaining at least a couple of extra centimeters to their height. Your task is to choose the right clothing style, shoes, and hairstyle so that the image looks balanced.
Treatment
Conservative therapy
The tactics of conservative therapy are determined by the etiology of the coarsening of facial features:
- Acromegaly
. To normalize the level of somatotropic hormone, somatostatin analogues are used. Patients are prescribed dopamine agonists, sex hormones, radiation therapy or gamma therapy to the pituitary gland. - Masculinization
. For virile syndrome, glucocorticosteroids, antiestrogens, and biguanides can be used. Women with hyperandrogenism are recommended to take oral contraceptives that provide an antiandrogenic effect. - Mucopolysaccharidoses
. Treatment is symptomatic only, the treatment program is determined taking into account existing disorders, and may include the prevention of respiratory infections, correction of hearing and vision impairment. - Leprosy
. The basis of treatment is long courses of sulfone drugs with their periodic replacement. Adaptogens, vitamins, immunocorrectors, antibiotics, and hepatoprotectors are indicated. To maximize the preservation of the functions of the musculoskeletal system, mechanotherapy, massage, and exercise therapy are performed. - Alcoholism
. For alcohol dependence, medicinal and non-medicinal coding, psychotherapeutic influence, and social rehabilitation are carried out.
How to love yourself?
Do they tell me that I'm ugly? Nonsense! Just think for a second that you are the only one in the whole world and there is not and will not be another like you - this is so great! Your appearance may be imperfect, but why do you focus on your shortcomings when you can be proud of your strengths?
Probably, each of us at least once in our lives met a girl who did not have outstanding external data, but at the same time behaved confidently and relaxed, thereby attracting the attention of men. Therefore, the most important rule is to behave confidently, this sometimes attracts more than beauty. Therefore, stop feeling sorry for yourself and suffering with or without reason.
Focus your energy on taking care of yourself. Read a new book, change your wardrobe, experiment with your hairstyles, get some exercise. And love yourself endlessly, let your appearance become a helper and not an obstacle on the path to a better life!
Photoprotectors
To determine the most effective methods of maintaining beauty and health, you need to learn how to determine the type of aging of facial skin. This will determine what to pay attention to when preventing and restoring the skin. One of the most negative factors is considered to be an excessive amount of UV radiation. Therefore, it is so important to systematically protect the dermis in the summer.
Without proper care, wrinkles, spider veins, and exacerbation of dermatosis may appear. To avoid this, try not to go outside in the middle of the day during the greatest solar activity, move your walks to the morning or evening. You can learn more about how to combat aging facial skin caused by ultraviolet radiation and consolidate the resulting effect from a cosmetologist or dermatologist. To prevent harmful consequences, exogenous photoprotectors are used that screen light. Another group includes organic compounds that can absorb ultraviolet rays.
